I have a lot more family than him, so there's a lot more travel in my direction. How much is ok to ask of him? (We've been dating 10 months.)
2007-12-11 05:24:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you haven't even been together for a year and you're not married or engaged then you shouldn't expect anything from him. If he wants to accompany you then that's great but it shouldn't be expected.
2007-12-11 05:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been ten months. I know that's a lot for you because you care for each other, but seriously...seperate trips for now. You can hook up for New Year's. You're dating, keep it light! Neither of you should have to sacrifice your family time at this point.
2007-12-11 05:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over and be ready to compromise. You can either spend this year at your family and next year at his or work out some other method.
Do not expect to see everyone in your family. Try to visit some of them and some of his family.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-11 06:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Split the day or Have one family on Christmas Eve and the other on Christmas. You have to compromise now if you expect to make it later on.
2007-12-11 05:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to sacrifice some to strike a balance. Figure out what seems fair and reasonable then ask him if he would be comfortable with this arrangement. Tell him that you are open to alternative ideas, and also remind that you may want to alternate years where you go.
2007-12-11 05:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Twiggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we spend the morning and most of the afternoon at my parents, and then a couple of hours at his parents (we all live in the same town) BUT his parents don't do a big holiday thing...so that's why we spend more time at my parents...do either of your parents do the xmas eve thing? if so, do that and then spend the xmas day with the others...
2007-12-11 05:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
40-40-20.......40% with each side of the family and 20% alone together.
COMPROMISE! Don't assume it's going to be the same as it was when you were single.....you have to be willing to bend.
2007-12-11 05:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
separate trips
if and when you get married it will be hard enough then so don't make an issue out of it now!
2007-12-11 05:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with redneck, spend time with your family.
2007-12-11 05:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋