THEY ARE LATE TEENS, AND REALLY QUESTION THE IDEA OF LOVE, VALUES OF MARRIAGE, AND WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO STAY WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND HONOR VOWS. I FEEL WHAT I SAY LACKS VALIDITY IN THEIR EYES,
2007-12-15 22:39:36 · 13 answers · asked by cam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How very sad that you do not know if you are valued and loved. Do you value and love him? If yes, tell him so and see how he responds. If you do not love and value him, then you need to ask yourself if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life?
What you do with your life is actually no business of your kids. You can choose to stay in a marriage that is comfortable. If your kids don't like it, so what. It isn't them that will have to start over if you leave him. Your feelings may not have any validity in their eyes, however NOTHING usually have any validity to kids that age. They may understand your choice when they are older.
2007-12-15 22:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you blind ? The man honored his vows. Stuck with you for 28 years. Helped you raise his sons. That is love and devotion. It may not be a compassionate love but it is love. Love of marriage. Love of being a faithful husband. Love of being a parent / father. Tell your sons of this kind of love. Also explain about the fact that over time the way two people love one another changes but that there is still plenty of love in your marriage by telling them of the types of love I mentioned. Not all love is physical / sexual love.
2007-12-15 22:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have maintained your marriage through a sense of duty does not mean that your sons have to accept the same miserable making situation. That is what they are rejecting - they have clearly experienced what it is to be in a family where there is no genuine feeling. Stop trying to impose your own views. They are not serving you very well and could be positively hate making in your sons.
2007-12-15 22:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second both of you said "I DO" your loving relationship ended. Some people realize this in weeks some people lie to themselves for years. You obviously lied to yourselves for years and finally realized it but by then you were stuck with children. I applaud you for taking care of your children but now that they are older MOVE ON!!! Learn your lesson and never get married again!!!
2007-12-16 00:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your ?
help with what his resentment that is too late (you should have seek counseling a long time ago
your son ability to understand love WELL
you & your spouse should then sit down and talk to them together
2007-12-15 22:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid if this is a question or a statement. I don't get the main point.
2007-12-15 22:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by planetypus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He almost sounds like a real man!
If your thinking about leaving DON'T you are almost there in breaking him in!
2007-12-15 22:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need family time... time with your man... and you both need time to do your own thing.. work at put a spark back
2007-12-15 22:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh?
2007-12-15 22:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what has he resented
are the kids not his?
2007-12-15 22:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋