So if you read in my previous questions, you will see that i have been talking to this real sweet guy who is amazing! Everything is great but here lies the question: Saturday night was my company's christmas party~i went with the girls at my work and we were all having a great time. 11:00pm roles around and i get a call from him asking me if i wanted to go over there. I was already feeling pretty good and i wanted just to hug him, cuddle;etc..so i said yes. I get there, i could tell that we both had been drinking...so like most drunks, you don't think about what you do first, you just do it...and we had sex. It was great but awkward in the morning. He was still playful towards me, but i preceded to get ready. So i tell him goodbye and he said he would call me later,..i said "maybe". Well he didn't call and i wrote an e-mail to him stating that "it must have been a mistake and he must regret it". he replied to me "No it wasn't a mistake and i don't regret it,(will add more details)
2007-12-11 05:34:28 · 22 answers · asked by Nicole H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"i was just a lil uncomfortable and didn't know what to say or do, i feel bad for not calling, i was just confused, i know that sounds gay and that isn't my character and i am totally sorry, i hope you don't hate me and if it is alright, can i call you later on?" So thats what he writes back and i am trying to get mature guy's answer on what this means? please help! Thanks again!
2007-12-11 05:38:03 · update #1
I don't think at this point you have much to worry about. It looks like he just really didn't know how to act towards you after sex. Who knows he might be a lil shy in that department. Hey if he didn't want anything else to do with you, he probably wouldn't have answered your email.
2007-12-11 05:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Radertastic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you both sound confused. Sex isn't something people should enter into when either party is intoxicated. It's better to make sure it's what both people truly want. Sounds like neither one of you is quite sure what you want.
Slow down a little. If the guy calls you then see where it goes but if he doesn't call you then I would not pursue him. Don't be so quick to hit the sack with a guy. It really can color the relationship for good. It's always better if it takes a little effort to get you into the sack. It sets the tone that you're something special and he'll remember that it took some effort to get you. But if you're just looking for a fling, it looks like you got that.
So either way, slow it down a little. If you keep up this way you're going to get hurt emotionally if you're not there already. You seem like you don't feel right about the sequence of events here. Listen to that.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-11 05:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 st time s ex is always pretty awkard. He seems interested and confused by your your negative reaction the morning after. Saying "maybe" in a guys mind that is a rejection, so I'm sure to say that if he didn't call earlier is because you bassically ran out the door and proceeded to reject him.
Now he says that he doesn't regret it and it wasn't a mistake (you and your negative words!!!), so why you insist on keep on sabotaging this??? Something great can happen with this great guy, so why you want to keep on pushing the self destruct button? I don't get it. Stop being afraid.
Answer him: "Let's start from the beginning. What about lunch Saturday ?"
2007-12-11 05:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably sensed that you turned him down the following morning. It's in your sentence..."He was still playful towards me, but i preceded to get ready(maybe he took it you weren't into him, therefore not interested)so i tellhim goodbye(you didn't say see you later or I'll call you)and he said he would call me later,..i said 'maybe'.
Were you playing hard to get after having sex with him? You sent him mixed signals and you should clarify yourself before you ask him to do the same. Best of Luck!
2007-12-11 06:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by rizing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I would have been in his place,,when you responded to his question if he could call you or not, and you would have answered "maybe"...That would have menat,,"You were not good in bed. You didn't do it for me. I can't believe I did this with you. Why did i had to come here?,,who are you?" So maybe it is a question of perception. He is probably unsure of how you felt about it. You got dressed really quickly and dissapeared,,lol,,,I wouldn't worry too much. It is obvious there's mutual attraction here.
2007-12-11 05:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just from my perspective sounds like he just really feels out
of place and doesn't really know what to think of it. I mean it
probably all happened so suddenly for the both of you his just
trying to take a step back and take it all in, which there is
nothing wrong with that. Give him some space and let him
initiate conversation between the two of you next time.
2007-12-11 05:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Tori 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He told you what he meant, how he felt, why he didn't call, and that he didn't regret it. What part aren't you understanding? You might be reading more into that you have to, everything it self explanatory and doesn't require analytical thinking.
2007-12-11 05:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by beauty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ha! Mr. Bugsme. too funny, I felt the exact same way.
Hold a quarter between your knees if you can't handle the uncertainty of sleeping around.
2007-12-11 05:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont know what he is confused about....the having sex or the not calling part. you need to talk to him and just ask....tell him you are unclear about what he meant and rather then you looking more into it you just want him to explain. it maybe something totally different.
2007-12-11 05:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by xx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it means.. don't be so clingy. He probably just feels bad because he was drinking and wasn't that good.. or whatever. But, seriously, give him some space. He'll call when he's ready.
2007-12-11 05:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by Chz Burger Cat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋