i dont feel the love i use to for my wife any more but the lady i had been / sleeping with , since 2 years. Also i dont want to divorce my wife as i know the childrens would suffer the most."THE LADY" now think its bad to keep up the relation and i should indulge in my family. I DONT WANT TO LOOSE HER AT ANY COST. She stopped talking to me 1 year back and i cant get her out of my mind still, there is no time i can stop thinking of her, my wife since a year know about the infiedility and my relation that made the lady to stop talking to me, i want "THE LADY " back. Dont want my kids to suffer as well.HELP.
2007-12-16 22:24:22 · 11 answers · asked by Man_In_Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your kids already suffer by seeing the unhappiness in your marriage... and dont think they dont know kids are not stupid... so with that why cheat? just get yourself a divorce and get on with your life how fair is all that to your wife and family to make them live like that....
2007-12-16 23:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you... you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, and even though people keep telling you to choose this or that it's F*****G hard because you're torn apart inside... counselling is possibly a good thing for you to attend to, first of all to find out what you really want, and then fight for that. If you try to put yourself into different scenarioes, living your life without your wife, but in touch with your kids, living your life with your family but without your lover, living your life the way you do now, which one makes you feel most right?
I hope you can solve this the best way possible for everyone.. including yourself. The best thing a dad can do for his children is to love their mum, but when he can't do that i believe it's better to stay away from their mum, and focus 100% on the kids when they are around rather than always focusin on domestic problems in the marriage.
Good luck to you!!
2007-12-17 00:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not pursue this, go to counseling with you and your wife, and if you find through counseling that you and your wife are not happy in your marriage, then you can come to the conclusion to end it.
Either way, the children will suffer, because of your infidelity, they are already suffering, you have to end this now, either reconcile your marriage, or end it for all of you, it is going to hurt, but if you keep this up, I do not know how long everyone will keep their heads up in the air.
Everyone is suffering, end this suffering now, the poor children are so suffering, parents can take this a lot easier than the children can, I went through the unhappiness with my parents marriage, and also the divorce, and I totally suffered.
It took me years to understand that it was the best for them to end their marriage, but it really hurt, and my sister and I both suffered.
Do this for the children, go to counseling and see if staying in your infidelious marriage is worth it, or if a divorce is better for all.
2007-12-16 22:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself! This is about you not suffering, not your kids. You don't want to lose the wife cooking for you, cleaning your house, doing your laundry and raising your kids. And you don't want to lose the sex on the side. You are being a spoiled child that wants EVERYTHING! Sometimes choices are hard and this is one of them. Be a man and either divorce your wife for the lady or forget about her and truly become a father to your kids again!
2007-12-16 22:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by jingles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The kids will suffer no matter what you do . Now you have yourself in quite a mess that you and this lady created and now nobody wants to hurt the kids . You are out of your mind and want not to hurt the kids . You need to get therapy and get yourself straightened out . I hope you know you will probably loose everyone in this mess that you have created .
2007-12-17 01:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that you have women to cook and clean as well as deal with you sexual needs. The "lady", and I use this term loosely sees the error of her ways and gone on. Perhaps use should stop whimpering about something you did so wrong and be thankful your wife and children are still by your side. In my opinion your don't deserve them.
2007-12-17 00:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way your kids will suffer. When two people live together but don't love together anymore kids know. Divorce your wife and figure out what you need to do for yourself. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
2007-12-16 23:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your kids and their mother. Keep a good peacefull family life. Colour, wealth, or even beauty will not give you a peacefull life. The other women(separated) can find any good man except you to start a new life.
This is a general view of an average Indian because we value in the srength of good family. i understand moving from one to another women/man is common in my western friends.
Thanks and good luck.
2007-12-16 22:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE LADY is right. You should be focusing on indulging all that extra attention on your family instead of poking your stick at third parties. If you have time for her you certainly have time for your family.
2007-12-16 22:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 11:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋