Marriage & Divorce - 16 December 2007

My husband told me he wants me gone when he returns from Iraq. Active army soldier is he.

I have 1 small child and we have been together for 7 years.
Any ladies find themselves in similiar scenario?
And what did the judge award you?

Im trying to see if I might be stuck on my own with my child.
Or if he will be forced totake care of me and our child while I go back to school.

2007-12-16 16:39:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I take advice from my brother who is a Preacher He is 26, and very successiful , i also listen to my mother. who is a saint. My girl friend whom i have been dating for ayear She gets very angry and say's i need to grow up and make decisions on my own. And not be influenced by other peoples thoughts. she's 21 I'm 25 should i argue back or listen to my elders about marriage and family or should i grow more hair on my chest and bite the bullett. And admitt it. I don't want to be a failure. Divorce is high in america. what should i do.

2007-12-16 16:21:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married to him when in univewrsity. at first things were going well but now he use to have affairs with other women and even bring them to the room we share. We have a son too and it is really maddening when I find out. for times i have tried to leave him but it is really hard becoz he threatrens and abuses me. he even threatens my family if I leave Him. Agaist all odds he wants me to stay on with him. if I do the slightest mistake he will bash me up to the point of killing me. When I say mistakes I mean doing laundry, washing clothes and stuff like that. when I try to go on a strike after he hits me , he will continue hitting me so badly. I really, really hate him but if I run away from him he will hunt me down. what do I do? I need advice on whats best for me to do that will change him or get rid of him from my life. I am really confused if he is the one for me.

2007-12-16 16:18:35 · 14 answers · asked by Emily J 1

I want to find the person that is correct for me. I do not go to bars, I dont party. I work very hard and alot of hours. I do not go to church and i do not want to go online to meet someone. How in the world do you meet new people.

2007-12-16 16:13:04 · 42 answers · asked by bigbifffrombuffalo 1

ever since my brother moved back home there has been lots of trouble. He hasn't been obeying rules stays up to after six AM watching movies when originally bed time is 3 AM. My Mom yelled at him for having the TV on all night. the next day Everyone talked about the problem to my Dad. He didn't say much My Mom set rules for my Brother But you know what happened he Took my Brothers side instead of My Moms! the first time my brother moved out was because he kept saying they were getting a Divorce and it almost happened. I don't want this happening So I have got to find a way to get him out of the House. any help will be Appreciated.

Did I mention he's in his forties and a Jehova!

2007-12-16 16:12:03 · 16 answers · asked by helgasrevolution 2

I need to change who I am or my marriage won't last through the Holiday. I can't help but become a total ***** when the Hubby tells me NO. I start the fights over it, it's all my fault and It happens on a regular basis. I have two kids one with him and my oldest by another. I can't live like this. I don't have the heart to leave him because I love him and want to be with him.
Any tips? Do I need medication? How can I be happy?

2007-12-16 16:11:00 · 14 answers · asked by medevilqueen 4

We've been together 4 yrs and engaged two of those years. Why would he get engaged if he wasn't happy? He bought a house next door soon after we got engaged and rented it out to a family he knows. They are heavy partyers and drinkers and he started hanging out there all the time. he doesn't want to do anything but stay there for over a yr. He doesn't do anything around HIS house. I asked why. He said it's because he doesn't care about this house anymore. I then asked why he is always next door. He said it's because he's done and hasn't been happy with me since we've been together. I am very hurt and have alot of questions. Like why did he get engaged in the first place? Also, things got bad when THEY moved in next door. I asked him to go to couseling. He said no. He's done and I don't get that it's over and couseling won't help because there is nothing there anymore and he doesn't want to talk. He then left to go next door and then came home soon after. Why did we get enaged then?

2007-12-16 16:10:34 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. I am 21 and he is 22. I am graduating from college next year and he works full time and also goes to school. We live together and have been for the past 2 years. Today I was talking to my sister, who recently got married at the age of 30, and she said that we (my boyfriend and I) are too young to get married. I disagree and we actually got into a huge argument over it (She said that 'people change' and that 'who knows if you guys will be together in the future' and 'your idea of marriage is totally off' and 'the reason you get married is to have children and you don't want children soon so why get married?' etc). So, I was just wondering how everyone else feels? (so, think of it like this- if you were invited to a couple's wedding who were 21 and 22 would you think that it was 'wrong' or 'stupid' of them to get married 'so young'?)

2007-12-16 15:58:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are the traits of a cheating husband .. who tries desperately to hide his cheating from his wife ?

2007-12-16 15:51:22 · 12 answers · asked by Tara 7

2007-12-16 15:48:21 · 34 answers · asked by nightplay205 1

Is the ritual religious or secular needed in order for commitment to exist? Why do you think so? Is it a legal or a sky monster (god) thing?

Personally, I was raised in a Christian home, but rejected the religion when the higher reasoning skills of my adulthood kicked in. I also find law to be entirely arbitrary and while both law and religion have laid an interesting guideline out for life, neither are something to live by entirely. The marriage ritual has little meaning to me. The only argument I ever heard that made any sense was one that involved peer pressure and the need to make a commitment public, but again, I'm a tad antisocial, as in I make my own rules, and would love a reasonable answer.

I am getting married though because I can sacrifice a single day for my family's happiness. I don't see how it makes a commitment though, that's already made! Do tell if you can.

2007-12-16 15:42:57 · 4 answers · asked by some female 5

I mean personal possesions, I'm not talking property or money.

2007-12-16 15:40:05 · 21 answers · asked by Da Man 1

2007-12-16 15:29:20 · 19 answers · asked by mintman123 4

...to go on and on about how their husband/boyfriend/fiance treats THEM so wrong. No attention. No apologizing. He doesn't make enough money. He doesn't pay his child support.
What does the man complain about? No sex. That's it. I'm sure he has MANY more things he could complain about, but he don't. Why is that?

2007-12-16 15:07:34 · 22 answers · asked by primalclaws1974 6

she hugged this guy infront of me and i noticed she glanced at me while doing so is this a good thing. She ignores me all the time were not even friends yet she is 18
she has called me cute before

i ignore her to b/c im nervous she is not shy at all she is a party type

She also sometimes looks me in the eyes when i walk by her

2007-12-16 15:05:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

We need your opinions again.

There is a husband & wife.

The husband does some things which are really crappy to his wife.

The wife's life is all about the husband .. and does everything for him .. and to make him happy.

The husband is basically a good man .. but just does unfair & crappy things to his wife.

The wife finds the crappy things out.

The wife confronts the husband with what he has done.

The husband just gets mad - and starts saying something petty about his wife .. trying to get off the subject of what he has done.

The husband just gets mad.

He will not treat the wife nice about the crapy things he has done to her .. he shows no remorse.

What do you think when a husband treats his wife this way - when he is the one who is in the wrong by treating his wife wrong ... and just gets mad at her when she tells him about what he has done to her. He knows he did it - there is not doubt.

He is just defensive & mad.

What do you think?

2007-12-16 14:58:07 · 14 answers · asked by Tara 7

4 years is verbally abusive she is crazy and sometimes throws things at me she is always angry and miserable and always accusing me of cheating for no reason. I love her so much and have never cheated on her never given her any reason to even think that. I don't know what to do. We fight all the time she keeps telling me thing will get better I'm so good to her do anything for her. Why is she treating me like this? We recently had a fight she couldn't control her temper. I moved out Its been almost 3 weeks.She has tried to get me back but I'm sick of it. She said she would to get help and we don't have to get back right away. I'm so mad I have not answered her phone calls. What should I do? enough reason to move on. I'm so miserable with her but I do love her and our child

2007-12-16 14:57:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-16 14:48:18 · 17 answers · asked by Femme B 1

My husband says that I will we 85 years old running behind him with a can holding a bottle of little blue pills. LoL. Do you think that you will love them just as much as you do now when you are old and gray?

2007-12-16 14:30:41 · 15 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6

We went over to our friends' house tonight for dinner. My husband and this guy have been "friends" for over 10 years. I went inside to get something to drink (everyone else was outside) and the friend followed me in the house. He cornered me at the refrigerator, told me that he thought about me all of the time and then he kissed me. I didn't kiss him back and I pushed him away immediately. But, it freaked me the hell out. I mean, I am married and I don't cheat on my husband! And, he is also married and his wife and kids were outside with my husband and my kids. I didn't know what to say, so I just ran outside. I told my husband about 15 minutes later that I didn't feel good and was ready to go home. I didn't tell him what his friend said or did. I don't know if I should tell him or just let it go. We spend a lot of time with these people. What do I do?

By the way, there was no alcohol involved. He knew exactly what he was doing when he kissed me.

2007-12-16 14:29:36 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am going to tell my husband I want a divorce and I know he is not going to accept it. He gets angry very easily and I am not sure how to go about doing it. He does not get physical, just verbal. We have 3 children ages 10, 13, & 17 and I have been trying to wait until after Christmas. It is getting harder to do. He knows our marriage is in trouble (I have told him, just not said the "D" word). I am done and am ready to start over with my children and have a happy home with just myself and them. He causes them to cry several times a week for simple things, ignores us, pays attention when he feels like it, and more. Please do not lecture about counseling etc. I only want advice on: A: waiting til after Christmas (which I think I should do for the sake of the children), and B: how do I tell him? In a resteraunt where he can't blow up, at home alone, or somewhere with someone present? Also, I don't have money to go to a lawyer to serve him with papers. Help?!

2007-12-16 14:24:54 · 32 answers · asked by wildrosepetal 1

My wife says **** not sexually attracted to me anymore. We have a daughter together. We started out having sex witho out any meds. Then I went to the doctor and he gave the meds needed to stay hard. But here five years later shes ready to go.

2007-12-16 14:22:28 · 13 answers · asked by "RAW" 1

my wife is a stay at home mom of a 12 yr old.i work 5 days a week pay all the bills & she gets $700 a month for spending money for her self i buy everything else food included.she says thats not enough for her.i come home do just about all the cooking & cleaning up after dinner. i do the grocery shopping & keep the other daily things in the house. she stays up late every nite so i go to bed alone every nite.she goes where she wants when she wants.sometimes till late at nite 1 to 2 am.is this a normal marrage & if not what should a wifes responsabiltys be for a stay at home mom??

2007-12-16 14:19:37 · 18 answers · asked by wayne 1

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2007-12-16 14:18:42 · 16 answers · asked by kazz55 5

been seperated from my wife for 9 months. Been trying like hell to save our marriage.She's had a boyfriend for a few months,no big deal.She"s cheated on me a few times in our 8 year marriage.Last time we talked she said she needed to divorce if we ever have a chance to get back together. Huh? I figure if we get divorce,then we're done for good.I dont understand her way of thinking.What to do people?

2007-12-16 14:15:51 · 21 answers · asked by flipper 2

Does child support have to be paid if you have split custody?

2007-12-16 14:12:00 · 15 answers · asked by Raqi Killer 2

I am engaged to a wonderful man. We have been engaged for four years. We haven't gotten married yet because we have had family problems. I have been thinking about our relationship and realized that there are some second thoughts. I love him with all my heart. How do I know if this is right?

2007-12-16 14:11:24 · 15 answers · asked by Paige M 1

I'm in the state of Oklahoma.

2007-12-16 14:10:27 · 17 answers · asked by atchison5_07 1

Instead of spending months or even years getting to know someone, would do you think of the idea of telling each other their flaws, annoyances, things that he/she may not like about you, things that others have said they don't like...the truth so they know now instead of finding out later. At least you were honest to begin with?

Say, I want to tell guys that I am moody especially around the winter time, short tempered, gets jealous, selfish when it comes to love, and that I have a bald spot on the back of my head? If he still wants to be with me, then great! Whadda you think?

2007-12-16 13:40:28 · 22 answers · asked by ? 1

he just went to his room and left his computer here. I just had a feeling to see it. I have been married to him for 32 years, and have 5 kids. he is thinking of leaving me for his friends daughter what should i do, oh my god i am in shock wat shuld i do now?

2007-12-16 13:38:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous