He's been having lengthy phone conversations with female coworkers, and has pretty much been hiding it from me. He's never cheated on me (that I know of), but this is the fourth woman I've "caught" him talking to. He says they're just friends, but he talks to her several times a day, sometimes for more than an hour. Am I being paranoid?
2007-12-11 02:25:17 · 39 answers · asked by paperclip 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've heard men tend to think it's only wrong if they do anything physical with the woman but it sometimes starts with just talking . He might not be cheating but if he's talking to another woman several times a day and for over an hour, something doesn't seem right. Maybe try to confront this to him and tell him that it bothers you, that he's talking to another woman. Maybe he's just the type of guy who can be just friends with women. You will only find out when you ask him about it. Just bring it up casually, not accusing or anything, you don't want to put him on the defensive.
2007-12-11 02:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by prinsisss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For sure not paranoid, Time for your guard to go up. I'd be damned if my husband is coming home from work & talking to a female co-worker for over an hour on the phone...Leave your work at work. And if it is truly about work, there is no need to hide it from you at all. Husbands & wives share everything, and should be no secrets between them. I'd say time to investigate a bit & see what you find out... Good Luck
2007-12-11 02:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Blu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When the phone calls with this other woman start only lasting a couple minutes or less that's when you worry because they are only making plans about where to meet to have sex, all the flirting is over and no need to talk and cause suspicion... From my experience you can explain/ blow off a two minute phone conversation far easier than a hour long one, of course I'm only in it for the sex so i could be wrong in your case he could be and or falling in love with her and going to leave you..
2007-12-11 02:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not think you are being paranoid, but only sensing what every woman would. It is inappropriate for your husband to hide any relationship be it female or male, and to have these lengthy phone conversations. I would find out exactly what he is up to! I'm sorry for your worry..Good luck!
2007-12-11 02:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jengi 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No you are not being paranoid and yes, these phone calls are extremely innappropriate for a married man. -I would feel I was doing something wrong if I was talking to another woman on the phone, and that's because there is no reason, outside of business, for a married man to talk to another woman on the phone. I'm sure there are some carefree & fancy liberal souls on this forum that will say that he should be able to have his friends, blah, blah, blah... but seriously marraige is a wonderful place to maintain some conservative values. Good luck, hopefully your husband is just thoughtlessly stupid, and not deceitful.
2007-12-11 02:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you are being paranoid at all. He might not be cheating but it is very disrespectful to have lenghty conversations with women that many times a day. Start doing the same thing to him and see what his reaction will be. Sometimes a taste of their own medicine is the only thing that will teach them.
2007-12-11 02:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
paranoid? No- u r husband is a creepo! Of course you want to beleive he is not cheating. That is what he wants too. Are you kidding me! key word here is "caught". Most men cheat...that is common knowledge. He is sickening because he relly isn't hiding it that well from u. What an idiot!
2007-12-11 02:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i would have to say it all depends on what theyre talking about because if its work related im sure its no problem but if they are just talking to talk then I personally think you have somthing to worry about and I would recomend expressing your feelings to your husband because somtimes they dont even know its bothering you and youll just let it boil up inside when it could actaully be somthing as small as work talk. But i recomend confronting him on the issue because that is the most effective and upfront way to deal with your issues.
2007-12-11 02:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, paranoia here. You need to bring to his attention that he hurts you and takes away valuable time together when he talks to this woman. As far as the cheating goes, emotional cheating is sometimes worse than physical cheating. Be careful. How would he feel if you did the same thing?
2007-12-11 02:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What your husband hides things from you there is a reason. He either is doing something he shouldn't or feels like he can't tell you what he's doing for one reason or another. Either way, there is a big communication problem in your marriage. Get some counseling now.
2007-12-11 02:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by naf23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋