Me and my boyfriend were together for 4 years. I loved him but he got another girl pregnant and we are still friends but he claims he still loves me. I just don't think he's being fair to do what he done and think I should stick around. I believe in second chances but we really have no future together anymore. I just wonder why I want stop letting him into my life. I wanna get over being his friend too because I now he dosen't want thigns this way and he want let it go. How do I tell my friend that it's time for a change and he needs to grow up?
2007-12-11 08:16:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell him exactly what you just said..you need to be flat out honest...and he needs to stop being a dead beat dad
2007-12-11 08:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
just tell him what is done is done, there is no chance of you two ever being together again and that you feel this friendship needs to end for the sake of both of you. I think you are right in this decison, when you do meet someone else he will either be trouble or accuse you of leading him on, allowing him to believe there was a chance. I doubt your next fb would be happy with that past either. Better to stop any future problems now.
2007-12-11 08:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ladies - how might you sense approximately getting pregnant at age 18? at a loss for words, I even have had some acquaintances who had babys whilst they have been youthful yet now that's the suitable element that has ever got here approximately to them. how might you sense in case you probably did no longer understand who the dad exchange into? disillusioned with myself how might you tell your mothers and fathers / the newborn daddies? mothers and fathers, identity tell my mum first on our very own and then ask her to ease the information to dad. might you maintain her or placed her up for adoption? Me in my opinion no, because of the fact i understand i will make it paintings. I even have relatively supportive acquaintances and kin. if between the accessible 'infant daddies' exchange into treating you unkindly, might you reside with him for the newborn, or pass away him, hoping the youngster could be the different guy's infant? No way i might stay with him, in spite of if it meant being a unmarried mom.
2016-10-11 02:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it... it's time for a change and he needs to grow up!! Just like that. Then stop letting him be in your life. No phone calls, no e-mails,no dropping by to visit. He broke your trust and, you need to move on. He will learn. sorry you going through this though. I know it is hard but, you'll make it.
2007-12-11 08:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it okay to stay with him? Well that's up to you. If you're young you may not want to deal with that level of complication.
As for how to tell him it's time for a change and that he needs to grow up - I suppose you just tell him.
If you're really looking to get shut of this guy then do it. If you want to stay with him then do that. There are no rules for this stuff. Either way you've gotta talk to him. That's where you've gotta start.
Good luck.
2007-12-11 08:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all, you shouldn't be friends with him...im assuming you were together when he got her preg. Come on girl, he cheated you with all the time and love you put into things...If he really cared, he wouldn't have cheated in the first place..Hes a guy, meaning hes replaceable
2007-12-11 08:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by Speedstar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just like that! That it's time for a change and that he needs to grow up!
How dare he say that he still loves you after getting another girl pregnant.
He is lucky that you are even still talking to him, much less being nice.
2007-12-11 08:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just like you told us!!!!
Honey, I dated this jerk, and while I was dating him for six months, he was also seeing another girl and got her pregnant, at the same time he was accusing me of cheating on him!!!!!
I guess he could not keep it in his pants!!!! He is now the father of two sons by two different women!!!!!!!
I told him where to go and what to do with it!!!!!!!!
I did not want "it" or him anywhere near me!!!
Such a male w h o r e !!!!!!!!
2007-12-11 08:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. There will be way too much drama. Think about the baby that is going to be born, and the mother of that baby. I don't think this will be a good idea.
2007-12-11 08:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by Armina's Mommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want the responsibility of caring for a child, so would rather go back to you (the safety net). If he loved you, it would have prevented his lack of judgement in the first place. Tell him to bite the bullet, and take responsibility for his new bundle of joy.
2007-12-11 08:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by BIRDY85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not take someone back that cheated especially if another child was involved that is just wrong. A relationship without trust is not a relationship worth having.
2007-12-11 08:27:17 · answer #11 · answered by ஐ♥Vanessa♥ஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋