Marriage & Divorce - 29 November 2007

I would never want to be with a woman romatically, I have my husband for that. But sexually I have desires to be with a woman. I never have before but would love to. My husband satisfies me but the curiousity has nothing to do with him, I don't want to be with other men, just him. We have sort of talked about this when I was about 18 or so (I am now 26) and he was cool with it but I know him now and I know he would not like it. He would think of it as cheating and would feel like he is not man enough for me. How do I deal with my feelings since it seems like I will never get to fulfill my fantasy?

2007-11-29 07:10:21 · 12 answers · asked by nicaraguangurl494 1

we were having problems, I started going out too much, thats when it started-I read every message he sent her an viceversa an shes on the other side of the world, shes hot as, younger etc Im gutted! my mans shy by nature, gentle an I know I wasnt giving him what he wanted at that time(attention wise) an its a wake up call for sure-but its the pain/hurt in my mind body an soul that I have in me an I just want to move on with our lives together but its that trust issue I have...I know its exciting, harmless flirting an that but hes not one to talk about his deep feelings (hes a man) an Im very much a communicator. End of the day he was my world/rock/soulmate an I dont wanna feel this hurt/pain anymore...Im loyal an faithful 100% we've been together for 6yrs an have two girls together,he is not a player by nature as we were friends first before we hooked up so I know that but...some different heartfelt thoughts on this subject please...Thanks alot

2007-11-29 07:02:24 · 13 answers · asked by jadana125 1

I need to make some decisions real quick here.
Background info: married 15 yrs, 2 kids (preteen). Relationship been going downhill for years now. Husband too busy with work, no time for family. Should note that his after-hrs "dinners" go well into midnite +. He says its part of his job. When hes home, he sleeps, watches tv. Oblivious to prob. w marriage tho ive told him. Now he's been asked to move to another province. Wants family to go with him. I've thought for some time now that I dont want a loveless, marriage - we live parallel lives, sleep in separate beds etc. But have stayed for kids (I know not good - as im realizing now - kids have suffered because of it). He favours one boy over the other and it annoys me to no end: one of the reasons he's having behaviour problems at school. I only work pt and make a 1/6 of what he makes and it seems that we as a family are used to a certain income. For sure cant make it with 2 boys on my income. What 2 do? Stay or go?

2007-11-29 07:01:45 · 28 answers · asked by Dreamer 2

2007-11-29 06:29:26 · 9 answers · asked by DesignStar 1

I've been married for the last seven and half years and am very seriously considering divorce. My husband and I have grown apart - he is from europe and i'm from here. We had a baby last year and he moved his mother in, which adds to further tension in the marriage since she meddles in everything. It has gotten to the point where I don't want to go home at night.....I feel no love for him and don't know what to do or how to go about getting a divorce. He is so dilusional that he feels the relationship is fine as it is. Is he blind?

2007-11-29 06:20:17 · 19 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2

My Girlfriend's friends are brainwashing her.
They are using all efforts to pull her away from me. She loves me but when she talks to one of her friends on phone she becomes too attentive that she does'nt even listens to me. I feel that girl is brainwashing her a lot.

We had sex 20-30 times & i made a lot of promises to her, but now i feel that our marriage can't be a success because i think that even after marriage her friend/s will influence her & keep on interfering in our life in an indirect manner.

Since, i made so much promises to this girl, will it be OK if i initiate the break-up.

Ps Note:- If i tell her not to talk with this girl or that girl she will say OK, but she will lie with me & keep on talking to these girls

I am in a tizzy & i pull my hairs as i love this girl very very very much but she sounds to be immature as the person who listens to another is immature. I am 27 & she is 21.

2007-11-29 06:14:10 · 11 answers · asked by vikki 1

I have been with my hubby for 4 1/2 yrs. We have a 2yr old son. I have a high sex drive. I feel frustrated because he turns sex with me down all of the time...not some but all of the time! I am lucky if I have sex 2 times a month! Seriously. He does not have erectile dysfuntion because when he is erect...which is alot of the time...i start to initiate sex or touch him...and he yells at me says get off of me! got to sleep karen! leave me alone. then i say why do u push me away? he says because u annoy me. then we get in an argument. see it makes me upset cuz he and his ex wife always had sex. as a matter of fact he was the one that always wanted sex ...with her...but why with me he doesn't ? it hurts me bad. it depresses me. he even says whats ur problem? i say i am depressed..i want to be intimate with you but u push me away and i want to be close to you and please you. he said the other day he wants to be the initiater and not me. so i say ok when ever u want sex from me then...

2007-11-29 06:09:21 · 44 answers · asked by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4

he cleans, cooks and do the laundry... but he doesn't have a job. Is this alright?

2007-11-29 06:05:07 · 13 answers · asked by fierce charm 1

because about twice a month her husband can't finish.... He told her he is aroused but she doesn't believe him...she is really upset. He is in his mid fortys.

2007-11-29 06:02:34 · 17 answers · asked by Rein 5

I know for a fact that anyone who I am with or who I have been with would have NEVER cheated on me didn't you guys pick this up that they had a wondering eye before ever marrying them?

2007-11-29 05:54:49 · 22 answers · asked by ღKrissyღ 5

I just got an offer to make more money, but it would involve taking my clothes off. What would you do, are you for this, or against it? Keep in mind though that after you take off your clothes, it would go further then that.......

2007-11-29 05:53:24 · 22 answers · asked by zukikoo 2

This is a question relating to me and my husband. I have a couple of other questions relating to this. ANd yes, it's very tempting not to call my husband the next time i'm due to. As I've stated, he requested me to call him, and now, he's ignoring me. But that isn't right either. I don't think he'll get the point I'm trying to make. I know I won't get a clear answer. I need definates in words at times, so this would just confuse me...not knowing what he thinks and feels. I don't want to fight over the phone, but it seems this is what it is coming to. I just want an effective verbal way of finding out what's going on so I can be clear on the issue w/o any doubts(if i don't call him like some have suggested...then he might not call me out of spite, not disinterest, and i don't want grey areas like that to exist for my own understanding).

2007-11-29 05:51:57 · 4 answers · asked by Uncertain Soul 6

Last night we were out and this guy was talking about playing cards for money to both of us. My wife loves to play cards so she asked him for more details. She was just asking about the details and that's all. I was right there with her.

This guy kept on talking to my wife who is really attractive, about it and later on approached her when I wasn't nearby.

Without being rude she was giving him all the signals that she didn't want to talk to him anymore.

It was funny to see him keep on trying to "chat" her up and he would wait for me to walk away and then try again. Before he finally got the message.

So my question is why can't some men see that a woman isn't interested in them and even take obvious hints?

Is it that they think they are irresistable or they completely misconstrue everything that's said to them?

And why would a man think my wife would be after him especially when I am right their with her?

Are some people are just that stupid?

2007-11-29 05:51:03 · 11 answers · asked by Hypnotoad 2

My wife will not stay off the computer,she's talking to guys and there asking to meet her and the dumb thing is she's been thinking about doing it every time she gets mad at me. Sex cybering and all,Not cool with me...Anybody having the same problem here? I sure hope not. Thank You All, Signed Lost in my own home.

2007-11-29 05:50:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 5 months into our relationship my boyfriend proposed to me and said he was prepared to marry me within the next month. I was all for it, but conflict arose when discussing where we would live. I already have a daughter and she was to start school soon and he wanted to move to another city. I didn't feel comfortable changing schools without having time to look into what would be the best fit for her. Anyhow, I felt that he was starting to back out of it since I didn't want to move and he was unwilling to move closer to us until we decided what was best for everyone. So it was called off. Now four months later, I am in need of constant reassurance that he still loves me and he can't understand why. He says I'm causing him problems when I question his feelings for me. It's hard for me to trust that the relationship will progress and he says he doesn't have the energy to keep discussing this issue over his feelings for me. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

2007-11-29 05:44:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

what is the role of a husband in his wife's life.

2007-11-29 05:40:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf knows that my sister may be bi & every time he talks about her he takes the pi$$ saying "bet she's licking pu$$y right now" etc in a mocking disrespectful way. I ask him to stop as I don't like anyone talking about my family in a disrespectful way - he continues to do it & says it's funny. I turned it round & called his sister a $lut & to see how he liked it when the shoe was on the other foot. He still thinks when he says it it's funny but if I say anything it's out of order.
What do you think & what should I say/do?

2007-11-29 05:25:40 · 50 answers · asked by Meeeee! 5

a young woman I lived with approx. 1989-1994. She had 2 daughters, J & R. The mom, M, will not allow contact now. The courts are not involved yet, and attorneys I contact tell me that if I exersize my parental right and get the courts to mandate visits the court will also mandate a child support fine, so large that it is in my best interest to not try and see these kids. i disagree. so does my religion. I am searching an attorney and asking for ways to repair, reconcile, or at least get a definate Y or N in the childrens best interest.

2007-11-29 05:18:18 · 14 answers · asked by travis 5

Ok I am severly depressed right now.

I was with my Bipolar girlfriend for almost 5 years....Last December she left me for 2 months cuz she thought I needed to change....I was to blame for all.....she came back and I allowed her to even though she is the one who left me. We were together for about 5 more months this time and she left me again, with everything being worse this time and with her being nastier than I have ever heard or seen her. She is untreated and wild as a fireball right now. I know I can't force her to get help so please don't say that. Right now I am not supposed to contact her at all. Her friends are bad and they influence her and she is getting married to a girl she has only known 2 months and met over the internet on her phone.

I have psychological problems too but I have been getting help for the last 2 years. She knew as well as I did, it was going to be a process...and even though I changed some things and was somewhat better from the first time she left,

2007-11-29 05:09:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Most of the people I know who are past 40 years old have had some "terrible, painful, very sad, and disappointing relationships in their past" thus it seems like even though they are looking now, they seem to be quite distant, less trusting, and more cautious. Some people even have this way of viewing the new guy or girl as if she is similar or like the other. I call it "Scars of Divorce or Breakups" Should that person be looking now if they don't trust people at present? Many of us (myself included) want a good relationship but at the same time another part of us says, "remember what happened before, remember what the last person who said I love you did to you, and do you want to go through all of this again? You better be careful.... better single than heartbroken again." So with thoughts like that floating around, maybe it's best that we stay single? whats your opinion?

2007-11-29 05:08:11 · 11 answers · asked by Housecat 3

My Hubby and I are not actually married. We have been together for 3 years and plan to stay together forever, but don't really want to get married. We have a baby together. I don't like the fact that my daughter has a different last name than me. I was thinking of just changing my last name to his too, or hyphenating, although I have always been kind of against the hyphenating thing.

Last year a gay couple we are friends with got married (we live in Canada where it is legal) and they changed both their last names to a new one that they both picked out. They adopted two little boys this fall and changed the kids last name to theirs.

My Hubby recently asked me if I would like to do the same thing they did. I am undecided on whether to do this or not. My main problem is that he has a son who is 8 years old from a previous relationship and I think he will feel left out. His Mom is still super bitter and I am sure she will not consent to changing his name. What should we do?

2007-11-29 04:56:08 · 18 answers · asked by Alberta Mama 5

My little brother has been living with me for one month and he is 18. He has been acting like he was looking for work, he don't want to work & he lives my home dirty. He has no where to go really. What should I do with him? I don't want him in my home no more if he is not going to try to do nothing I'm thinking he should go to the National Gard.

2007-11-29 04:55:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Married 12 yrs,one child 7yrs, says he is unhappy for a long while he didnt talk to me about it says i should have know something was wrong. He has gone out to find an aprtment, then he will deploy for 10 months we only have 5-6 mo to make things work, we have had long talks he doesnt want to go to counseling etc.. please give me some advise on how to handle all this while he is moved out.

2007-11-29 04:55:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have been together 6 years and married 5 months he works 6 sometimes 7 days a week from 8am to 11pm i already have a 7 tear old whom i love with all my heart but he wants a child of his own now.from the time we got ttogether he has known that i do not want more children.i dont want him to regret marring me or divorce me because of this.the reason i dont want anymore children is because i am afraid.we have issues now.and i cant bear to have another child and divorce(god forbid) again.even if and when things get better we can discuss it.but he just does'nt understand.

2007-11-29 04:45:55 · 40 answers · asked by lisa l 2

1) In c.1200-1500, it was unlawful in England for a woman under the age of 24 to marry??!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage

2) That a man could have intercourse with with a girl in Germany; as long as she's at least 14 years old? And with a girl in Spain; as long as she's 13 years old? And with a girl in Mexico; as long as she's 12 years old? Do these countries advocate paedophillia or what??

3) That the age of consent in America differs from one state to another (eg in California it's 18, but in Alabama it's 14!!!), and thus you could be a rapist for having a relationship with a 17.5 year old girl in California, while being a normal guy for being with a 14 year old in Alabama?!!!!

4) In America, a man can have an unlimited number of girlfriends at the same time...could have an unlimited number of boyfriends at the same time...yet cannot marry more than one wife at a time??!!

5) In many American states, adultery is not a reasonable excuse for divorce??!

2007-11-29 04:43:14 · 9 answers · asked by Ash'ari Maturidi 5

My fiance does not get along well with his mom. He won't allow her to control his life, so she doesn't stop with the complaining and guilt tripping (bringing up the past). They usually end the phone conversation with her yelling and him biting his tongue and him hanging up. I feel bad for him because he is NOT a bad son. He and I are planning to marry, we haven't told her yet but as he ended his last marriage to his ex of 6 years, all she could say to him was "Great so this just means ur going to re-marry!!" and then she goes on saying how I'm only out to use him - which I am not (obviously) and that if we marry our marriage WILL fail. It's like she doesn't want her son to be happy. I encouraged my fiance during the summer to have lunch/dinner with her - yet she finds any mistake like him being late or something to complain about and always says, make sure you come alone. She always finds a way to make him feel bad and says, "I NEVER wanna meet Stellah, EVER!!" .. we're like "okaaaaay"

2007-11-29 04:43:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with this guy for 2 years and 6 months every now and then he has this moment were he is pissed off after i tell him something and he start telling me every thing that has been buging him that i do, like i ask him how much is check is every Friday and that buds him but i do the bills and i have gain 30 pounds and he told me that i should lose cuase my strght marks make him sick and for my health and he also said that i should put make up on for work so i show a good impression told me that i need to stop talking about marrages cause right now he doesn't see us getting married any time soon and he also told me that he somethimes doesn't want to be with me and some times he does. Then after that he went in the bed room and was crying he told me that he wanted to be alone so i did,the next moring he was telling me he was sorry and he shouldn't of said anything. this time he said so hurtfull stuff what am i supposed to do please help me.

2007-11-29 04:39:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

At 29, my days as attractive young man are all but over. I have never had serious gf's and only a couple of sexual partners. I want to settle down with someone. But I don't like to chase and pursue women for 1) I am not good at, I always come across as too eager or whatever 2) I am getting too old to play mindgames with women 3)I have low self-confindence issues

Do I have a chance ever of getting married or am I hopelessly destined to sit on my barcalounger watching History Channel by myself for the rest of my life. At this point, i don't want to play the field anymore, I just want to settle down.

Am I crazy for thinking this? Will I become another Confirmed Bachelor?

2007-11-29 04:37:03 · 9 answers · asked by John L 4

My spouse and I have been together for 3 1/2 years, and married for 2. Lately I just feel like we are going through the motions and I am with him because I love him not because I am in love with him. He seems to think everything is the same, but I am bored out of my mind. I miss when we snuggled all day and couldn't wait to get home to each other. I guess I miss the lust in other words. Does this eventually fade or am I leading down the road to seperation? Do any of you ever feel the same way? I feel like a bad person because he does any and everything I ask him to. My friends say I am crazy because he is "a good man." I haven't cheated or anything like that and I am not going to, but what should I do to get that butterfly feeling back again?

Married people only please

2007-11-29 04:37:00 · 15 answers · asked by shethang 2

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3.5 years come Jan. We have been living with each other for 16 months almost. He is attending a medical school in another country and I quit my job in the states as a teacher 16 months ago to come here with him. We are here for just the basic sciences portion of medical school then we'll we back in the U.S. I am getting frustrated because he has not talked about marriage or getting engaged much. Am I right for getting frustrated?

2007-11-29 04:30:52 · 15 answers · asked by Lauren S 1