Marriage & Divorce - 11 December 2007

I'm pregnant with my 2nd baby due in July. After I found out I told my significant other that we should get legally married. We're just common law right now. Anyway, he turned me down. He said that he does not have the money to be getting married but yet we can't afford a 2nd child either. The baby was unplanned as I was on BC. My reason for wanting to get married is so that I could have the same last name as my children, that's all. This is driving me crazy because he won't give me an answer as to why and is affecting how I feel about this baby coming along. I'm afraid it will be an issue that will split us apart. Not only that, I don't want him to marry me to appease, I want him to want to marry for the sake of our children. Am I asking too much of him? We've been together for over 4.5 yrs and had our ups and downs. Are any of you ladies going through this? Any advice would be helpful because I'm seriously doubting my relationship here, Thank Y

2007-12-11 06:03:06 · 13 answers · asked by rizing 4

2007-12-11 05:55:42 · 27 answers · asked by looby 6

When I want sex (maybe twice a month), I have no trouble getting aroused. But my husband needs it more than that, but I don't ever seem to get aroused. I'm attracted to him, and he does what I ask, but it doesn't seem to produce any physical reaction. We've tried different times of the day, touching different areas, but still nothing. And he's not happy if I don't get aroused...so of course it is causing trouble and I feel like I'm letting him down. I don't know if there is a medicine, or vitamin, or something I can take or do so that when he's ready I can get excited too. I'd really appreciate any advice from females who have ideas.

2007-12-11 05:53:29 · 12 answers · asked by Teresa 2

I'm confused when to use an apostrophy.

2007-12-11 05:52:43 · 8 answers · asked by lele 1

2007-12-11 05:43:43 · 89 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am frightened.

2007-12-11 05:42:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ive finally had it, I cant take my marriage anymore. My husband has had a drug problem(cocain) for the entire time that we've been married,(1 year)when he is high, he gets paranoid & saids im cheating on him & he starts going crazy all around the house looking for whoever im cheating with. If my friends bring one of their friends around, it atomatically is the guy that im soposibly cheating with. I've never even come close 2 thinking about cheating. His mind is just not righ anymore & everytime hes on drugs, he gets crazy, not towards me thank God! But this problems has my family & friends just so confused. Ive tried 2 get him help, but he wont go, ive called the cops and he stoped for only 2 weeks, I just dont want to deal with it anymore, but i feel so bad because im the only person he has & I feel guilty for leaving him, but im just so unhappy. When i meet him he was a wonderful person & i know he still has it in him, somewhere but ive just lost all hope

2007-12-11 05:34:51 · 20 answers · asked by lacrazy010 1

So if you read in my previous questions, you will see that i have been talking to this real sweet guy who is amazing! Everything is great but here lies the question: Saturday night was my company's christmas party~i went with the girls at my work and we were all having a great time. 11:00pm roles around and i get a call from him asking me if i wanted to go over there. I was already feeling pretty good and i wanted just to hug him, cuddle;etc..so i said yes. I get there, i could tell that we both had been drinking...so like most drunks, you don't think about what you do first, you just do it...and we had sex. It was great but awkward in the morning. He was still playful towards me, but i preceded to get ready. So i tell him goodbye and he said he would call me later,..i said "maybe". Well he didn't call and i wrote an e-mail to him stating that "it must have been a mistake and he must regret it". he replied to me "No it wasn't a mistake and i don't regret it,(will add more details)

2007-12-11 05:34:28 · 22 answers · asked by Nicole H 2

i think iam stuck...i want an divorce?? n he said no....i asked 4 1 five yrs ago he said no...now i just can take any more...the cheating n the lien...his attuide..i just cant take any more..the kids are all grown ..we have an bank account that join that only have $3 in it ...an house thats worth $550,000 in thats it, and everything else is seprated....he dont want 1..now he locked up...n i ready 2 leave...what should i do?? n can i divorce him even if he dont want it???

2007-12-11 05:33:13 · 16 answers · asked by corey g 1

Going down the aisle, do you believe it will be forever or only hope it will? Do you expect complete faithfulness or do you expect your spouse to play around?

2007-12-11 05:32:06 · 43 answers · asked by TatersPop 5

He was abusive and promiscuous. Both physically and emotionally. Admittedly I was not a perfect wife but I did try. My ex now spreads all sorts of stories about me to relatives. Some are based on truth (e.g. Yes, when I was 19 and before we were together I was treated for Chlamydia from my first and only other sexual parter- He thought my whole and his whole (conservative) extended family needed to know this.

Other things are barefaced lies e.g. 'some of our problems were due to her recieving phonecalls from men all the time'. I was SO faithful to him and he knows this yet a seed of doubt is planted into the mind of anyone who hears this.

He on the other hand was blatently promiscuous.

Hasnt he done enough damage? We are separated now, why does he want to try and drag my name in the mud?

2007-12-11 05:29:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-11 05:28:42 · 25 answers · asked by had2laugh01 3

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2007-12-11 05:27:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband was married before we met and his ex wife cheated on him. Him and I have been married for 4 years. During the summer we took a vacation and he saw a motorcycle and commented that he liked it. An idea came to me and I decided to get him one for his birthday. I approached my boss and asked for extra hours and was told no. So I got a part time job and never told my husband, all I told him was that I was needed to work extra hours. I wanted to surprise him with the motorcycle. I found a used one as that was all I could afford and had a guy custom paint it and fix it up. I made arrangements for it to be delivered to my husband on his birthday. A few days before his b-day he came home and was mad. He asked where I had been and I told him at work. I was at work earlier that day, at my 2nd job. He told me he had gone to my 1st job to take me out to lunch and I wasn't there and where was I? He accused me of cheating and I told him I am not cheating and he needs to trust me on this.

2007-12-11 05:24:39 · 24 answers · asked by Rose 1

I have a lot more family than him, so there's a lot more travel in my direction. How much is ok to ask of him? (We've been dating 10 months.)

2007-12-11 05:24:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am feeling really depressed right now and I miss my kids and i feel like my life is over, my wife threw me out made up some lies about me to the apt manager and the apt manager is going to have me arrested if i go on the property, so i cant see my kids i have not seen them in over 3 mo and it is really depressing for me i feel like i want to cry and hope my life will end soon.

2007-12-11 05:22:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

What would it take to make you cheat on your significant other? Would you cheat just for a pretty face, money, because you're lonely and the other person is there for you?

2007-12-11 05:18:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was attacked and raped by a boy a few years older than me when I was 17, afterwards I didn't tell a soul and it drove me to depression and near suicide, I went to counselling and although I haven't forgotten what happened to me I have tried (and to a certain extent succeded )to get on with my life. I met my husband and we have been together for nearly 20 years and we have 2 wonderful kids, (I have never told him of the attack either) but since the death of my mother at the start of this year it's bringing it all back, and I am now full of regret that I didn't confide in her and that I put her through real heartache without her knowing what had really happened to me. How can I move on ?

2007-12-11 05:15:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Any suggestions? Bear in mind that he insulted my mate Flo today. She's not happy.......

2007-12-11 05:12:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-11 05:12:38 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

Especially if it was the other partner who cheated.Does it have a positive effect or a negative effect on the next relationship

2007-12-11 05:08:47 · 16 answers · asked by jenny 2

I recently seperated from my husband of 2 years. It was not a good marriage as he was into cocaine and would not come home many nights and would turn his phone off after I would try calling him. Shortly after moving out I started dating someone I had been friends with since the 3rd grade. Long story short, things moved fast and I am now pregnant. My soon to be ex-husband knows about the news. I'm wondering if anyone has been (I know it's a unique situation) in this situation or if they know of anyone who has, and how it all turned out? I really appreciate any responses.

2007-12-11 05:04:53 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im in FL and my son is 10 months old...the judge agreed to let him have my son for 1 week a month... okay well he wont tell me who is watching our son...his mother is the supervisor and I am pretty sure she is at work and if thats the case, who is watching my son...He wont tell me... He supposidly fired his attorney but does anyone know if he can not not tell me...we have joint custody I have physical placement and he has supervised visitation one week a month.... this is the first week my baby is there....please....my attorney hasn't responded to me so I dont know what to do....

2007-12-11 05:02:09 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda 2

2007-12-11 04:59:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-11 04:59:17 · 6 answers · asked by smile 1

how can i avoid falling into the "marriage trap"? what i mean by that is i always want my husband to find our sex life fun and exciting and i want him to never forget that first and foremost i am a hot blooded woman. we get along great but sometimes it seems that he sees me more as a wife and best friend than a hot and bothered woman. i have to remind him by wearing lingerie and getting into bed naked with perfumed body oils and such. he has said before in the past that he thinks i'm "worth more than just being his sex toy" and treats me like a million dollars. this is great and i consider myself very lucky but i dont want him to get tempted to cheat for "thrills and excitement" because he still sees me as his life companion but not as a lusty woman. got any suggestions for how i can remind him that i may be his best friend and partner in crime but that im also a woman who wants to sexually pleased and pleasing. i already take care of myself, work out, and im young.

2007-12-11 04:57:11 · 15 answers · asked by Heather 3

man?

2007-12-11 04:47:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

During my merriage I most of cheat at least 500 times with 48 different girls and this were not just one night stand AND becouse I was selfish and stupit I lost my family in a divorce battle. Next day I woked up a different person, I lost my 2 daugthers a wife person who gave me 18th years ( 5 dating and 13 on merriage ), I was destroy in every way a person can be destroyed.Mentaly, emocionatly, spiritualy, financialy.
I learn the hard way, what life is all about. Now I got merried again after a year of being divorce. She is a real nice and mentaly mature 22 years old. she it's 16 years younger than me. We got merried on Oct 27. and I don't feel I could cheat on her not even one time.... I don't know if that it's for the thruma I went of becouse it's just not right............I don't want to fail again..what should I do

2007-12-11 04:46:47 · 15 answers · asked by Richard 1

and she as 4 of them she has lost har job and is trying to move in with her collage kids but my husband told his kids if that happened he would stop helping them with rent you would think she would go away but not she call my husbands mother up and asks if she can stay in her town house and i think his mother is going to let her. my husband just sits back and lets this go on.
then im to have this mother and his kids over and feed them and play nice. the kids are 17,19.21.24 and my husband has had them for 15 years alone with out his ex's help. why do they want to help this woman who can go out and find a job and pay her own rent why?????

2007-12-11 04:45:22 · 21 answers · asked by b 2

I have never liked leftovers. It has to be something really, really, really good for me to want to eat it the next day. In any event, fried foods are not even a consideration for me. I don’t care for them to begin with but I especially hate leftover catfish, chicken or porkchops. He will eat leftovers for two or three days. Also, he will grab food from last week’s dinners and eat that. I am very particular about eating food that’s sat too long because I am afraid of getting food poisoning.

He, other the other hand, will leave mayonnaise, ranch dressing, tartar sauce, etc. in his lunchbox over night (sometimes over the weekend) and will turn right around and eat it. I try to cook just enough for the two of us because we have a history of wasting food (since I don’t eat leftovers), but when I do that he complains because he wants to have some left for lunch the next day. I don’t see why it’s such a big deal to him.

2007-12-11 04:41:03 · 18 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4