Should a deceased parent's possesions be kept by the remarried spouse or be handed over to the adult child?

Question

I mean personal possesions, I'm not talking property or money.

Answer 1

Whether they should be or not was left up to the decision your father made if he did not make it known that his belongings should be given to you at the event of his death. Be nice to your dad's spouse and she may give you his personal belongings. My step-father was killed in a car accident. There was no will, but my mom still gave his children his personal belongings. It may take a while because his wife will be grieving, and it takes time to go through things and get them to the children.

My husband died unexpectedly, and the very same thing happened with no will. I became the executor and divided the personal belongings plus gave them back their family home and business. Please be patient, as it is really hard to go through all of this after a death.

Answer 2

Did they get remarried that fast? I would want a few of the mementos from my parents (mother or father). The new step-whatever should also allow this to take place for the children without interference. These keepsakes mean nothing to the new person in the family and I would respectfully request specific items that reminds you of your loved one at has passed on.

I have a similar situation, only involving my Aunt. My real uncle pasted away over 30 years ago and my aunt didn't want to be alone. This @*%) that she married won't let any of us have some of my aunts personal items and right now we are scheduled to go to court on Feb 10th. He is 84 and I do have time on my side on this one.

Good Luck

Answer 3

If the remarried spouse was still with and loving the deceased parent before they died, then some of the personal things should go to the spouse and some to the child. if they were already seperated then to the child.

Answer 4

you does not be responsible for the arrears, although they'd lien his sources for the quantity owed. Edit: all and sundry of those people shop harping on the quantity going to the discern, not the toddler. They fail to attain that even with the age of the youngsters, arrears do circulate to the custodial discern in the event that they are owed. The poster became into only pointing out that the youngsters have been now adults, she did not say the money became into going to the person infants. As in her ex became right into a dull beat for virtually a decade previous his teenagers being grown and long previous.

Answer 5

To the adult child. I was in the same situation...had some jewellry from my ex spouses mother..she died....I gave it back to my ex to keep for our daughter since it was his side of the family so it should stay there. I would not feel right keeping it under those conditions.

Answer 6

I think it should be talked about. Some of the children might have things that they want and other things they dont care about, same with the spouse. Certain things have different meaning to different people. Dont just give everything to one person, it should be split up.

Answer 7

If the adult child wants those possessions then I think he/she should have them!
I mean wouldn't the step-parent want their things going to their OWN children when THEY pass away? I would think they would. Some possessions have more of a "history" and sentimental value with original family members.

Answer 8

In my opinion if the other spouse remarried it should go to the adult child.

Answer 9

in an ideal world ya'll should be able to get what was most important to each of you, but this isn't a perfect world. the child should be first to choose after all the child has known the deceased longest! The hurt is most likely more.

Answer 10

I believe some should be. When my mother died, I fought her husband for a couple of photo albums that had pics of my brother and I when we were kids (YEARS before he evenn met my mother), but he wouldn't give them up. Talk to the spouse. Explain what you would like and why. Maybe he/she will be reasonable and understanding.