I am feeling really depressed right now and I miss my kids and i feel like my life is over, my wife threw me out made up some lies about me to the apt manager and the apt manager is going to have me arrested if i go on the property, so i cant see my kids i have not seen them in over 3 mo and it is really depressing for me i feel like i want to cry and hope my life will end soon.
2007-12-11 05:22:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your kidds need a Dad when its all said and done time is a healer and try and keep it together there is light at the end of the tunnel your kids love you....
2007-12-11 05:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Peter Griffin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eddie: Slow down. Go visit family or friends and talk it out with them. I know it seems like the end of the world now, but it's not. Take it from me, I know.
You need to accept some things, though. Your relationship with your kids will never be the same now. Your wife has seen to that. That's the bad news. The good news is there is life after a breakup. Be the best dad you can be. Attempt to see them... legally. Send them presents on their birthdays and Christmas. Give them as much time as you can.
Don't get angry at your wife. Don't try to put blame on anyone for the disintegration of the marriage. Anger will just make it worse. If it's truly over, take the steps to end the relationship and obtain visiting rights.
And again, go see family and friends. That's what they're for.
2007-12-11 05:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Greg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you've made mistakes..who hasn't! Suicide is the single most selfish act! And then you want to be even more selfish by wanting to know how to do it painlessly?! I think those that want to kill themselves should suffer until the very end! Have you ever stopped to think about how many people you would hurt? I work at a mortuary..I see death everyday. I see those who have faught their hardest against cancer and lost. Children that were never given a chance to see the sun. Young mothers taken from their children because of a drunk driver. All of these people would give anything to live just one more day! Think about what you have and how your blessed just to wake up yet another day. Go to the doctor for some meds and stop your crying! Life is a gift not a burden! Think about someone other than yourself.
2016-05-23 01:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by cornelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eddie, I don't think you want your life to end. What I hear you saying is "I hurt and I don't want to hurt anymore."
NOW.... Take action. Treat the wound. What is causing you to hurt? It's time to talk to a lawyer for custody arrangements.
I don't believe your wife threw you out for no reason. If you can make it right or apologize. Take responsibility for your actions and be prepared to accept the consequences.
If you're not going to take action you're just a whiner and your children will have no respect for you.
Visitation can not be denied unless your an unfit father. So get off your A55 shave your face comb your hair and get busy.
The depression will go away on it's own when you do the right thing!
2007-12-11 05:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Voice of Reason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't. I attempted that once. I wear a big scar on my wrist as a result. When I look back on it I shake my head because I then look around at what I have now and I can see how the world would have been worse off if I would have succeeded.
This hardship WILL become a thing of the past someday. You WILL look back on it as a phase in your life.
The decisions you make now can determine how long it takes before you look back on it, and how you feel about yourself when you finally do look back.
Start by finding a therapist, or counselor to talk to. Keep in mind that not just any old counselor or therapist will work. I tried several, usually resulting in a bad experience before I found one that I was able to bond with, and that ultimately changed my life. Shop around and look for someone who makes you comfortable.
If you can find a good psychotherapist, someone who is professionally equiped to help you, you will feel better.
There is a two-fold gain in doing this: First off, it is great to have someone whose job is to listen to you talk about yourself (it's different than beating a friends ear). Secondly, it's a positive step. It instantly makes you feel better about life and yourself, because you are doing something about fixing things, versus sitting idly by and feeling regret and remorse about yourself.
They can help you organize a plan to deal with your seperation, and parenting issues as well. They will know what services are out there, and may even have contacts in those fields.
Be patient with yourself, be loving to yourself, and take steps to begin making it better, you will be surprised at how good you feel after just opening up the phone book and looking for a number to call.
And if you feel like crying, allow yourself to cry, you've lost something, and that hurts...
2007-12-11 05:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't end your life ... think of your kids and what that would do to them ... that is something they would have to deal with for the rest of their lives .. they would ask sooner or later why didn't you love them enough to stay here on this earth .. get some counseling ...talk to a lawyer and explain that your wife made up some stuff and now you cant go on the property to see your kids ..have your lawyer set up visitations somewhere else .. get a grip and think of your kids ... get your life in order .. go to church ..talk to the pastor .. get it together so you can see your kids and file for joint custody .. but don't end your life that is never the right solution.
2007-12-11 05:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family this stuff, get some emotional support ASAP.
Second, beg borrow and steal to get a lawyer...make it your #1 goal...if you have to starve to make it happen, then do so...living for more than yourself will get the thought of wanting to end it all out of your head.
Fight, but be smart. Plan 3 steps ahead. Get a lawyer, don't tell the ex that your are. Always be amicable to her in the meantime. Call her place and try to leave messages with your kids.
God help you.
2007-12-11 06:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing worth dieing for you need support and get your head on straight, try www.divorce support .com I joined this group, it was 14 weeks long they meet once a week, well worth the $12.00 I spent.
Get a lawyer and fight for your kids, you can email me I just went through a divorce after 31 years, I'd be happy to talk.
Hang in there things will be alright, really!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-11 05:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...first of all...when people think of killing theirselves they think of it as an end to pain not an end to life! After something like that...who will raise ur kids...ur kids are without you...not just a few months but forever...think about helping ur kids be adults...
I understand being depressed so bad u just want to end it...but think of the big picture...ur wife cant keep u away from the kids long....just fight it out in court! It might take awhile but its better then just sittin there thinkin of not ever gettin to see them...Just make sure when u do get to see them again...which u will....take care of them...even if they are wih you or not...Life is not short...lol...life is very long..now wouldnt u want to live long and see ur kids grow up and see ur grandkids....think about it and then after that dont ever think that way again!
2007-12-11 05:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by so alone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you in court?
Don't do it. If you do, think of what your kids would think! How horrible for them, do you want to hurt them? You are still their father and have rights no matter what. Whatever your wife has accused you of, she will have to prove in court. If you didn't do it, she can't prove it.
Pick yourself up right away and contact your local Father's Rights Group. They're all over the internet and are chafing at the bit to help men like you.
2007-12-11 05:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by AJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold on!!!Get a lawyer !Fight! Don't focus on your wife.Focus on your kids.They will give you strength to go on.If your wife did what she did and now she doesn't let you see kids she must very selfish b....ch.,because the problem is between you both not the kids .There is no conflict between you and your kids.She doesn't think about the kids only about herself being a victim .A lot of women do that just to get to men and hurt them more.they just want to hit the weakest point.Stay strong and fight for your kids.Do it for them.I'll pray for you.
2007-12-11 06:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋