2007-12-16 14:48:18 · 17 answers · asked by Femme B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mom stayed in an unhappy and unhealthy marriage for the sake of my brother and I. When I was 16 I finally told her I would be much happier if they divorced. It is incredibly stressful for the kids to hear their parents fight all the time. Think about what your kids think marriage is all about. They are learning how to be a spouse by the example they see everyday. I don't say this to make you feel bad. You sound like you're trying to be a good mom. I just think staying in a miserable marriage is not the best way to achieve that goal. Divorce is very difficult for everyone. Reassure your kids that both mom and dad will always love them. Talk to their teachers to watch for signs that the kids aren't handling the transition well. Counseling works wonders in helping the kids understand and adjust. It will also help you through the changes. If you can't afford counseling, there are always assistance/ free counseling programs. You just have to find the help.
2007-12-16 15:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by India 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No benefits. Why would there be benefits for your children if there are no benefits for you? Why do people assume children would benefit from unhappiness? Just because most children cannot express their true feelings doesn't mean they aren't feeling the same things as you. They just aren't mature enough to say anything or even realize what they are thinking or why. We don't give kids enough credit. Get out why they are younger and you can give them more of a stable life that they can have routine and be free of any arguements or unhappiness. They will soon adapt and learn to live life seperate and will be better off in the long run.
2007-12-16 22:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello there aren't any you just become more stressed out and what little feeling and respect you had for him turns to hate. And believe it or not the children will soon become miserable too because they can sense it ,so it is better only when you know there is nothing left then the both of you need to talk to the children and explain it to them. And you can;t be the best mom you want to be when you are unhappy some times the babies are sad but as soon as they know their father will still be in their lives it turns out ok just takes a little adjustment. I don't know how happy your holidays will be but I do wish peace of mind for you hon.
2007-12-16 23:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is hard on everyone, the two of you and your kids. I think first you may want to find out why your miserable if you don't already know. It may be something the two of you can work on. I would suggest counseling to try to resolve and understand your issues. If your differences are irreconcilable, then maybe you should leave. No matter how hard it is to break up a family, it could be more harmful to be in an environment that's hostile or unloving.
2007-12-16 22:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by doktrgroove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't have to worry about paying for the bills yourself, there's a roof over your head, you can practically do what you want in and out of the house, you have time enough for yourself when the kids are in school, you don't have to put up with all the crap from in laws, you can refuse anything that's demanded of you and you basically have a life outside of the miserable marriage - I know I do. I stay only because of the kids and nothing else.
2007-12-16 22:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honey there is no benefit. You are miserable, he is miserable and the kids know that something is not right which makes them miserable. They would much rather have happy parents than to live like that.
2007-12-16 22:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There are none, so divorce him. There's no point in staying in the marriage for the kids cuz that will make u unhappy which will result in making them unhappy!
2007-12-16 23:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no benefits! You can be with your kids anywhere AND they would be happier if they see your happier.
Don't stay for their sake, try to work things out with hubby and if nothing can rekindle that fire, let go and share custody. It won't be easy, but nothing is easy.
2007-12-16 22:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by darlin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
for you ? none . now for the kids tons . are you guys fighting in front of the kids ? do they notice how u dont get along ? if all the answers are yes not even the kids are been benefits after all ...
2007-12-16 22:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by xoxoxo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your benefits I suppose since this is a ME question. Divorce him. The kids will have less stress in the long run.
2007-12-16 22:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋