we got the decree nisi, but then got a letter from her solicitor demanding money that just doesnt exist, he wont talk to her which makes things harder to resolve, she keeps putting on demands that we cant come to, its already been 2 and a half years since the divorce started, im beginning to think it will never go through, we are waiting to get married, we havnt got engaged yet so no-one knows just incase she finds out and makes things more difficult for us, how can we get her to realise she wont get any of her demands and just let the divoce go through?
2007-12-16 22:32:35 · 9 answers · asked by Angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they have a child together, but i also have a child with him
2007-12-16 22:40:15 · update #1
You can't make her see anything she isn't willing to see. See if you can get them and you, into some group counseling. That will give you a mediator to help work through the problems lingering from their break-up and the new problems that are involving you and the child now because they have not worked through the original problems. This relationship is more damaging to the children with all the hate they are throwing around.
2007-12-16 22:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can make happen is the fact that he and her are now involved in the usual divorce disputes! You have done your damage. In fact if you had any character you would not even be involved in this.
That said, there is nothing else you can do either. She may or may not get what whe asks for so all you can do is wait on the judge to decide.
In the mean time while you are waiting you might spend some time pondering the following facts:
1. You are getting a liar and a cheater.
2. The odds are that he will lie to and cheat on you too!
3. Although you seem to want this really badly, do you really want it when you think of what a low life you have hooked up with?
Just a little something for you to think about!
2007-12-17 09:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This divorce could become a very drawn out thing as there is a child involved with the marriage.I wish you all the best but it has taken quite some time to be finalised.Personally It more then likely will take along time until the ex wife gets the demands she is asking for.
2007-12-17 06:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by embellishment3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two routes in a divorce- the first is negotiations- the second is a hearing. In the hearing the Family Court will decided how things should be split up- if after 2.5 years your lawyer has not suggested this...get a second opinion..the longer the negotiations/settlement goes on the more that laywer makes...
2007-12-17 07:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by ozgurl6827 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do cause that woman will be in your lives untill that child is grown which is 18. so untill then you have to put up with her and she will always make demands and you two will probably not get married untill the children are grown and gone . Good luck and God bless.
2007-12-17 09:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have children together, there is probably no way that she will ever give up. He needs to try to make a settlement with her somehow.
2007-12-17 06:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There needs to be a way to compromise. If he is unwilling to talk with her about this why would you want him. Life is about compromise. Give and take.
2007-12-17 07:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only problem in the divorce that I see is the fact he has a GIRLFRIEND and another BABY.
2007-12-17 09:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by frogbfound 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still married you shouldn't be with him
2007-12-17 07:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by juju57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋