My wife says **** not sexually attracted to me anymore. We have a daughter together. We started out having sex witho out any meds. Then I went to the doctor and he gave the meds needed to stay hard. But here five years later shes ready to go.
2007-12-16 14:22:28 · 13 answers · asked by "RAW" 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie I'm so sorry........
....is it because of a medical condition? (hypertension, diabetes) or medication you need to take..........
If she truely loved you she'd stick by you.......there are so many ways to express love on an intimate level.....sounds like she's using it as an excuse...let her go, you deserve someone so much better than that...just be there for your little girl.....Good Luck, Hon.
2007-12-16 14:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The health issue you have is not unusual, you are certainly not alone. It is very sad to think that anyone would leave a spouse
due to a medical issue....especially one for which they do have
medicine and other forms of help to overcome.
Many diabetics, for example, face this type of sexual dysfunction, so you know it is not a rare situation. It just sounds like such a cruel excuse for leaving someone.
You mention you have a daughter together; I hope she has considered what breaking up your marriage will do to this
child.
As for you, I can only imagine how hurt and let down you must feel right now. You sign yourself "Raw" and I assumed it is
because of the pain you are in.
If she does leave and does not rethink her reasoning and return, just remember there are many other women "out there" who would love to have a man who truly loves and cares for them.
There are many women who love men with medical conditions, no matter what it may be....and are glad to work with him in living and enjoying the best shared life they can....
So no matter what she does, do not give up on you. Please
do not allow a health issue to impact on your self esteem; it does not make you any less a man for needing this type of medical help.....any more than it makes a woman any less a woman if she needs hormonal therapy.......it is just one aspect of the needs and requirements of the human body.
If she goes (you write that she is ready to go), just do whatever you must to take good care of yourself and your daughter. If you find yourself getting too discouraged or
depressed, you might seek some counsel with a minister
or counselor.
Remember there are many programs for single parents,
divorced adults, etc.....groups that make it somewhat
easier to find another caring person who wishes to be
in a loving relationship.
What may appear as the end for you right now, may prove
in the future to be the beginning at some point of a new
and far happier relationship.
I wish you well....
Doris
2007-12-16 14:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Doris L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are using medications to make up for your impotence, it's probably not that. That's probably just one of the many things that have lead to your wife wanting to leave you, like the straw that broke the camels back. I doubt very much that the only reason your wife is leaving you is because your penis doesn't work. That might be all she is willing to communicate with you or all you are hearing, but that's probably not it and any reasonable judge, man or woman, is not going to accept such a shallow explanation. What you need to do is try to open the doors of communication rather than sitting on the computer bitter about the fact that your penis is limp and your wife is leaving you.
2007-12-16 14:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok Just because u can "stay hard" doesn't mean u r sexually attratrive to her, anymore. Try getting a new hair style, workout, or something like that. If she still doesn't feel anything then shes not worth it. However u need to remind her of her daughter and of a few vows that she made before she decides to go. After all the daughter doesn't deserve that. And there r a few words she does need to remember "Till death do us part"!
2007-12-16 14:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by caboose989 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this is happening to you. It sounds like you will be happier without her. There are plenty of women out there who wouldn't let this destroy a marriage. Find yourself a good woman and enjoy a healthy relationship!
2007-12-16 14:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by India 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a selfish woman especially considering that there is a daughter involved, get a lawyer (female perferabally so not to get screwed over) and take her to court, and let her tell the judge the reason she wants a divorce, he will cut her down
2007-12-16 14:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by DJ M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is supposed to be unconditional. If she had a problem, would you leave her? If she won't stick by you and offer to help you, maybe you would be better off without her.
2007-12-16 14:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by M.J. 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Any spouse who would abandon you
due to sexual problems isn't worth
keeping. Sex is only one aspect of marriage.
As a couple you could use vibrators etc.
to meet her needs. She sounds
immature & uncaring.
2007-12-16 14:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ski Freedom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say, but if she can't accept you the way you are, she's not worth it.
2007-12-16 14:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first two answers you were given. Tell her to go.
2007-12-16 14:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋