im a cancer women and im engaged to an aquarian man....?

Question

We have a 3 month old together. But our relationships is going for ok to worse. I feel that i'm always the one looking for him and trying to be close to him. While he just does his own thing. it hurts me because he constantly disrespects me /but he thinks its funny. and It jus hurting my feelings alot. Do i stay strong an make it work. Its so hard i don't know what to do i don't want my son to grow up with out a dad like i did. So I feel like i'm in a catch 22. I feel stuck.

Answer 1

My sister is a Cancer and her husband an Aquarius. Their relationship is challenged here and there, but relationships are challenging no matter the signs of those involved. No two humans are 100% compatible and all relationships, including marriages, take 2 partners, both enduring, both striving, both tolerating and both compromising in order to sustain.

If he is emotionally distant, have you asked him why? When you say he "disrespects" you, what does that mean--how? Is he good to your child? Is he a good provider? Are you? Does he have a steady job? Do you work? Does he hit you? Does he act dangerously around your child (drinking, drugs)? Does he go out with friends and leave you at home with the baby? Are there arguments often?

You didn't mention your ages, how long you've been together or your living situation so, leaving those factors out, I can only say that the boundaries you set in the relationship for yourself will define the scope of contentment you feel or don't feel. If his boundaries are different from yours, there will continue to be problems. Having a child together complexes the issue, redefines boundaries and will increase tolerance of behaviors that use to be unacceptable while decreasing tolerance of behaviors that use to be acceptable.

My personal belief is to always exhaust every single possible solution before abandoning ship. Weigh the benefits, the good things in the relationship against what you would have if you weren't together. If he asked you to marry him, he must intend to at least ~try~ to stick it out for the long haul. Don't give up unless you 100% feel that the negative factors in the relationship extend far beyond the boundaries for happiness you've set. Don't give up until you know 100% there is no other solution or unless you or your child are in immediate danger. The fact that you "don't know what to do" says that you're not ready to bail.

Good luck to you and your family. I hope everything works out for all of you.

Answer 2

I grew up with parents who fought all the time. It would have been better if we had one happy parent. It is not always the best to stay with a person who is not a good match. I am a Aquarius if that matters. I love to travel and entertain wile my DH likes to sit on the sofa watching movies. It sure is not easy. At least he lets me go away ones a year for a business trip so I get a little of my traveling fix. Aquarius are in general great people but do like their freedom. My guy is a scorpion and really not much better. He does what he wants comes home when he wants. Makes me feel like we as a family are not important. Maybe it is just a guy thing.

Answer 3

First, the question is not about Cancer vs Aquarius anymore.
It's about believing you're above these kind of things to make your relationship work. Not everything in this world is pre-determined by your sign. You have choices and you can change things.
From your description, we can not tell how bad the making fun and direspect is.
You obviously need someone who respects you and will be a good father.
You need to analyze the situations in more details. Could it be that your relationship is deteriorating because he's not used to the new baby or was he always selfish and not respecting you?

Think a lot. You need a good perosn to bring up your child with. Your child probably need a father...

Good Luck

Answer 4

The time of year you were born has nothing to do with your baby's daddy being an ******. Make him realise what he is doing is not right for any of you including your child. It's amazing what children pick up from adults from such an early age. The child will learn behaviour from either you or your partner or both. Stop it all now. But stay together. He needs fixing, no point in losing a stable family just to kick him out of your life. If you are Christian, pray about it, and pray together that things work out well and for everyone's well being.

Answer 5

Well, you said that the relationship was never strong to begin with. Ask yourself. Do you love him? Only you can decide if your relationship is worth saving, not a bunch of strangers online, they don`t know you. They might have some helpful ways to help you decide though.

Answer 6

I am a sag married to an aquarius..go figure..you should sit him down and have a serious convo with him..tell him how you feel maybe that will help..good luck

Answer 7

Blame Mercury being in retrograde.

That said, you need to have "the talk" with him. He either gets his act together or he gets out. No discussion.

Answer 8

so if i was married to a Taurus, and I'm an aquarian man, does it make it all good?

no, i meant the Ford Taurus.


leave him, not because he is an idiot, leave him because he doesn't care about your feelings.

Answer 9

Well catch your way out....at least you don't have to divorce him, just call off the engagement. lucky you! It has nothing to do with his horoscope sign, I believe something else is going on.

Answer 10

me and my fiance are backwards, i am the aquarian, and he is the cancer, and yes sweetie, us aquarians are not the touchy feely type, my fiance is always the one looking for me, telling me he loves me, and well me, idk... i really do love him, its just that were not as open on stuff like that as you cancers.. but... i dont know, at least i TRY!! and your fiance seems like he isnt trying, just give him a chance, for your baby, but unfortunately if its not going to work, its not going to work...