lets say you were out on a girls night without your husband and went back to your friends house and fooled around, would that be cheating or just some innocent girl on girl action?
2007-12-16 17:32:11 · 55 answers · asked by hilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he did get very upset and want's a divorce. I think its just jealousy because he wasn't involved. i personally don't think its cheating, just wanted some outside opinions.
2007-12-16 17:43:31 · update #1
yes well no
it depends on how he feels but if he were to play around with a guy how would u feel u r suposed to be comminted to be only him
2007-12-16 17:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by angelbud13 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You do know the answer to that question, don't you? Or why
would you even ask it?
When we take marriage vows, we say "forsaking all others"--
that would mean male and/or female.
Or let's put it this way---if you found out your husband had a little male on male sex on the side, would that be cheating to you?
Fooling around with another person sexually when you are married is adultery.....cheating. Calling it by any other name does not change the reality of what you are doing.
Have you asked your husband what he thinks about this, if he thinks it is cheating? I would guess not. The reason might
be because you are aware of exactly what it is and would not want him to know, right?
It just makes me sad that people make vows to be faithful to another and so easily make a mockery of those vows..........
I do hope you will think about what you have done and decide whether you really meant your marriage vows or whether you want to be free to "fool around"---it is not fair to your husband, who most likely trusts and loves you to think that he is enjoying a monogamous relationship with you.
Doris
2007-12-16 17:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Doris L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating
2007-12-16 17:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
depends - what do you mean by fooling around? you kissed her goodbye? you were involved in a passionate "make out" session? you did more.......
I would guess by the "girl on girl action" description that you posted that you probably cheated. if it were just a kiss that went a little too long, then probably not. if your husband did the same thing, would you consider it cheating?
do you know what is sex and what is not?
2007-12-16 17:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by King 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In many conservative views, yes this is considered cheating. Whether it is a man, woman, or other mammal, inappropriate actions are just that- inappropriate. Depending on your relationship with your husband and how serious you take your vows, then you should consider your feelings on this issue. According to "Dr. Laura" privacy in a relationship is one thing, but secrets have the potential to do a lot of damage. Good luck with that one.
2007-12-16 17:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by CJL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Think if the tables were turned and he had a guys night and fooled around with a guy friend. Its still sexual and if its not with your partner (your husband) then its cheating.
2007-12-16 17:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Victorian Beauty 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating.
Regardless of which sex it is, whenever you have any type of sexual contact with someone behind your spouses back, it's considered cheating.
Not all men are into the girl on girl thing anyway and what you did was wrong and unfaithful. If you love your husband you shouldn't have done that and if you love him, you should probably sit down and talk with him about it before you two end up divorcing.
2007-12-16 18:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you consider it cheating if your husband had "innocent guy on guy action", or fooled around with one of his friends? That should answer your question.
2007-12-16 17:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by proudmommy 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?? I think it depends on what you believe morally. Women now marry other Women and have children together so it is no longer innocent. Women are leaving Men for other women, so yes, it is absolutely cheating.
2007-12-16 17:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by holly f 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its a hard one......... im sure if you confessed this to your husband he would not be half as upset if you said it was with another man! I dont really see it as cheating.... a lot of people will disagree with me tho.... If you are bi-sexual, then maybe its cheating, but if it was harmless fun then its not! Dont get me wrong, i DONT advocate cheating at all, cause if it was with a guy it would be cheating, but somehow to me, girl on girl fun isnt cheating, your man will probably love it anyway!!!!
2007-12-16 17:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. It is cheating. A guy could not say "I had sex with that girl, but it was innocent honey, don't worry."
2007-12-16 17:36:48 · answer #11 · answered by Charles 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋