I am 28 weeks pregnant and a mother to a 3 year old. On my 4th wedding anniversary my husband bought me flowers and expressed how happy and how much he loved me. He took out to eat and after dinner he dumped me. He told me he was unhappy and he was unsure if he loved me. I am a full time employee working from 230pm to 1030pm, he expected me to be wonder woman. WHY DID HE LEAVE ME? Now am staying at my moms with our son and our unborn child.
2007-12-15 18:11:36 · 8 answers · asked by Smile, ur still breathing! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't have psychic ability. You know more details than me.
2007-12-15 18:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is irresponsible...
who knows?
maybe he's cheating
maybe he's addicted to porn
maybe he feels stressed with the new baby coming
Read Divorce Busters immediately.
Call your minister for counseling.
Start building yourself a support group - family, friends, church, etc.
Call an attorney to get a legal separation & child support for both children.
2007-12-16 02:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was hoping to find something at the dinner that he didn't really find. Have you asked him why? he might be able to answer it better then anyone here. You need to talk to him and reach out and then go from there.
I wish you the best and sorry to hear of how everything is going now.
2007-12-16 03:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyd_princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's where you went wrong in thinking he expects you to be wonder woman. All men expect that in us because in a way we are like wonder woman. In my home i saw my mother do everything from washing the clothes and ironing and cleaning the house to making our supper and doing the dishes. She worked 40 hours a week and came home to a house full of young kids 7 to be exact and 5 of us were 10 months apart plus she took care of my fathers needs. I learned very young how to do 5 things at the same time. So you see we are like wonder woman because that is what men are use to seeing in women and to tell you the truth i wouldn't know how to be anything less then a woman who does everything from working out side the home to taking care of my son to taking care of my home. I do everything my mother did and i have her to thank for showing me how to do that and to take care of my husband at the same time. I guess you could say my mother taught me what is called old school way. It sounds like your husbands mother was like me or my mother who does everything in the home. If he saw this he is wondering why you can't be like his mother, any i right? It is very unfair for women to do everything while the man works comes home and just lays on the couch with remote in hand. And just because that was the way i was taught doesn't mean it was right. My son is 26 now and I taught him how to respect women and not to expect his wife to do everything just because she is a woman. Unless we mothers start teaching our sons to respect women and to look at us as their equal and not as their own personal slave like i was taught it won't stop.
I'm sorry to go off like i did and I'm sorry your husband did that to you, your husband sounds like an ahole. He will come around when he get tired of doing what ever it is he is doing they always do.Hang in there remember you are a woman and we women are very strong and tuff when we have to be.
2007-12-16 03:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds very immature,& very uncaring...What he did to you was wrong & no doubt very painful,but trust me....If you do everything you can,to be a responsible,caring parent to these innocent children,& take care of yourself,one day you'll have other opportunities for a better life.There are a few things that you deserve without a doubt,& they are,kindness,honesty,& love....BOL
2007-12-16 02:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
because he is a selfish prick. you sound like a woman who knows what it takes to help support a family. all men should be so lucky. hang in there, the right person will come along.
2007-12-16 03:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by Brian D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to reality. The second you both said "I DO" your loving relationship was over. Marriage destroys relationships!!! Some people realize this in weeks some lie to themselves for years. Don't be mad at him or yourself, he just realized it and doesn't want to lie anymore. Whatever you do DON'T EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN if you are in love or you will destroy it!!!
2007-12-16 09:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to hear that ....men are unpredictable creatures, your a strong woman with good values you will move forward with your children...your very blessed to have your mom
best of luck
2007-12-16 02:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋