I used to think no you shouldn't. But after a horrible marriage and a religious upbringing I've changed my mind. If you live together for a year you'll find out the problems with no strings attached. It would stop many bad marriages before they start. Just look at the divorce rate now.
2007-12-11 02:18:07 · 21 answers · asked by stevel226 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you! I think you should try living together 1st an if all goes well then go for the plunge! Living together brings out the ugly things in people! Getting to know each other is what it is! The way they brush their teeth or sleep is important in a marriage! You see this pretty girl dating an when you marry you wake up beside a monster! A lot of problems come out after you live together! So I agree with you totally!!!
2007-12-11 02:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by ajjsdj4ever 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a matter of preference and what you and your partner are most comfortable with.
When my Husband and I were only dating, we knew eventually that we would marry in the future. We were ready and comfortable living together as a couple before we wed. We basically lived together for 7 years, had a child then later wed. The steps we took may not have been traditional but at least it's working out just fine and we couldn't be any happier. 8 years and counting.
2007-12-11 02:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know plenty of people that have great marriages and didn't live together. Whatever you do you need to know that other person, what they are like in a crisis, how they treat you as a person, what they want and what you want out of a relationship. You can get that without living together and some people who live together don't figure it out, and still end up divorced later. Living together is no guarantee. The best thing is to really find out what makes a good, healthy, mature relationship, know what kind of person is right for you, and don't ignore red flags.
2007-12-11 02:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jen70 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I use to think No, but after two horrible marriages, I say yes.
It's like this. If you choose not to have an extensive engagement like two or three years; live together first. Sad but true, people tend to hide thier true feelings, like trust issues, controlling issues, self esteen issues etc;. Easily done for a month or two.
The objective of engagement or living together; will show the true person prior to making a lifelong comittment.
Both of my marriages, could had been prevented by a long engagement or living together.
2007-12-11 02:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Keeper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just always live together, and keep things separate. It isn't common law, and therefore communal property until 8 years. Divorces are messy. About the only reason to marry is to legitimize children. If those aren't going to be in your life, why bother?
2007-12-11 02:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should live with the person you are thinking of marrying. I too am a Christian and have had much teaching but I have learned that much of the teaching is not relevant to today's world ( know this will frost some Christians out there but it is the truth)
Please read the information I am providing...it may clear up a number of questions for you.
http://www.libchrist.com/bible/premaritalsex.html
http://www.libchrist.com/bible/whymarriage.html
http://www.libchrist.com/bible/faithof.html
I don't see many others offering resources and information so gather as much information as you can to make your decision but I personally say live with the person before you marry them.
2007-12-11 02:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me an my man have lived together for the last 3, almost 4 years. We have a Roman Catholic Wedding planned for next year.
We both have been raised traditional Catholics and we are glad we really got to know one another before jumping into marriage.
We are ready. Really ready.
And these people throwing statistics around are ridiculous!
A marriage is what two people make it, whether they lived together prior to marriage, or not.
2007-12-11 02:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, sure it gos against the rules, but I'd like to live with someone first, and get to know them better, sure beats going through a divorce in five years. Ask some one who knows had I known what I know now, I wouldn't have married him.
2007-12-11 02:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just depends on you..my hub and I lived together first and we have been together now 17 years--two unmariied 15 married. So it is a load of crap that those of us who do it don't have any regard for the institution of marriage.
2007-12-11 02:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Stacies Mom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i do think it's for the best. it's the only real way to see if you are compatable and can stand to be around each other day and night. i also believe in sex before marriage because, again if you are not compatable it will put a strain on the relationship. Think about it..would you buy a car without test driving it? i dont think so.
2007-12-11 02:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by M J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋