and he has a major anger problem. His excuse for smoking was for recreation but, also that it helped control his anger. He has physically abused me about 4 different times in the 1 year that we have been married (not because of no longer smoking pot). Everytime he has tried to quit smoking in the past, he has had major mood swings to where he stays angry. He has only been able to quit smoking for 2 days straight in the past. I'm a little nervous about him abusing me again and more so than before if he does quit smoking. Does anyone think that the abuse could start again since he has quit? Has anyone ever been through abuse because of their significant other's drug withdrawal?
2007-12-11 09:39:49 · 27 answers · asked by Dsoftball 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Abuse is never a good thing. You should encourage him to blaze it up again.
2007-12-11 09:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
LEAVE NOW, PRESS CHARGES!!!!
YOU CAN BE KILLED!!!!
NOONE HAS TO LIVE BEING BEAT!!!!
HAVEN'T YOU WATCHED THE MOVIES? WOMEN DIE LIKE THAT ALL THE TIME!!!
STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THIS MAN BEATING ON YOU!!!!
2007-12-11 09:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kai 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex smoked every day. He was quite the jerk and even more so when he went without it. I was told by a counselor that he would have more than likely been even more abusive if he would have quit completely.....He also had a major anger problem... You don't deserve the abuse, any abuse.
2007-12-11 09:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by GJax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical abuse is a deal breaker. Get out of there and get some help. Al-Anon might be a good resource for you also. Learn about addicts. With addicts, it's always somebody else's fault.
Four bouts of physical abuse in one year? Get out. You're done. Call family and friends for help and leave. There's no future in this. There is absolutely no excuse for physical abuse of a woman. It's goodbye time.
But that's your decision. I'm just saying where I would draw the line. You've got to do what you think is right and what you're prepared to follow through with.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-11 09:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it could start again...isn't there some rehab he can go ot...scary when your man is addicted and reacts like this...almost makes me wonder if one should just find a more stable man or if the potential abuse is worth it
Good luck. Will he go to a therapist? Try a few, some such, but a few rare gems. How about you going? So if he hits you, tell therpaist, and he knows if dangerous, therapist will call police
2007-12-11 10:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my first reactoin was to say to divorce the guy and move on but i know that if you realy love someone that can be inposissible so let focus on somthing else at least he is trying to stop his bad habbit so that you should give him credit for.and if you realy think about it his with draw from the drug is probley going to last for onley a couple weeks and then there should be no mood swings which mean no abuse. so i think that you should encourage him to quit because if he starts up again then he may want to quit again and become abusive then start back up again then try to quit .........u get the point so i say encourage him to quit and the with draw will be over and hopefully no more abuse and you both can be happy together but if he still is abusive after long weeks of withdraw pleaze dont let him blame it on the weed he has anger issues then so please either get him some help or leave him but i wish you the best and i hope that my opinoin helps! good luck!
2007-12-11 09:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by surferchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's the pot. Sure, prolonged use causes mood swings, but you do not get "physically" addicted to marijuana; therefore you cannot have physical withdrawal symptoms. It's more a psychological addiction. He has anger issues because he has anger issues, not because he smokes pot or is trying to quit smoking pot. He's using the drug use as a crutch, as an excuse to continue abusing you. Don't let him!!!! It will only get worse.
2007-12-11 09:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny you need to leave NOW love doesnt play in here SAFTEY does. he is obviously dangerous and do you really want kids with a man like this, if you dont have them already. seriously get out and maybe seek counciling for yourself etc. be smart and LEAVE!
2007-12-11 09:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should either send him to a treatment center or just get out. It only gets worse. I have gone through this & its not easy. I am still with my husband but he is clean now & his mood is much better but sometimes I wonder if he is doing it behind my back bc somedays are like the "old days".
I hope things work out for you.
2007-12-11 09:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by Chantilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stupid for staying in this abusive relationship. A man can only do what you allow him to do. The drug usage is a cover up for something else. He has no right to EVER lay his hands on you. If you are truly afraid, you should go and file a straining order on him.
2007-12-11 09:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, no I can't say I have but you have to look out for yourself. He's hurt you FOUR different times. Once is too much. I know you probably love him and want to help him, but take yourself out of harms way girl. Life is too short to put up with that crap. It sounds like he's just throwing out excuses for EVERYTHING. You sound like a really nice and great person and deserve someone who knows what they have when they have you. Good luck.
2007-12-11 09:45:38 · answer #11 · answered by tarasheridan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋