An idea. Marriage seems rather an aniquated idea these days. What if marriage licenses had to be renewed every X years if the couple was still interested?
If they aren't they go their separate ways without all the divorce legalities. I supposed that oversimplifying things, but it seems like a decent idea for marriages that seemed like a good idea at the time, but don't work out.
2007-12-11 02:39:47 · 22 answers · asked by Joe S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you think if they dont want to renew they will just peacefully seperate their things and everything will be fine.
The same problems will exist. People will still want what they deserve. And in a lot of cases more than what they deserve.
2007-12-11 02:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For those that don't get a marriage unnulled, I'd say this was a good idea for people not metting together for the right reasons. The vows are great and people should try to work things out, but the fact is some people can or will not try.
If people fall out of love and don't want a messy divorce, this idea could work.
Only problems I see are children and property. In those cases they may hav eto go to Court anyway or follow some pre-made laws for these couples.
Good idea for the most part though. If ya find out your married to the wrong person, thats a great mess-free way out.
2007-12-11 02:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think the term of the marriage should be up to the couple, not an arbitrary figure around five years set by the government. I have heard some people argue that there are naturally three committed relationships in life--some people miss out on one, and many people have more than one of these relationships with the same person, but that we need someone to finish finding our identities and growing up with (the high school or college sweetheart), someone to rear children with, and someone to grow old with. In an ideal world, you'd have two people who are well suited to deal with each other in all three situations, but in the real world, it may be easier to find three people--one for each time of your life. Setting up marriage laws accordingly (and having almost everyone sign prenups to make divorce/ending a marriage less painful) could help a lot of people be happy and feel less trapped in the grind of life.
2007-12-11 02:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure all couples have had the thought of "why did I get married" or "what if I'd stayed single". Having second thoughts esp after a long marriage or after traumatic life events is normal. That honeymoon period isn't sposed to last 50 yrs. Be nice if it did. As we get older people change, as such ending a marriage peacefully in this way could help.
2007-12-11 04:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Football girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think people stay married because it tends to cause more trouble than it solves to get divorced.
I would think this would be a great idea for a lot of people. These things need to be updated with the times and how people's attitudes are nowadays.
Divorce rates and adultery would probably decrease (imho), since the people know they will be "free" in a few months/years and would just have to hang in there till that time.
2007-12-11 02:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cal A 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes vows are forever, but what if the person your married to changes drastically from the person you married? My brother's wife experienced a death in her family and she's never been the same person. They get along as friends now, but they fight alot and she's always really bitter anymore no matter how supportive he tried to be. She's a changed person. Granted thats a "For Worse" situation, but they aren't exactly a happy couple anymore. Closer to friends than spouses. She's in such a depression, he says its like having another child in the house to care for. She does NOTHING now and he does everything in the house.
The vows aren't just "this is it and your stuck with each other forever". Thats a scary thought and certain situations need to be considered.
2007-12-11 03:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would be like Utopia (a fantasy world) only negative or scared people who are trying to keep their spouses in marriages because of the kids don't agree.....Anyhow if a man/woman wants to be there for the children divorce will not stop them
2007-12-11 02:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is supposed to be forever, those people who want to go through a renewal process every x amount of years have no reason getting married until they can see themselves being with that person forever.
2007-12-11 02:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow that's the best idea i've heard in a long time! Not that i want to get out of my marriage (right now) but that would be great to know that in x amount of years when it came up for renewal we could choose to continue or not without any headache. nice..you get a star!
2007-12-11 02:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by M J 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think it would make people want to leave more, when your married you tend to work things out more, seeing that if i had only a year to put up with someone then heck ya... id leave.. but i think it would be good for these people that dont marry for love.
2007-12-11 02:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋