My parents are on a verge of a Divorce what should I Do?

Question

ever since my brother moved back home there has been lots of trouble. He hasn't been obeying rules stays up to after six AM watching movies when originally bed time is 3 AM. My Mom yelled at him for having the TV on all night. the next day Everyone talked about the problem to my Dad. He didn't say much My Mom set rules for my Brother But you know what happened he Took my Brothers side instead of My Moms! the first time my brother moved out was because he kept saying they were getting a Divorce and it almost happened. I don't want this happening So I have got to find a way to get him out of the House. any help will be Appreciated.

Did I mention he's in his forties and a Jehova!

He goes into other persons room and borrows stuff without asking plus he talks loud even when he knows people are sleeping and he took my Moms bed on Her and she has to sleep on a Couch!

Answer 1

"Jehovah" is the personal name of Almighty God, the Sovereign of the Universe, the Creator. "Jehovah" translates the Hebrew Tetragrammaton into English, and is to be used with reverence and respect. An adherent among Jehovah's Witnesses is most certainly not "a Jehovah" but rather is "a Witness".
...(Deuteronomy 6:4) Jehovah our God is one Jehovah


Interestingly, Jehovah's Witnesses' own statistics count about 1 million active Witnesses in the United States, but about 2 million associate themselves by meeting attendance. Secular surveys generally note that about 1% (or 3 million) Americans identify themselves with Jehovah's Witnesses. In summary:
...1 million practice
...2 million attend
...3 million identify

Clearly, there are many who identify themselves as Jehovah's Witnesses while having little or no formal connection with the religion. This questioner is to be commended for seeking information about Jehovah's Witness beliefs, but should be cautioned that such information may be of limited use in understanding a family which is only tangentially committed to the faith.

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http://watchtower.org/e/20050508/article_01.htm
http://jw-media.org/beliefs/membership.htm
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http://watchtower.org/e/20060401/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/rq/index.htm?article=article_08.htm

Answer 2

If you don't want your parents to get a divorce, my advice is to have the whole family go into counseling.

Your brother seems to be a master manipulator and rebel without a cause. Maybe a counselor can help your parents learn not to react to his childishness. Once it isn't any fun to try to destroy your parents, Mr. Happiness will probably move on to someone else to torture.

In family therapy your brother might even come to learn that some of these difficulties are issues he hasn't dealt with and are coming back to make everyone miserable. However, that might be a long shot but worth a chance.

Good luck!

Addition: Your brother sounds like he might either just be a bully or he has some mental illness. My first guess is bi-polar disorder or he has some sort of chemical dependency. If you can somehow get him diagnosed he could get on meds and therapy that could help him normalize and get back out on his own and leave you guys in peace. Until he stops taking his meds, that is.

Answer 3

Listen, my parents are divorced and your probably know a host of other people whose parents are no longer together either. I know at first it hurts, but in some families, divorce is for the best. The thing to remember is, this is your parents business and you have nothing to do with their seperation. Prepare yourself for whats to come. If your close with mom and dad make arrangements and agreements with them to see them both as often as possible. Having some sort of control in when you get to see them will put everyone much more at ease including yourself. Not only that, but your parents will be happy as long as you are. Things will be awkward and forgein to you for awhile, trust me, it takes some getting used to. Its always sad to see a marriage break, but remember too that everything happens for a reason. Try contacting some family. They are your support system and Im sure they'll be willing to talk to you if you want. Also, maybe try talking with some friends. Your not the only child whose parents divorced. In fact, today it seems like it happens more than not. If you talk with someone who can relate, you'll find better ways to cope plus you'll feel better just getting to vent. Theres no say in how you will handle all this. For some kids its excruciatingly hard. If you find yourself in that position now or even after the divorce, your school guidance counselor is always an option for these types of things. Whatever you do, dont get down on yourself. Maybe even try talking with your parents as well. I know you might be a little disappointed in them right now, but its important to keep a tight relationship with them even through these times.

Answer 4

If he took your moms bed and she has to sleep on the couch, where is dad? Sounds like your parents were having problems before the brother moved home. And if he is 40, why should he have a bedtime? How old are you? You probly both need to move out. Maybe the stress of you two sponge kids are driving your parents apart.

Answer 5

If your parents are on the verge of divorce, there isn't really much you can do--the issue are probably deep rooted, and go beyond your brother (he may be adding stress, but is not the cause). You have to remember, your parents history together goes back before you were born. Whatever issues are affecting their relationship are between them alone. Just take solice in the fact that you love them both and they love you, whatever happens. Live your life, be the best you can be, that in and of itself is a help. Also be aware how this affects you emotionally, perhaps it would help to talk to someone knowledgable (a counselor) about it.

Answer 6

I am so sorry that things are not well between your Mom and Dad! You know that this is between them and has very little to do with your brother. Yes, I am sure he aggravates this situation and it is NOT right that your Mom is made to sleep on the couch! Just not respectful at all from your Dad and brother!!

I cannot tell you what to do! I will suggest that you pray to God for guidance in this situation. I too, will join you in prayer for this situation and ask for God's will to be done!

God Bles You!
gail..e-mail me if you want too

Answer 7

i know what its like to go through things like this. my parents got a divorce, and at first I was very negative about it and I did many stupid things to prevent it, which obviously did not work. i think that you have to think about your parents, and if they dont love each other why will they be together? its better to have them get a divorce than to hear them argue day after day after day and seeing them miserable. Sometimes a divorce can really be, as they say, "for the best". just because they get a divorce, does not mean they dont love you. they do, they are after all your parents. just be strong and hang in there. everything will be okay :)

Answer 8

you really don't have a choice. you will have to stand by and watch. if you interfear then they might all turn on you. just go to your room and try to drown them out as best you can. if your parents do get a divorce then stick with mom. then your brother would have no choice but to stay out of you and your moms life.

Answer 9

Your mother is allowing him to run over everyone in the house. Hand him a stack of Watchtower tracts and once he gets on his way to aggravate a lot of innocent families, change the locks.

Answer 10

who cares what his age and religion is. They arent getting a divorce over your brother. They have their own issues.
Sounds like you live theer too. You must be an adult too. Are you leaving?