Would you leave ?? My wife of?

Question

4 years is verbally abusive she is crazy and sometimes throws things at me she is always angry and miserable and always accusing me of cheating for no reason. I love her so much and have never cheated on her never given her any reason to even think that. I don't know what to do. We fight all the time she keeps telling me thing will get better I'm so good to her do anything for her. Why is she treating me like this? We recently had a fight she couldn't control her temper. I moved out Its been almost 3 weeks.She has tried to get me back but I'm sick of it. She said she would to get help and we don't have to get back right away. I'm so mad I have not answered her phone calls. What should I do? enough reason to move on. I'm so miserable with her but I do love her and our child

Answer 1

Yes it is enough of a reason to move out. It might also what she needs to make her get the help that she needs. If you want this to work tell her that she has to get help and you will support her. Do not go back until she does it. She might be telling you that to get you back or she might really mean it. There is only one way to find out. She might have anger management issues and it sounds like she has trust issues also. Probably things from her past.

Answer 2

It does sound like you love your wife very much, and the fact that even now, with all that has transpired, you are writing this question in to ask for further input speaks of the love you feel
for her.
However, from what you have shared, she does seem to have
problems with controlling her temper and herself.
Plus you mention that you have a child---this child should not
be witness to this out of control behavior on the part of her mother, either.
I can understand that you are sick of this behavior and its
impact on you and your little one.
The only possible hopeful answer is that she does, indeed,
get help. It is possible she has emotional or mental health
problems, and these cannot be attended to until she is honest with someone who could potentially help her.
However, I suggest if she does go to a psychiatrist, you attend with her to tell your side of what has been happening
in your marriage, so that the truth is totally out in the open
regarding her behavior.
It might be worthwhile for you to tell her in no uncertain terms that she must seek counseling with you and only then would you even consider reconciliation. Please, make sure that
any counselor is well trained in mental health issues......
and be certain to be part of the counseling yourself so that
this problem can be fully addressed.
Only then will you have a chance at a happy union.

I do wish you all the best.

Doris

Answer 3

To me, it sounds like 2 separate issues.

1) Anger management.
2) Insecurity.

There may be a physiological reason behind it like some kind of depression. Since you have a child, I suggest seeing if she can be treated with meds to even her out. If not, she needs to learn some coping skills to deal with her anger and insecurity.

One thing about insecure people however is that no matter what you do or say, you can almost NEVER win and that will not likely change if she's unwilling to accept that it's her problem. My GF has been freaked about me cheating even though I never have & it makes me nuts. It's driven me away really BUT we've got no kids.

Answer 4

She could have a hormonal imbalance or a mental one. Before leaving for good both of you should attend counseling alone and together. I hate it for the both of you. For years my mother would go into rages and it was miserable...for everyone her included. She couldn't explain why...a doctor was finally able to help her. It was a hormone imbalance cause by endometreosis. I inherited it from her, Thank God I was diagnosed early and my imbalance is controlled with medicine that regulates everything. I could easily become your wife without the meds...I really hope the best for all three of you. My prayers will be with you

Answer 5

M y wife did the same thing,then I found out she;d had a boyfriend for over a year of our marriage,from our 4 yr old son.only she told me to get the f@*^k out so he coould move in.Unfortunately you have to keep in touch because of the child,especially if you want any type of custody.I strongly suggest you start Documenting any and all actions w/her and the child,go ahead anwer the phone,but write or type any and all activity,good or bad.This will be to your benefit later in court.I'm going through it right now as I;m typing this.Another way to do it is e-mail all your documentation,this way theres a "paper trail".

Answer 6

I see your reasons for wanting to make this work because u are in-love and more important u have a child together, But I wouldnt return until she seen a doctor for some help, and make sure u see that u do see positive changes in her. Then hopefully u two can work it out.... Good Luck

Answer 7

OK we all know God does not like divorce your marriage was not a mistake and I believe it is divine appointment that you were brought together. First thing is you both need to give your life and your hearts to God and live according to His will and not your own. Raise your child in a Christian environment. Rom. 8:28 says " And we know that ALL things work together for the good to those who love God, to those who were called according to His purpose." Don't give up man she needs you, you need her, the kid needs you both.

Answer 8

Its NOT going to get better. Been there, done that. I moved out twice and THIRD time was a charm. Separated for good 2001. Divorced in 2004

Answer 9

most women committed domestic violence on men everyday but the law don't see it that way, be careful if she want to set you up. some women are moody while some of them has past that torment them.it does not worth it to be with someone who don't love you.she will now use the child as a pawn to get at you. some people learn from their mistakes while some end up worst than before.

Answer 10

Tell her to get anger management before you go back,if she does this,take it slow with her{before you move back in}go on a few dates a week till you feel she's better,if no change,break the ties.SORRY,HOPE THINGS WORK OUT!!!