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There is a husband & wife.
The husband does some things which are really crappy to his wife.
The wife's life is all about the husband .. and does everything for him .. and to make him happy.
The husband is basically a good man .. but just does unfair & crappy things to his wife.
The wife finds the crappy things out.
The wife confronts the husband with what he has done.
The husband just gets mad - and starts saying something petty about his wife .. trying to get off the subject of what he has done.
The husband just gets mad.
He will not treat the wife nice about the crapy things he has done to her .. he shows no remorse.
What do you think when a husband treats his wife this way - when he is the one who is in the wrong by treating his wife wrong ... and just gets mad at her when she tells him about what he has done to her. He knows he did it - there is not doubt.
He is just defensive & mad.
What do you think?
2007-12-16 14:58:07 · 14 answers · asked by Tara 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is just acting mad to hide his wrong doing.
2007-12-16 15:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be any number of health issues. Erectile problems often point to other issues. A weak orgasm suggests testosterone issues. His prostate could be the problem here. Having lost 40 pounds should actually help but while he needed to lose that weight it could have been causing other problems. He needs to see his doctor and point out these problems. Don't think this has to do with you. When a man wants sex it rarely matters how his partner looks. He loves you. That's enough. Edit: As for age, I'm 60 and still having sex twice a week. He's still a kid in the overall view of things.
2016-05-24 07:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to the wife to make clear the rules that she wants the husband to live by and those are the rules that will allow the wife to stay with this man. If he won't change his behaviour then the wife will need to be strong and get out of the relationship. There are no victims - just volunteers!
2007-12-16 15:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is a crappy husband. What does he do to you? If it is cheating I would get rid of him. He tries to blame you when you call him out? Good men do not do crappy things to their wives over and over again. He also does not act petty and mean when he is called on his behavior.
2007-12-16 15:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be considered verbal abuse and the wife should look at the website http:yournotcrazy.com and talk to a counselor
a good book is verbal abuse surviors speak out.
It's hard to tell if this wife is in a verbally abusive relationship cause there's not a lot of info. But when a husband isn't REMORSEFUL then that's a big sign somethings wrong. Getting in a fight is normal, but usally each person feels sorry for some of the things they said. Verbal abuse is hard to identify because people don't talk about it. Most verbal abuse surviors say sometimes they wish their partner would hit them because at least they would have something to prove to themselves and others that he's abusive. This sounds like verbal abuse. If he controls money, friends, make jokes that makes his wife feel uncomfortable, put his wife down, get angry, throws objects, intimitates his wife by using physical force, won't let wife leave, threatens by using children or animals. All of these signs are signs of verbal abuse Verbal abuse is about control just like physical abuse.
Domestic women's shelters will support verbally battered women.
MY husband can be verbally abusive to me, sometimes when my husband is feeling bad about himself he puts me down so he can feel like he's in "control".
It took my two to three years to identify that my husband was threatening my mental health. Sadly, it usally gets worse not better. Don't let pastors, or family make you think you "crazy", if you know something inside isn't right.
Verbal abuse has three cycles
tension-incident- honeymoon
It might be a week or maybe a month the wife feels like she's walking on egg shells, incdient occurs, then after he tries to make up. MY husband wouldn't say he was sorry to make up, he would try to pressure me to have sex, so the husband doesn't neccessarily have to say "sorry."
After seeing a counselor, she said he was insecure. I have to set boundaries and limits by saying "stop it." Unlike some normal relatonships where the couple is just miscommunicating, verbal abuse is when he is trying to "control or hurt you" with his words. However I went to a couple of counselors who thought we were having just a little miscommunication problem, I finally found one who understands that he's minipultaing and controlling. So the wife shouldn't settle for a counselor who isn't going to step-up.
Finally, if it's not verbal abuse, the wife needs to set boundaries. A needy husband is so insecure about himself that he acts needy, so that she can "show" him she loves him. The wife has needs to, it isn't the wife's responsiblity to make him feel good about himself. He has to find it from within.
2007-12-16 16:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by msulli2366 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband cares nothing for the wife. He lies to satisfy the wife enough so that she hangs around to clean house and do his laundry.
2007-12-16 15:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I'd call this man a basically good man if he treats his wife badly.
I think she should give him an ultimatum....who wants to live with someone who treats you crappy?
I wouldn't.
2007-12-16 15:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that my girlfriend doesn't like me to point out what she has done wrong. To me or just in general, and I suppose I wouldn't either. Maybe you should stop pointing it out, and forgive the guy, or get a divorce. Ramming it down his throat isn't helping, now is it?
2007-12-16 15:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by primalclaws1974 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is without a doubt a crappy husband....
2007-12-16 15:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems like a typical guy...immature and selfish...perhaps guys like this need to be approach in a different way like asking him in a soft tone or try making him feel guilty if he did something wrong...hang in there...hope he ll change
2007-12-16 15:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋