She considers it cheating or being unfaithful and wants nothing to do with me anymore. I am not going to do it anymore but now she isnt wanting me sexually anymore and thats causing me worse problems since im not watching porn and relieving myself its building up and she isnt here for me anymore...im frustrated...and i wont go back to it because it will only make things worse then it already is...how do i get her over this and want to be with me again...
2007-12-16 20:23:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You might try marriage counseling or you may just have to suffer for a while until she can deal with it.
2007-12-16 20:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Betty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-16 22:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come men have to make everything so difficult? If you knew that she felt this strongly about watching porn, why didn't you just NOT do it? I mean why is 'relieving yourself' so important now? I'm pretty sure you didn't do it for the first 15 years of your life, right? I think you're being a crybaby. It sounds like you are on the verge of losing your wife, and all you can talk about is how you are building up. You will get your wife back when she can trust you. So, you have to find a way to prove to her that you are willing to let this little 'issue' go. You have to not only be true to her, but to yourself as well.
2007-12-16 20:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
she is mad because she probably See's sex as something special and intimate between the two of you and you went and ruined her perception of it it by having sexual feelings and masturbating to other women on porn . explain to her that you are sorry and didn't know that porn bothered her and you will never do it again and make it up to her every chance you get give her some time she hopefully Will get over it
2007-12-17 07:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenny has a bigger problem than you just watching porn. She went way overboard with her reaction and my question is why? I'd be interested to know how your sex life was before this incident. I'm thinking that something was lacking or you wouldn't have turned to "alternative means" to keep yourself amused. Something here is seriously flawed and I think there is a serious, and I do mean SERIOUS, issue with Jenny's view of sex. Go to a marriage counsellor and get this straightened out. Jenny is trying to send out a cry to you. Ironically, I think she's trying to reach out to you but she's going about it the wrong way. She is definently hurting. However, this level of hurt doesn't come about simply because she caught her husband watching porn one time. Go to a marriage counsellor. Let her say what she needs to say.
2007-12-16 20:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by dstluke 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
My stars say you have done deeper damage to your love then just cheating,as a woman our love runs two ways ,one of them is a love that must be complete in a visual way,you have ripped that apart and I see pain and tears and wounds that may not heal,lines have been broken in you also that is why you crossed over to the hurting path and watched such heartbreaking sights,I can only send a blessing your way but as your soul is so cloudy right now it may not help,blessings to you both,you must talk to her helping heart side and in healing you from this addiction you may find your way back
2007-12-16 20:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay try and be in a female's shoes - porn to most of us is not only offensive but it creates a sense of unrealistic expectation - the woman loses confidence in being able to appear sexy to her partner, feels conscious of her body and eventually leads to the lack of desire for sex.
The women in those things will do things that not alot of woman are willing to do! Therefore your partner would be thinking that she either has to do those kind of things whether she wants to or not, and risk losing you if she doesn't.
The women in those things are, in most cases, quite beautiful/sexy, which means your partner would feel inadequate in comparison.
There are alot of reasons why most woman don't like the idea of her man watching porn. But you guys don't see things this way, which is really unfortunate.
2007-12-16 20:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
she won't have sex with you because she is wondering if you are thinking about all of these porn women instead of her...
I don't blame her... when I found out my ex fiancee' was addicted to porn, I dumped him...
she needs time, and if you resort back to the porn while she is healing from the hurt of this crap she will divorce you, if she is anything like me...
2007-12-16 22:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women who don't "get it" that men sometimes look at porn don't live in the real world... i suppose she doesn't realize it's normal for men to look at porn from time to time.
However, if this is a daily habit of yours, then you might have a sexual addiction. I don't know you didn't mention it.
And if you are having troubles with your sex life in the first place, well, this is a good excuse for her to cut you off completely.
Looks like it's time for some marriage counseling, or to take some measures to see if your wife and you are still compatible and if the marriage can be saved.
take care
2007-12-16 20:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I understand her point. She probably felt inadequate because of what you did. You need to plead with her for her forgiveness and prove to her you aren't looking at porn any more.
2007-12-16 22:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋