My mom cheated on my dad and I'm so angry at her, I feel like I never want to talk to her or see her again, but we're close. What should I do? This is the second time and I forgave her for the first time, she's also not being responsible when it comes to the younger kids in the family that need her. The holidays and are coming up so it's going to be really hard. What should I do? She can't keep doing this to my dad.
2007-12-16 19:43:36 · 10 answers · asked by Agnostic 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My dad already knows she cheated on him. They tried working it out (well, he did) and after a few months he just found out that she's seeing him again.
2007-12-16 19:58:41 · update #1
And my parents aren't staying together for us kids, we are all out of the house except my little sister who is in high school. Of course it is hard on us still though. My dad shares everything with me, that's why I feel like I am a part of this. I am closer with my mom but she wont talk to me about it.
2007-12-16 20:00:33 · update #2
My question is mainly this: How do I react when I see my mom, she knows now that I know she cheated on him more than once...more than twice, and keeps doing it but lies to my dad and says she still wants to work things out. I feel like I never want to talk to her again, am I right in thinking like that. I feel like she is doing this to my whole family and I hate her for that. How can I ever talk to her again?
2007-12-16 20:04:57 · update #3
tell her what a bich she is and quit talkign to her.
2007-12-16 20:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell your mom how her behavior is affecting the family. That it is also affecting the young members of the family.
Having said that, I feel that sometimes some people will have parent problems. When my mother died and my father remarried, it is so very difficult for us. My step-mom does not get along with us.
So, here's the choice. Stop expecting from your mother. Accept her and love her as she is. If you feel her behavior is disrupting the family, you will need to be the strength of the family.
Sometimes, it is better to take on responsibility than expecting someone else to respond. The easiest thing to change in your own views.
Hope this helps.
2007-12-17 03:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by babasbhakta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an adult issue, and although it is painful for you, it's not something your parents need to share with you. Sharing the details of their marriage isn't right or fair to YOU...
I'm sure you love your dad and dont' want to see him hurt... your mom cheated, but it's not something YOU need to forgive her for... you didn't take marriage vows with her, your father did...
Parents who discuss the gorey details of their marital problems with their children have issues... they both need help...
There is nothing you can do about your mom's affairs... she is obviously unhappy in her marriage and is seeking comfort elsewhere. Let your parents work it out between themselves.
Meanwhile, take care of YOU.. that's important.
2007-12-17 04:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this is happening to your family. You sound like a great daughter.
Try to forgive her because that's what Jesus says to do.
He also says to honor your father and mother - this does not mean they will not make mistakes.
Your Dad needs to find out why she is doing this and if he is neglecting her and fix it if he can. If the younger children are suffering, very sweetly, gently bring it to your Dad's attention with respect.
Recommend marriage counseling and family counseling.
Joy to you!
2007-12-17 03:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as this hurts you, this is still a problem between your mom and dad, you are free to tell her how this affects your relationship with her. I don't think you should tell your father. If you think you must, atleast wait until after the holidays. Don't ruin them for the whole family.
2007-12-17 03:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by tequila lucky 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, don't tell your dad for her. Its her relation-
ship and mom must allowed to handle it as she sees fit.
Besides, if she comes to her senses (and doesn't contract
an STD) it may even be better if your dad never finds out. In
the same situation (dad) I wouldn't want to know unless there
was a chance that I'd get an STD. Have a heart-to-heart talk
with her as only you can. She's being selfish, jeopardizing
her marriage, her family, her children's immediate well-being
and it needs to stop! Don't tell her that you're not going to
tell your dad....Let her sweat it out. Cozy up to your dad. If he
does find out, he's going to need love and moral support.
2007-12-17 04:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Aerostar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
This is not something a child should have to deal with. This is your parents problem.
if she brings up this other man, tell her you do not want to hear about it.
Have you thought maybe your parents are staying together for you kids? Your father might be doing the same thing but you may not be as close to him as you are with your mother.
Stay out of it, or tell you father to ask for a divorce and you will stand by him.
Sorry but one can not change the way the tides roll, your mom is going to do what she wants to do. When you grow up you can be like her or not. This is up to you.
2007-12-17 03:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if your parents divorce, live with your dad, but still talk to mom
2007-12-17 05:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by sugarpie2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to distance yourself from the situation your dad is an adult and he can take care of himself its between your parents not you so the only reason you have a problem is because you are involving yourself where you shouldn't
2007-12-17 03:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have your mom read and then answer your post, Then let things go from there.
2007-12-17 04:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by chubbiguy40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋