why dont men in their 20's and early 30's dont want relationships? Ive been single for about 9 months and every men that I have come a cross is not looking for a serious relationship, they just want to date and mess around.
What's going on???
2007-12-11 10:31:46 · 16 answers · asked by KerryAnn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men are born conquerors. Once they conquer. They move on. It's in their nature.
2007-12-11 10:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you come on too strong. Maybe you give them the impression that it is now "desperation time" for you. Don't know. Never had the problem, sorry. A good attitude to have is, "I'm not desperate and neither are you but no Mr. Right."
But the same token, I hasten to add that for sure I was shopping for an appropriate partner. Here are the four items my mom pounded into my head beginning when I was 13 or so. Sent to you with love, from my mom
1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to
3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades…. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever…. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better
And James.... couldn't have said it better.
2007-12-11 11:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've notice more and more people not just men questioning the logic of marriage and with that relationships. It seems that people are wanting break away from the old stereo types and have a relationship with more economic equality. I over heard the other day two MEN saying that a credit check on a woman tells them everything they need to know to decide if they should keep they or toss them back.
2007-12-11 10:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't want to say it, but who's meeting and getting involved with these men? YOU are.
Sit down and think seriously about what you want in a man. Then think about where you can find it.
Then think about what YOU want men to see in YOU. Do you have any relationship (not just w/men, just plain intimacy) issues? What are they? Why do you have them?
Then, you'll be attracted to the right kind of man, and the right kind of man will be attracted to you. Might take awhile, but unless you're a nympho, what's the difference? Many meaningless relationships or one (or a couple) meaningful relationships? Work on YOU, and the rest will take care of itself!
2007-12-11 10:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by florafall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just how some men are. They don't want to commit until they are ready and are done with looking around. Pretty soon, they will get tired of girl to girl and will be searching for a relationship. It also depends on the maturity level of the man and what he wants. There are men in their early 20s who want commitment while men who are 30 and still are not ready for the commitment, it just varies.
2007-12-11 10:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because serious relationships suck. Marriage suck. Women change once they think they have the man in love with them. And of course you are going to say I'm not like that. BS!!! Here are the facts of life to help you:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage ruins relationships(moving in is the same)
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth ask me anything!!!
2007-12-11 12:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you talking about? I'm a single man, and I've been looking for a long-term relationship.
I recall you coming to Y! Answers. You wrote that some guy got you drunk in a motel, had sex with you, then left. Well, there's your problem: You're looking in the wrong places and finding sex-pigs who only want sex. Look elsewhere.
2007-12-11 10:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's because they still ha vent done everything they want to do yet and having another a lot is very serious business
you responsible for they feeling and thing just like in a marriage but your not married.
serious relationship things change your men/women friend that you can hang all night with you no longer can thing you use to be able to do you can out of respect for the other person your involve with. it's not marriage but it damm close.
2007-12-11 10:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real men dont want to be in a relationship!............Ooops I have been with my wife for 14 years.
Just kidding, hang in there you will find somebody. Actually most guys would rather be in a relationship. Saves a lot of time and energy.
It will come when your not looking for it. Gaurantee it!
2007-12-11 10:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They simply are not ready for committed relationships, they have the right to decide for themseveles if they WANT to be in a relationship. Just because YOU are in a hurry to get into a relationship doesn't mean that the guys you date HAVE to be as desperate.
2007-12-11 13:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Im dealing with the same problem. But unlike you I've been single for 7 years now. I'm not a slut and I don't sleep around!!! In seven years I met one guy that I truly liked and he didn't want to commit. I've decided to not care has much anymore and to focus on myself and my career
2015-07-01 14:47:39 · answer #11 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋