Have you ever asked your Spouse about his / her sex life before marriage?

Question

If No - Why? If Yes - What answer did you get?

Answer 1

Yes, I wanted to know about his previous experiences. It is important for many reasons. As one of the previous posters said, one has to be concerned about the sexual history of their partner and the risk of STDs... I also liked getting an idea of what he had tried and liked / disliked and what was unchartered territory. Although I know each experience is different with a new partner, it gave me an understanding of our sexual compatibility. I think not asking would be like marrying someone without knowing if they like to cook or what foods they like to eat, what music or tv programs they like, etc... Now, I didn't have to get to the gorey details (did she stroke you like this? lol....) but I did want to know enough to make sure that we would have common interests in the bedroom! :)

Oh, and he's not yet my spouse, but hopefully will be one day! :)

Answer 2

I don't think its necessary as it can cause problems. Certainly you need to know about STD history or if they currently have something but knowing who or how many partners in my eyes is none of my business. I have openly discussed this with my GF but thats just the type of relationship we have but this is not a normal topic of conversation I have with woman I meet.

Answer 3

I understand where everyone is coming from about the STD's and such, but my husband and I discussed this when we were dating and it has done nothing but cause trouble. He just won't let the past be the past and keeps bringing up stupid stuff. And I honestly don't know to this day, just exactly how many girls/women he has slept with before me.

Answer 4

of course.. it was covered prior to the marriage. In this day and age, it is important to know your partner's sexual history.. not grand details, just the basics. It is a safety issue.

If you are not able to discuss this topic with your partner, you may really want to evaluate if you are ready for marriage.

Answer 5

Yes today it would be very advisable. I would expect honesty, not to condemn her for her sexual activities, but to find out if there were any diseases,today's diseases are a death sentence. She had sex prior, and I had not. No big deal, as long as I knew there were no STDs.

Answer 6

You should beware of asking too many questions and should limit your responses if asked in turn. All you need to reveal is that you have sought medical tests to ensure you have no STD's and that you are healthy.

Answer 7

of course I did . I thought it was important to know if he had ever suffered from an std or anything of that nature . it is important in this day and age . Good luck and God bless.

Answer 8

yes, we talked about our sex lives (or lack thereof) before we met each other. As it turns out, both of us decided that sex wasn't worth it and neither of us were actually interested until we met.

Answer 9

relatively marriage in the previous intercourse is marrying your better half then having intercourse. intercourse in the previous marriage is relatively having intercourse in the previous getting married to that guy or woman. in my view for me, i think in intercourse in the previous marriage, with the aid of fact i think of in the experience that your in a committed & healthful relationship which will ultimately lead into marriage then have intercourse all you want & it additionally relies upon on the adulthood point of the relationship and how severe each and every guy or woman is relating to the relationship, yet universal it fairly is purely my opinion.

Answer 10

yes i ask way before we even get to dating!! i think its important . they tell me how many girls they have been with.. thats all i need to know.. i dont want to date a guy who has slept with more women than he can count