2007-12-11 05:28:42 · 25 answers · asked by had2laugh01 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being in an addictive relationship is horrible. Especially if your husband is an asshole. I date my (now husband) for 3 years. He cheated and treated me horrible. But not in the beginning he suckered me in and I was hooked with all the sweet gifts, "I love you" cards and everything else a person that loves someone does. Well I thought he loved me and he was my 1st so I put all I had into the relationship. In the long run he go another girl pregnant while we were dating. I "tried" to leave him and I knew it was the best thing to do unless I wanted to let him dog me out for the rest of my life. When I broke it off I had real withdrawal symptoms like I was coming off crack or something. I had cold chills at night. I couldnt eat I lost 15 lbs in like 2 weeks. I couldnt sleep. I couldnt concentrate. And I couldnt even remember things that had happened just hours before. My hair was falling out. I was pale and I had stomach ulcers from all the stress.
We got back together and are now married. He still dogs me out and has sex with the girl he got pregnant while we dated. But I tried counseling and meds. But It seems like i cant break my addiction. It sounds so weak but I guess I'm stuck forever. I'd rather be with a cheating dog than lose my hair and go through those excruciating withdrawals again.
But here are some signs that let you know when your really "Addicted":
(1)Even though you know the relationship is bad for you (and perhaps others have told you this), you take no effective steps to end it.
(2)You give yourself reasons for staying in the relationship that are not really accurate or that are not strong enough to counteract the harmful aspects of the relationship.
(3)When you think about ending the relationship, you feel terrible anxiety and fear which make you cling to it even more.
(4)When you take steps to end the relationship, you suffer painful withdrawal symptoms, including physical discomfort, that is only relieved by reestablishing contact.
2007-12-11 05:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a credit card to withdraw the money, if it's a SHARED account. All you need to do is walk into your bank or C.U. with a photo ID and some memorized personal information. Just take it. The money legally belongs to you as much as it does him. And no judge in the world is going to order you to repay him in divorce court, considering he's an active drug addict. I think you're morally justified here in taking matters into your own hands. You have an obligation to support your kids, and he would withdraw it all this instant if he could. In fact you would be benefiting both your son and him, by not denying him access to the poison that is quickly killing him. If he didn't want you to have access to the money, he should have thought of that- before he placed it in a shared account. Let the buyer beware. On the other hand, If only HIS name is on the account, you have no legal rights to the money. period. Withdrawing funds in his name using his credit card would be fraud. You could go to jail. In that case you'd be wise to sit down with his mother and him, and just accept a 50/50 split. it's better than nothing.
2016-04-08 08:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dependent is probably a better word. You must find other interests to occupy your time that aren't related to him. You can be supportive of him but indepent too. Maybe taking some classes to further your education. More infromation is needed for a more specific and truthful answer. Counseling is sometimes free at your county healthcare agency. Good Luck!
2007-12-11 05:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Don213 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm addicted to my husband because I feel sad when he's not around and I am happy when I'm on him ;)
2007-12-11 05:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by jezzabell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you went into a marriage feeling they are your everything, the one for you!
To be addicted I think is just another way of realized how deeply in love you are with the man!
2007-12-11 05:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by DopeyXTC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when u cant do anything w/out them. I am addicted to my bf. I cant be away from him for more than a day, i will do anything for him even if it means im missing out. id rather please him than friends and somtimes family ( yes i know its bad). If u answered yes to any of those then u may be addicted to ur man. Be careful so he wont take advantage
2007-12-11 05:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
LoL, thats a good question? Are you obsessive? If he is absolutely the only man you see...and I mean no Brad Pitt, or Cloney, then I guess maybe then you would be addicted?? LoL
2007-12-11 05:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by confused<3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
addicted.....
interesting word to use,
I would say when you have withdrawal from him when apart, enough to tolerate the pain when you are with him.
separating and getting back to together many times is also a sign.
2007-12-11 05:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by sweety_atspacecase0 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, I am a addict, you think of him all the time, can't wait until he comes home,you don't want him to go anywhere without you, you have with drawl feelings.
2007-12-11 05:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either I'm not addicted to my husband, or I don't know either! LOL
2007-12-11 05:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋