is it enough to be in love to live with someone all your life.
or is it imprtant to love the person who you going to marry or it's enough that you feel ...... safe with him and that he or she will make you happy ?????
2007-12-19 22:12:19 · 22 answers · asked by Tess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some keys to a successful marriage or long lasting relationship include:
Trust, honesty, caring, romance, communcation, common interests, feeling safe with the partner, chemistry and attraction. That's just a few, but as you see, caring and feeling safe are among the top.
See, it all comes down to what you define as "good enough." Do you want a functional and productive relationship? My suspicion is that we all do.
Love, in marriage, will change over time. It starts breathless. It starts with you not wanting to ever be away from them. It starts with you thinking of them all the time and getting that fluttery feeling in your tummy every time he calls or looks at you that special way. As you mature in your relationship, this love will grow to something different...more developed. You still think of them all the time, but life sometimes gets in the way. It is at this stage that the work to keep it fresh has to begin.
Marriage takes work. You can't expect the spark to just be there forever without you putting in an effort to keep the fires burning.
I know a lot of couples who love one another but just...have lost that first "in love" feeling and realistically speaking, that's where the problems can begin. Everything else that irritates us about someone we spend day in and day out with, is so much more apparent when we become lackadaisical about keeping that fire burning.
So yes. Love is important in marriage...but so is the commitment to continuing to work on it, for as long as you're together. That is the most important part of all.
2007-12-19 23:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by ShyeWolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes true love does exists! Not only is love important in a marriage but also communication, understanding and trust. Keep in mind that marriage isn't a peace of cake. hence the reason why the vows are for thick and thin. So when the bad times arise don't do like most people do and get a divorce. And if you have God in your marriage he will be able to hold your marriage together. A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.
2016-04-10 09:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love it important but you won't always experience that "in love" feeling all the time. It takes a lot of work. If you don't love someone and want to get married, that is like having a room mate. Why not just live together?
2007-12-19 22:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not only enough its essential.All this about happeness, feeling safe comes with love. With out love you cant be happy and you cant feel safe believe me. Thats why they say love is blind and it lies in the eyes of the beholder. When you love someone you dont see thier ugliness and you are not bothered that they dont have lots of money.
So love in marriage is important other wise it will not work. There will be no hapiness etc.With L O V E you can move mountains.
2007-12-19 22:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by jazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think love is important..... I think a marriage should be based on wanting the same things and being able to work together to achieve those goals.
Love is overrated. To marry for love usually ends in heartache and expecting too much from each other. People who marry for love feel this overwhelming feeling which eventually fades as years pass.... they start to question whether they "love" the person still or if the other "loves" them... all that questioning eventually leads to heartache and seperation.....
People who marry for love often divorce.
2007-12-19 22:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Deelicious 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Love is that which will carry you through the difficult times. And you will have difficult times. I promise.
When you sometimes feel as though there is nothing good about the person you are with, love is the thing that will make it last another day until your no longer mad.
Best Wishes
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2007-12-19 22:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have to have love in a marriage. BUT don't marry, just for love. No love is not enough by itself.
2007-12-19 22:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard enough to make a good loving marriage work,if you just have strong feelings for your spouse i can almost guarantee that your marriage won't last.
2007-12-20 11:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make it work and be happy, you need love as well as feeling safe etc.
As long as you've love, you can work on anything else thats missing.
2007-12-19 22:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Rocknrollrich 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feeling safe and making each other happy are part of love. Do they have to be exclusive?
2007-12-19 22:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bellavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋