As you may know from my previous questions, I am been dumpd by my husband who wants me out of the house when he comes back.
Im accused of adultery by his sisters who just hate me, and hes stupid enough to believe them, even though I have done everything for him for 7 years.
My dont have any clothes that fit me anymore, sad to say.
I always thought it better to spend on the house and him and our child now.
We have a shared account with about 35,000
If I went on a spending spree to buy the things I have gone without all these years, would it look bad to the judge when we finally get a divorce?
Im tempted to go out and buy a new wardrobe because Im going to have to start looking for a job.
And since we have 2 cars, one with a payment of $450 I know hes going to want to keep his precious truck and sttick me with the SUV payments.
So Im thinking of paying off the entire $12000 left on the SUV.
This way the judge wil se we have 2 cars and split them down the middle
2007-12-16 17:54:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
technically no one has filed for divorce yet.
he wants one when he gets back.
Which means our bank account is a ashared account to which I am entitled to, doesnt it?
I wont spend it all---Im not like that.
I would be scared the judge will use it against me during the actual divorce.
we have been married for 7 years
2007-12-16 17:56:20 · update #1
hes currently deployed in Iraq and I have always been Faithful to him
2007-12-16 17:58:06 · update #2
He just spent 4200 last month alone over there
2007-12-16 17:58:59 · update #3
Seriously. I am not trying to be mean, but...
Why don't you just grow up already and realize that you actions do have consequences?
Instead of running away from your problems, or numbing your feelings with stuff, try dealing with the problems.
The best advise I can give you is realize that you and only you can solve your problems.
Now get to it. In time solving your problems will make you happy.
Good luck.
2007-12-16 17:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok from somone whos been thru this all b4 go ahead and pay off the suv b4 he gets back! and then go buy your wardrobe b4 he gets back make sure you leave at least half th 35000 in there when the judge asks why you spent the money on clothes you tell him you knew you were going to have to find a job and needed the clothes for work he will be very understanding about that if at least half the loot is still in there. also get some clothes for your kid and get yourself set up in a house or an apartment b4 he gets back because when he finds out you are spending money he will freeze the account- men r sneaky
2007-12-16 20:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by child4jc74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the money is in both names it is 1/2 yours but lets make some sense of things. Pay off the vehicle you are going to keep or at least trade it in for a car you want and get a few things for job hunting but don't go crazy because 1/2 the money is yours and do you really want to spend your half as well as his half on clothes? How about a place for you to live? Why does he want you gone? Why doesn't he leave?How about recording him asking you to leave? Might help and can't hurt unless you get crazy during the recording.
2007-12-16 18:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can go shopping but spend wisely.
But since he wants you out of the house, where are you going to go?. What you really need to do, is start making alternative plans in the event that he goes ahead with the divorce.
One important thing though, are you sure he won't withdraw all the money before you get to it since it's a shared account?. I've heard this happen so beware and good luck.
2007-12-16 18:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by belle k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you take a mutual friend(s) with you to buy on the necessary clothes you need? That way someone can back you up. Then ACTUALLY go look for a job with those clothes... the court should see nothing wrong with that.
2007-12-16 18:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Just Tryin' to Help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will look bad if you go spending the entire amount on a shopping spree because it will look you just didn't care... but because it is in both of your names then you can do whatever you want with the money and without consequences.
2007-12-16 17:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a shared account - net of all the expenses that need to be immediately paid for - 50% of everything is legally yours but spend it wisely.
2007-12-16 17:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋