Last Sunday when everyone was in church wife and I were laying on our bed cuddling each other. We're newly weds. She goes "what are you plans for today?"
I go, "I want us to go shopping for you, pick out a pretty dress and and some sexy lingerie, have lunch some place nice, come back home, you have a quiet afternoon nap and I'll cook us a good dinner, we'll have a nice romantic dinner together, and then I'll give you a sensual massage. Then I want you to put on that dress that we'll buy and make yourself real pretty and then I want to take it all off and eff you senseless."
She looked pretty excited about everything up until the very end. And then she says "you asshole" and then pretty much our whole day was ruined and we've barely talked since. Where did I go wrong? Was it really the end? She won't talk about it so I don't know. I need some pointers.
2007-12-11 09:54:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally wouldn't have had a problem with that but perhaps it was the "eff you senseless" part that caused the problem. It could be that she may have taken issue with that term after all the "romantic" talk and gestures. Perhaps putting it more romantically would have been better, like "and then I would love to lay you down and make love to you." I know the meaning was there and it is a soppy thing to say - my husband rarely uses this term - but it may have gone down better. Perhaps buy her some flowers and apologize for not communicating what you intentions were better and ask if there is anything you can do to make it up to her.
Congrats on your marriage and good luck. Hope she forgives and forgets soon. Good to see there are a few romantic men in the world :)
2007-12-11 10:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From a woman's point of view everything sounded great until you stated that you wanted to "eff you senseless". It sounds like you would be spoiling your wife as long as you got your rocks off, instead of just loving your wife. It almost sounds like a bargaining tool instead of trying to have your wife feel cherished.
Talk to her and let her know how much you love her and you want to spend time with her. Ask her what was it exactly that got her upset. Communicate with her!
2007-12-11 18:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm pretty sure the fact that you wanted to do these things for her just so you could get sex is what happened. next time don't say eff her senseless, but ,come up with another way that doesn't sound so tacky.
2007-12-11 18:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha.. maybe she doesnt want u to talk dirty to her... sometimes it seems vulgar when a woman is not in the mood. u have to be aware of her feelings. she is showing u what she likes and doesn't like.
i know in ur opinon u find it fun to talk that way, and u see it as a Compliment right? but right now, she may want u to be ROMANTIC. sweet. affectionate. not... vulgar.
so, try toning down the dirty talk until u are actually in the mood. if she still doesnt' like it, then figure out what she likes, so that she will be more into y ou instead of worrying about what she doesn't like about u... good luck
2007-12-11 18:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by tarmee2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JIMMY i think its was going all good until the eff you senseles part. different choice of words next time man!!
2007-12-11 18:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by angels shadow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"make love to you" would have been MUCH more acceptable than "eff you senseless" which is SO crude and rude.
2007-12-11 18:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Gina C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you took the romance right out of it with one word....and you know what word that was.
get a clue hun.
2007-12-11 18:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need pointers, you need a new wife.
2007-12-11 18:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to marriage. I'm a psychic and I don't need to read your cards. Good luck!!!
2007-12-11 21:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋