Two hypothetical people have been dating for quite some time. Both are virgins, disease-free. Both are committed to each other even if a child were to be conceived, both are heavily against abortion and heavily for a family united. Both feel that God wants sex to be between two committed partners, not necessarily marriage. They have verses to back this up. If proper protection is used as well, what else is left? Is there any reason not to?
2007-12-11 10:13:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a reason i can think is that if u have sex before marriage, your more focused on the excitement part, and u won't ever really get to know that person well before marriage. focus instead on asking many questions, getting to know their personality, how they react to stress. focusing on the lust part u never really get to know the real them.
2007-12-11 10:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morals, todays society, and personal preference. Also who is to say that these two commited people won't leave one another after the act. Honestly I was a virgin when I got married and have absolutely no desire to be with anyone other than my husband, but my husband who was with other people before our marriage has moments of wanting to wander...it's natural. LOVE is the key issue you haven't covered. Being commited isn't the same as being in love! I personally wouldn't want to be with anyone who didn't love me commited or not and if you are commited why not prove it by marriage!
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2007-12-11 10:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason I can think of is a person's morals and beliefs. They were brought up one way and that cannot be changed. Many people say or believe they should wait but most tend to not wait and I feel as long as you share this moment with someone you love then it is fine.
2007-12-11 10:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hypothetically, no sex isn't the problem.
the problem is that men and women perceive sex differently. it is hard for a woman to tell whether or not a man is out there just for Sex, or cuz he loves her. and it is hard for a woman to have sex and not get emotionally attached.... so it is in her best interest to wait until marriage because 1) it sorts out the guys who want a real relationship, not just sex, and 2) it prevents her from getting too emotionally attached to someone who may or may not stay around.
for a guy...its not as complex. but if he really cares about a woman, he has to understand its her choice, and wait til she's ready. if that means marriage, so be it. a real man would respect that about her.
long story short, waiting til marriage is something for Woman to control, i think. it is in her best interest more ways than one! :)
2007-12-11 10:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by tarmee2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason not to is emotional maturity.
If these two hypothetical people are not emotionally ready to deal with ALL of the ramifications of having sex, then they should wait.
Good luck.
2007-12-11 10:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think anyone should wait for marriage to have sex for the first time. To me it would be like marrying someone you've never seen. You need to explore and find out if you are sexually compatible!
2007-12-11 10:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by tutis000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason I can think of to wait.
2007-12-11 10:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by grneyes8621 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋