I (20years, a model and soon a uni graduate) have been dating this guy (24 years) that has two kids, and to tell you the truth isn't that good looking at all. But I have fallen deeply in love with him and the two girls. I have met all of his family and stay over his place all the time over weekends. My family would have never imagined me to go for somebody with kids and are very disappointed in me. They said they would never approve of him and would never want to meet him. I love and respect my parents and family dearly, but on the other hand I am so in love with him.
My dad is crazy!! And he still doesn't really know but has a fair idea about it. He said if I am dating this guy (which I denied), he would go around there and bash the f*&# out of him!! My brothers and uncles want to go round and "half kill him". They say he is only going to get me pregnant and leave me, but i know him and he is a beautiful person!!
I feel I am hurting my family because of my love for this man!
2007-12-11 10:46:46 · 9 answers · asked by Mandy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been dating for 6 months and my boyfriend has had a lot of dramas in his previous relationship with his ex. She cheated on him and left him for another. This guy i am actually dating is one of best friends brothers which makes it even harder! My best friend and I are very close, and eventually she accepted the fact i was dating her brother. This too, has a big effect on everybody!
2007-12-11 10:56:03 · update #1
24 with 2 kids- listen to your father.
2007-12-11 10:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by professorc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My 20 y/o daughter met this guy. They dated behind my back. But eventually I tried to help them out. He actually moved in with us for before the got married. While they were dating here in Florida, he decided to move to Kentucky and take her with him. She was 21 at the time so I couldn't stop her. I tell her though that she would call in under 5 months and want me to bring her home, and that she would be barefoot and pregnant. 4 months later she called, wanting to come home and she was pregnant (they were not yet married).
I never approved of this guy. On his myspace he said he smoked, drank, was an atheist and a womanizer. But she wouldn't listen to anyone, not only me, when she was told don't marry this guy. They married in August of 06, she had the baby in Oct 06. How is our relationship now?
My daughter began having siezures in Nov 06, was hospitalized and kept in a medically induced coma until she died in February of 07. The baby she had was kept away from us almost from the moment she went into the hospital. She was not there to protect us.
My daughter is now dead and we have a grandchild that we can't see. I haven't seen this "father" since the day after she died at the funeral home when he stabbed us in the back by choosing cremation and no services instead of a decent burial.
Your father may not be handling the situation 100% correct but he is looking out for your best interest. Please, swallow your pride and listen to him!!!
2007-12-11 11:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-11 02:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boyfriend -6months
family-lifetime
listen to your family they are only looking out for your best interest, If you still love this guy, lets say in 2 years then sit down with your family and tell them the way it is. I'm willing to bet this guy will be far in the past by then.
2007-12-11 11:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if they dont like him, u have to do what it takes to prove to them what kind of man he is.
do not spend all of ur weekends and time w/ him. ur family is upset cuz it is taking away from their time w/ you. be responsible. do not come home late when u are with him. invite your parents to dinner and have them meet. eventually let him meet the rest of your family.
if this is really something important, it will take time, but they will see u are serious. do not jump into it with him and do not abandon ur family. do ur best to bring it together in a timely manner, and try to be as mature as possible. it is understandable on both ends that people are upset. u have to be calm and collect and try to help them understand...but know that u cannot Make t hem. good luck
2007-12-11 10:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by tarmee2006 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is..you have already lied to your dad. the boy has two kids already..probably not in marriage .. maybe to two different women ..who knows but you and you didn't say so .. .. which only means he is already a proven irresponsible guy. No wonder your dad already hates him.
If I were your dad i would also. You claim you love him so much that you lie about him. gross and immature. You claim you are about to graduate from a university.. yet you lie.. ( bad sign for your future integrity whatever your degree may be in... you lie about the huge love of your life.. bad sign for your marital vows later on..
all in all.. to me you seem like a very bad risk for marriage. too immature. to ready to fly into spasms of lies when you should be honest and above reproach. seems to me your dad is right about you and your choice in men.
sorry. I tell it like i see it.
2007-12-11 10:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way with my ex boyfriend and the only way I got through to my family was to do something bad to make them relize that, "Hey Heather like's this guy alot so why not let her try..." So, I would NOT suggest running away or anything, just tell them {family} how you feel and if they don't like it oh well because you are 20 and you have your right to make your own choic eon who you want to be with...
2007-12-11 10:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by imtheonenobodylikes 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So they haven't met him, and they are judging him? I would hope that your dad knows how he helped raise you, and that you would make the right decisions. Who cares about looks at this point. I don't see how you are hurting your family--sounds like the other way around.
2007-12-11 10:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Scott M 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen to your father.
2007-12-11 10:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Avatar 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋