This is a very long and sad story it could have been beautiful but my husband didn't help me when he could! Long story short after 2 yrs together I sold my house from a previous marriage. I spent the money on getting my husband legalized because he worked under fake ids for government and i didn't agree plus we just had a baby. Well i buy him a car so we can work and go towo seperate directions. After a yr and a half of him staying at home and me working he gets his greencard and ss card I pretty much straighten his life out which i wanted 2 do because i love him and we have a baby together. Well he works only one week and leaves me then a month later goes into the military.When he is gone i go with the police to his family members house and get my truck it is in his name but i bought it for him to work and give money to the family not leave me and ride around in. If that was the case i never would have bought it as i already have a car. Well he comes back we meet to talk sleep togethe
2007-12-16 13:13:48 · 8 answers · asked by poo~poo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he buys me clothes and takes me to dinner again i send him a text message lets slow down about a divorce. He doesn't call for a wek Then i see where he gets his military bonus 7,000 i call and ask for some as i just had major surgery and disabilty isn't enough especially since he cancelled our daughters insurance & i have to pay 63 a week on her to keep her covered through my work. I pay this from 150 disability check. He doesn't remeber all the money of mine he spent and now that i'm struggling doesn't help me. We are seperated but not legally i'm so discusted he can do this i don't even have presents for his daughter or my daughter. He made the remark now that i have money for another car you want to take part of that too. Well he of course hasn't given me the title to the truck i payed for so i don't really own it untill a judge decides. And besides th emoney for the truck i had before our marriage and it had a purpose for him to work not get a job and leave.
2007-12-16 13:20:04 · update #1
His military money he couldn't have even had without marrying me as he is a foreigner and i'm american so the marriage allowed him the money marriage is 50 50 but in my case i really feel entitled. I did so much for him. i don't think this is fair at all he said he was going to the bank to draw t all out monday This money was only for basic training and ait thats how far he has got so far.
2007-12-16 13:22:42 · update #2
he is in reseves and is done with ait and basic and he was sending me bah when the srgt was telling him but now that he's back in town he has no srgt to yell at him and make him send me money and thats why he cancelled his daughters insurance rite before he left ait to come home he cancelled it the day before he has nobody rite over him since he is at home and staying with his brother.
2007-12-16 13:41:14 · update #3
Well ain't nothing worst than a deadbeat immigrant. the only way you are going to get part of that money is going to court and divorcing that ************. Otherwise you guys will be fighting forever about the stuff you bought him. but if there is any way you could find proof that you paid for the car you are going to be ok b/c he isn't really doing anything for you and your daughter. And as far as canceling your daughter insurance what the ****!!!! Its ******* free if he puts her on his insurance. get a lawyer and go to court. Good Luck!
2007-12-16 13:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Wasting my time 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure how it works with the reserves, but if you have a military ID you should go on post if you live near one and talk to the JAG office. If he is getting BAH for being married but the two of you are not together, he can get in a lot of trouble for ripping off the government. But the JAG office should be able to help you with your problems and direct you in the steps you should take next. And talk to the about your daughter not having insurance I believe there is still a Tricare program for reserves and their family, I'm not 100% seeing how my husband is active duty, but there should be.
2007-12-16 18:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What branch is he in. My husband is army and the way that I understand it is that 1st he has to have his daughter under his insurance. He can get in trouble with the military for neglect if he doesn't. Also if the military know he is married then he should be getting extra pay on his check and he will also get housing allowance. If you two are not together and he is getting the extra money then he is suppose to give it to you. As far as you getting part of his bonus I am not sure. Do you have anyway of contacting is commander? If you do I would call and tell them whats going on and see if they will help you.
2007-12-16 13:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Live and learn...
DO NOT give a man money or support him.. if he can't support himself, move ON.
Instead of worrying about his $7,000 do what you can to improve your life without his help... he's been a leech and a parasite all this time.... yes, he could give you money to help out, but he didn't.
i'm sorry you're having a rough time financially. i know what that's like, believe me....
You are obsessing over things which are done and overwith. The future is what to look toward now... it's something you DO have control over!
take care.
2007-12-16 13:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The military will garnish his pay for support after you divorce.
Contact an attorney with experience in military matters to try to get part of his bonus.
2007-12-16 13:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're still married, then both of you are to share - not only the money, but the expenses as well. He should also be helping with your child. Sounds like a dead-beat!
2007-12-16 13:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by GJax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something you can do!
Listen to the lady above me.
Contact his commander.
2007-12-16 13:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Whatever! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait till he dies...you may get it in benefits...in the mean time don't be so greedy.
2007-12-16 13:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by G S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋