I just moved because my husband got transfered. I was happy where i was living, i had my job and my friends and it is a safe and beautiful city. Now I live in a bigger city, more dangerous, i dont know anybody and i feel very depressed. I know that i should support my husband but i really want to go back. So, I have to decide between my marriage and the place where I want to live. We have been married four years, we dont have kids because he doesnt want any YET, he has is own daughter. I dont know if I should forget about everthing over there and start over here just for my husband even tho I wont be happy as I used to be. HelP!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-16 11:27:40 · 18 answers · asked by Sofy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your missing the only thing you know which was back home ad how it made you feel thats understandable but i wouldn't be so drastic as to divorce your husband over this.
Things will always change in ones life nothing stays ever the same it would be boring besides. You need change and growth. take this time as an opportunitie to check out what the new city offers. Find a place you can thrive in what ever it is that your good at. Get involved in something you will enjoy.
Doesn't matter where you live on earth you can make home where ever you two are. He's trying to make more money for you two in life and so his company offered him a start someplace else. I'm sure he feels strange there too and has left his friends and what he knows behind this is a good time for you both to get closer and work on making friends or picking up a sport or the great outdoors. with a bigger city im sure there will be more theatre shows and shopping and other things to do.
Be adventurous a bit. Hang in there give it another year things will come around for you. its all new and strange to you now. but certainly dont' leave your husband over this.
Good luck you can do this you just need some reassurance thats all.
2007-12-16 15:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I moved to another state earlier this year with my husband and son I gave up every thing to move I had my family and friends down south and now I am living in a remote area with no one I know I know where you are coming from in the first few months of moving I cried and I was sooo depressed and I was ready to leave my husband over it but I chose to stay and now I am very happy we will be moving on again soon to settle down in western Australia which is even further away.
Your family and friends are only a phone call away so try and keep in touch as much as you can.
Get out and do things in the city to take your mind off things or go back to your home town and stay with your friends for a week and see where your heart really belongs.
I hope all works out for you and I'm sure it will just hang in there and if all else fails go back home.
All the best.
2007-12-16 13:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get OUT and do things? If you are not working there, but want to, maybe consider a job? Even a part time job?
Join a gym... join a women's group, or take a class -- art, karate, etc.....
I can't imagine a person leaving their husband because of moving. Apparently you agreed to move previous to doing so?
If you are sitting home, doing nothing, and not making an effort to have a LIFE for YOUrself, it's a shame....
I suppose if you've already tried making friends and getting out, and still feel lonely, then move.
2007-12-16 12:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you and your husband live before you got married? Did you move to a new place then? You need to make new friends and stop the pity party. You can always go back to visit old friends. Join a volunteer group, PTA, something. Get a job. Do something to fulfill your life with something positive and start trying to find friends.
2007-12-16 12:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bill P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the question. Choose between your husband a the place you live? If you really have to ask this question there is something seriously wrong with your marriage. Talk to your husband and maybe you need to get counseling.
2007-12-16 11:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jaclyn&Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 10:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that in your marriage you are the only one who keeps giving. It's time to stop. A marriage will never be successful if only one person gives and keeps giving and another just receives but doesn't give anything back. It's time to two of you to sit down and have a serious conversation. A marriage is about compromising. And he needs to make some compromises too.
2007-12-16 11:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just explore the new city and get a job you know you like ad make friends start over again there is no reason to live your man because you moved just think of it as trying something new
2007-12-16 11:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by maryjane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just moved, give it sometime. If you are willing to just forget about your marriage because of relocation, it sounds like you were looking for an easy way out and the marriage is not what you want.
2007-12-16 11:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by h Burke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i think that u can solve this by joining any club/ activity club which u like, this way u can meet new friends. in my opinion u should not break ur marriage over a new place. new things can come and go we can adopt to it but ur been married for 4 years u should not let it go down the drain. hope this tips helps u
2007-12-16 11:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by radhika 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋