Is it more trouble to divorce than its really worth?

Question

Assuming the couple doesn't hate each other, of course.

Answer 1

Hello generally by the time couples start think divorce it is quite a few thing that they just can not fix and it is hurting the relationship.And for the reasons two people get married if they are destroyed I think it is a waste of time to remained married besides if you are not performing husband and wife duties then the next step is adultery and disrespect some people try and stay together because of fiance reasons or the children but 9 times out of 10 they finally say goodbye and get on with their lives.

Answer 2

Well, if you don't hate each other, why bother with a divorce? A divorce is a lot of trouble. And if you have much in the way of assets, you cut that in half. It's not a good thing financially and it takes a lot out of a person emotionally. There is also the feeling of failure. Most people don't enter into a marriage with the idea of getting a divorce. So a divorce is not a very good feeling for most people.

So if you have any ability to improve things, you're better off doing that. As long as there isn't addiction, abuse, infidelity, etc... your odds of making things better are very good. There must be some reason you married this guy in the first place.

But if you just can't stand a person and they're a real ****** and you can't work things out then I don't see much point in continuing.

As a general rule, if you improve yourself, your relationship will improve. Give that a shot. If it doesn't work after 6 mos or a year then think about the divorce. If your husband is a total jerk and a wife abuser and an addict then get out now.

Divorce sucks. Avoid it if you can.

Hope this helps.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Hi Ash, My last marriage (4th one) lasted for 20 years, till she did the same thing the other three did, she cheated on me with some guy she met in the bar and left me for him. Needless to say, I was devastated. But, after all that I've been through, married to four different women, and all four of them were unfaithful, what do I think of marriage ? Well for one thing, if my ex were to wake up and fly right, I'd still want to put our marriage back together. I not only miss her, but I miss being married. If you're married to someone that is faithful and true, someone that has high moral values and standards, someone that is a good and rational person, marriage can and should be the ultimate happiness of your life. And when married, both parties must be willing to do everything and anything, to keep it that way. The last time I looked, which I admit has been awhile, the divorce rate in the US was right around 50%, with women filing for the divorces at somewhere between 60 to 75% of the time. Too often people sometimes seem to think that marriage is supposed to be one big long running party and when they find out that it's just not that way, many of them forget all about their marriage vows, and want to bail out for something more exciting. Water finds it's own level, and so does marriage, but with two people that are committed to each other, and are willing to do what it takes, a marriage can last. And of course our hokey "no fault" divorce laws in this country, make it all too easy for someone that is getting bored with their marriage, to just walk away without spending the time or effort to work things out and keep it together. But how to find the right person ? Ahhhhh, that's the question. In my opinion, a good Christian person with high moral values and standards, would be a good place to start. Is this person of good conscience, honest and slow to anger ? There are so many different problems that can enter into a marriage that are too numerous to list here, but if you do get married you'll recognize them if and when they come up, at least I hope so. The important thing to remember is this, communication ! Always keep the line of communication open. Never be afraid to sit down and talk, if you think there are problems popping up, no matter how small. Never hold things inside and let them work on you. Now, your question was: Is marriage worth the trouble ? My answer is yes, yes, a thousand times yes. And by the way, if you ever happen to see my ex, tell her I still love her. :-) God bless.

Answer 4

Not everyone divorces because they dislike each other, dear. There's life events and circumstances that make it so some couples can't be together. Such as being a policeman, may be too stressful for the spouse, so they leave even tho they still have feeling for the police officer. They just can't live with that stressful feeling every nite.

Answer 5

If you have another relationship which you think is going to give you much more pleasure of life, then go ahead and divorce.
But, it seems , you are not mentally prepared for it.In fact , you don't find good reason to divorce him .
It's better for you to continue with him as husband and wife when you don't hate `each other ( I guess , you have a soft corner in your heart for him).

Answer 6

honestly the only trouble there is, is financial and you can get legal aide for that. if you can make the marriage work you should try if not you cant stay married to the person and live seperate lives cause its too much trouble. whose that fair too. when you date someone and realize hey we could get married and here comes the oh **** i am already married and it could take a year to get my divorce....the smart thing is not to take the lazy way out be married or divorced

Answer 7

Some people just fall out of love or the kids grow up and they decide they've drifted apart. They may still like each other, just don't want to be married anymore.

Why get married if you don't like each otherer? Well, duh they probably did like each other at first. Its after ahwil it starts falling apart for whatever reason.

Alot of military spouses divorce because they want a more stable life, not because they dislike their spouse.

Answer 8

It is a bit of a hassle to go through a divorce with the lawyers and all but it is worth it in the end.

Answer 9

if its a non contested divorce, can be over in a matter of a few months but if its a contested one, it can take several months even years.

Answer 10

its always trouble thats why i dont plan on getting married