Are there really men like this out there?

Question

The ones who REALLY ARE miserable with thier wives, and they REALLY ARE stuck. and they REALLY DO wish they could dump thier wives for you? many say its an excuse, a lie,b ut arent there some situations where theyre telling the truth? if so, how do u know the difference?

Answer 1

...YES!!!...When they spend more time away from home, and
always find an excuse to be with you.

Answer 2

You asked a multi-part question.
1 - Yes, some men are miserable with their wives.
2 - No, nobody is truly "stuck" - sometimes it's inconvenient to leave, but you always have the choice.
3 - Complicated question - they CAN "dump" their wives for you. And if they really wanted to they already would have. Pick a REAL man who's not afraid to be alone for a while - you understand?
4 - No. Any man who says he's "stuck" is BS'ing you. Yes, I said ANY man.
5 - Yes, I'm a man and I've been on all sides of this crap. See #4 above - find a REAL man.

Answer 3

I think they really are men in that situation but its the exception rather than the rule. Only 10% of people who leave the marraige for their affair partner end up marrying them. Generally I think the guy is probably just telling what he thinks you want to hear.

The only man I know who had an affair and DID love the other woman, left his wife within 4 months. They have now been happily married a number of years and going strong.

Sometimes people just marry the wrong person, and then when they meet the right person, everything slots into place. If you were the right person though, then he wouldn't be messing you around, he'd be there. See my point?

Answer 4

They aren't out there!
It is only in the novels and in the movies.
In real life if a man is really all that miserable they will get out or they love to say they are miserable because then they get the cute girl and the wife. They have both a dating life and fun along with someone to keep the home fires burning and the laundry done and do all the other spousal duties.
Don't be an idiot and believe the liars that tell you these things. They are lying to the wife as well. If they cheat and lie on her with you they will cheat and lie on you with the next one as well.
Been there done that and so have some of my friends!

Answer 5

The ones who are really miserable either find a way out of this and retrieve their relationships, or they get out of the marriage properly.

The ones that are only telling you they're miserable but can't bear to leave their wives are only looking for the sympathy path into your knickers, dear. So if you want a real relationship, look for a single man.

Answer 6

There ARE men and women miserable with their mates. They are NOT stuck, there is always a way out. No one is holding a gun to their head. Usually they say they're "doing it for the kids" like the children want mommy and daddy miserable. It's safe for them to stay married and mess around. They DON'T want to leave their wives for you, because they're not doing it. They WANT their wife and a fling. They WANT their cake and eat it too.

If a person is married, STAY AWAY. You are only asking for drama, lies and heartache. If he DID want you, he would respect you enough to not stay in a relationship and tell you how he wished he could leave. They are grown adults who have choices they can make, they just don't want to make them.

Answer 7

the ones miserable are that way by choice, the ones stuck are stuck by greed and the ones that do wish to dump are feckle and not to be trusted as you would only be the flavor of the month, telling the difference easy if you leave your heart out and think with your head and use the intelligence you were given

Answer 8

Of course THERE ARE. No, it's not an excuse as long as THEY REALLY ARE miserable & not thinking their life is black & hell when THEY REALLY ARE in heaven but can't look around himself.

But 1st off, let him dump his wife for real. I.E. DIVORCE HER. & not mention "you" at all or to anyone.

Practical distant examination is how you'll know they're true. This means like watching his actions from far away pretending you're a little dumb or blind. It's not to be close & sneaky, but real careful at every chance it takes.

Answer 9

There are lots of men with genuine reason to be miserable in their marriage but cann't leave for one reason or another.
but knowning the one that is saying the truth is a bit difficult, the most important thing is not getting involve with such men, as this can affect your emotion.

Answer 10

Yes, there are men like that (and women for that matter) out there.
How do you know the difference? You don't know. But you feel the difference, which is knowing anyway.
If you want to give him/her a benefit of a doubt - do so, if you don't - it's better to believe what he/she says and go on separate ways without further misery and find a better partner for yourself, because you deserve better than misery in life.

Answer 11

(...and what about the poor wives that are miserable with their "husbands?")

It sounds like someone's telling you what you want to hear. Believe me, ALL men will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want. My ex TOLD me so, he's even done it himself! He admitted to it!

Since my divorce, I have met more married men who are "happily married/don't want to hurt their wives/their wives don't like sex anymore (in the beginning it was "GREAT").

I live on an island, and I can bet you money that probably (at least) 80% of married men cheat on their wives, and half of the others convince their wives/girlfriends to swing.