2007-12-11 05:43:43 · 89 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you didn't run away from the bed when you made that child, be a man and don't run now!
2007-12-11 05:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by lee 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,you know you can't run. Being scared is quite normal. Especially for a first time dad. The responsibility is enormous, but just step up and be a man. The rewards are more numerous than the fears. You will have plenty of both. Just continue to do the "next right thing" Now is the time to prove to yourself that you are a responsible adult. Think of the pride you will feel when you help your wife during this pregnancy. She will fall further in love with you when she sees you doing all you can to make this a fun and intimate time for the two of you. We all feel younger inside that we really are. Your feelings are normal. Just don't abandon your wife and unborn child. The child inside you would hate you forever.
2007-12-11 05:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cate B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad, if you felt you were still a child inside you, WHY DID YOU GET MARRIED? Well you don't have any place to run, I'm afraid you have to grow very quick, you can't say to your child that you are a child, can you?. It is time to face the responsabilities and behave like a man, remember that not only your wife needs a man in the house now but also your child needs a father when he/she is born. So get on with it.
2007-12-11 05:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by big daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't run. You chose to marry your wife and you chose to not use protection knowing there was a possible risk of pregnancy. What you are going to have to do whether you like it or not is GROW UP. Be there for your child and love your wife. Children are the best blessing you could ever hope to have. Be greatful! Don't be scared of it, love your child and your wife and step up to the plate. Takeing care of your family you may find, will be the greatest thing to ever happen to you. But you need to give it a chance, everything will come to you naturally. It will all be OK.
2007-12-11 05:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Intrigued 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To your couch.
Why do you think men watch football, or care a rats' rear end about which person male or female that Tela Tequila's (whatever her name is) gonna wind up with?
Believe me, there's LOTS to do all along the way.. driving her to the doctor another 10-12x... preparing. Getting nervous around the time -- and when you see how it happens, or at least KNOW that that tiny thing, is part YOU.. and was you, just 26 years ago.. and starts to show YOUR traits (assuming your wife didn't get nailed by your best friend, etc.)... you will grow, little by little.. and not even REALIZE it.
You can still be a d*ck with your friends, and strips clubs and porn sites will still exist in 2008 onward.. but, you'll soon see how they in fact, compare to what is REAL.
Especially if it's a Girl.
2007-12-11 05:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also 26 and soon to be married. And the thought of children even now scares the heck out of me. I suggest a hobby outside of the home. An organized sport such as tennis, basketball, etc. that you can play for fun away from the home. But you also have to keep your pregnant wife in mind. She is the most important person to you right now, and that means, she is second to none, not even yourself! So as much as you want to run, just make sure you are there for her and for all of her needs. Even a home hobby, such as video gaming or some sort of craftmanship would be better, so that you are not away from the home, but still getting some time to yourself.
2007-12-11 05:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by samuel samuel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll try my best here to be helpful here. It's probably because you realized that a child is a huge responsibility and they are. Like it or not that baby is coming. Why marry the woman and then claim to still feel infantile on the inside? It's a poor excuse. There are support groups that your wife's OB can refer you to. I'm sure it's just nerves you are feeling. Wait until the baby comes, that is the coolest feeling in the world. Best of luck!
2007-12-11 06:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by rizing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the family law master. LOL..Just kidding. Look, it sounds harder than it really is. I was scared to, but I got used to it. It took some time. Seven years later, I know my role. You will to but you have to give it a chance. By the way, you'll have something that loves you unconditionally soon. That baby will be more different than anyone else. He/she will love you no matter what. I know because now I have 2 boys and a 1 girl.
I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm glad I did it. It was the best thing to happen to me ever. You may end up with a story similar. Goodluck and take off the running shoes.
2007-12-11 06:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Knowe Nuthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you're 26 and really you're not all that "childish" inside. At your age, it's more like IMMATURITY. You're wife is pregnant and instead of running from it, you should embrace it. Being a parent is one of the most precious gifts we can experience. Grow up. You're married and about to be a dad. Be glad you can MAKE A CHILD!
2007-12-11 05:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you run to a counselor or something to help you grow up. If you still feel too young to have a child, you should have thought about that beforehand. And for god's sake, your 26, not 12. Hopefully you'll get your head out of your *** before the baby gets here.
2007-12-11 05:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time for running is over. You don't have to be a complete grown up to be a good father. Having some kid in you is a GOOD thing as long as you're responsible. When you hold that baby in your arms for the first time, you'll change your tune. I'm sure your wife is just as scared, even if she doesn't say anything. I know I will be when I get pregnant, and we're TRYING! And I'm only 24... I know it's scary, and I know where you're coming from, but you don't want this child to hate you when they grow up because you got too scared to handle the situation.
Good luck... Be brave... :)
2007-12-11 05:50:23 · answer #11 · answered by Raina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋