Marriage & Divorce - 29 November 2007

I have a long time boyfriend, for about 4 1/2 almost 5 years now. my parents, being the nice people they are, have accepted him into their home and he's been living with us for the past few years. his dad does have a house right down the street also, but he would rather spend the nights with me. my problem is that he's very bad with money. we decided to move out and get our own apartment, but he hasn't saved any money. he'll get his paycheck and blow it that day on drinking and partying. sometimes he'll drink for two days strait. now i'm feeling like i should just move out without him. i could afford it myself, i just got a promotion and already have enough saved. but i know he'll end up spending nights with me anyways and not having to pay rent. basicly, i want to still date him, but him not to depend on me. how do i go from living with him to casually dating again? i already know he will not offer rent money if he stays w/me. please don't say break up w/him, i want a solution.

2007-11-29 16:55:53 · 8 answers · asked by Bitterly Sweet 3

i'm very confused. i love my husband but he doesn't seem to love me as he hasn't cared for me or my daughters. He went into military and forgot us i have had several chances to cheat I really think he has because he went to strip clubs hotel rooms. It was on his bank statement. he is always yelling at me on the phone since he got back into town. He wants me to meet him tonight but i'm afraid because i don't know him anymore. He's been really demanding and mean lately! but i love our daughter and don't want a divorce but i can't be with someone that doesn't love me back? i shouldn't even be talking to him right?

2007-11-29 16:49:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i love him so much!!!!

2007-11-29 15:56:05 · 29 answers · asked by mandie_barker2007 1

2007-11-29 15:36:28 · 32 answers · asked by J girl 1

I wonder if my husband will cheat on me eventually because word on the street is no man can be with just one woman forever...is this true or what?

2007-11-29 15:35:22 · 17 answers · asked by estachicalatina :) 2

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7months. We are both in 30s and we are both divorced with no kids. We both want to get married if our relationship grows and find out if we are right for each other. We don't know if we are right for each other yet but we like each other very much. I introduce him to my family and my parents don't think he is right for me due to uncertainty of financial future of my boyfriend. (He works but he is not financially stable.) My parents expressed their feelings in a nice way and encouraging me to date other potential people. Honestly, I like him very much but what my parents are saying also makes sense. He has been very cautious in our relationship due to past divorce, doesn't open up with me in deep level and it feels he's distant or hegitant to make our relationship go forward. After meeting my parents, he was in shock and now he wants time to think. What does this mean?

2007-11-29 15:22:49 · 39 answers · asked by whattodo898 1

when i talk to someone my crush always gives me quick glances like she is listening to me. she also accidently touched my hand when i was holding a door open. were 18 she is not shy at all but usually completely ignores me i do her to b/c im to nervous

2007-11-29 15:20:39 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

What if it's the reverse?

2007-11-29 15:19:38 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean you are focused and listening and enthusiastically participating and caring about her day?

2007-11-29 15:19:05 · 5 answers · asked by Contemplative 6

My live in boyfriend and I got in an argument today while we were at work. He says that it seems like we aren't even a couple that we are more like roommates. I do a lot around the house while he watches the baby by the time it's time for bed I'm done! Our sex life hasnt been the same since Alejandro came along nearly 11 months ago. He is having a hard time with that, which I dont blame him one bit. I still find my man attractive and sexy and the times we do get naughty I totally enjoy it but its hard to bring myself to do it. So he must have been holding this in and finally let it out this morning. He even told me that I should talk to my mom about moving back in with her. That is not what I want. He thinks he knows what I feel which he doesnt only I know how I feel. I love him, I love my home, I love our son!!!!! Should I go home now and talk? I'm still upset though and Im sure he is too... I'm scared. I dont know what to do!!!!

I just wanna cry and hide...

2007-11-29 15:13:23 · 16 answers · asked by 90304 4

My ex and i we had an excellen relationship in the beginning. The most expensive restaurants, clothes, cell phones, were some of the things that he made sure i was accustomed to. But it wasnt about that. Our sexual chemistry was amazing. If we weren't at work we were together. Anyway we got pregnant and then he and i couldn't get along. Turns out he was cheating. when we were able to talk with yelling he finally admitted that he messed up what we had because he was afraid about the baby situation. but he never hesitated to by everything the baby needed broken up or not. we tried it again and it didnt work out. but we still are friends. he has his own home but he pays half my rent, all of the utilities, takes our baby to school every morning, takes me to work if i need him to. comes to kill spiders in the middle of the night, still gets me christmas gifts,renewed our phone contract so he still pays my cell bill. but he still cheated and left me while pregnant?wuzup wit him?

2007-11-29 15:13:21 · 5 answers · asked by cupcake26 4

going out one year with this guy 10 years older than me and who really do love me(i have been through a lot of things)..last night, he went to a collegue's leaving drinks and i jointed him around 9pm. my boy is the cute one in all but he is more a comedian type (i evidenced that he wasnt flirting with any girls) and he was texting me all the time until i joint him. the drinks gets heavier, there are two single girls (mid-30s) not attractive at all but who deperate seeking for intimacy (touch, cuddles) with whatever men possible. they appeared over touchy with a married guy friend of us too. at the end of the night, my bf was really really pissed, and went to say goodbye (i was in 5 meter away). one of the girls got the chance sitting on his legs and holding his head and kissing his face for 5 seconds, my bf was too drunk to react immediately seems, and he was calling me for help and telling her my gf was here.(he doesnt know neither of the women)..i was extremely unhappy. ..

2007-11-29 15:08:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is there some hidden majic in those ankles? LOL!

Wait its her sent, huh shes not allowed to wear perfume so what are you smelling?
BAD SEED!

You think thats crazy, well go look around man! Lol!

2007-11-29 15:04:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Right now my ex-wife is living with me in a small rental apartment. She didn't have a job so I allowed her to stay here while she continued her education. She has a boyfriend and sometimes she stays the weekend with him but most of the time she sleeps in her bed beside my bed in my apartment. Now she's got a great accounting job that makes twice the money that I'm making and she's now buying her own food and paying for her own expenses but she still lives here with me. I'm moving into a nice 3-bedroom rental house and she wants to move in with me and she insists that she pays half the rent on this house. I asked what about her boyfriend? What does he think about her still living with me? She says "him, who cares!"
So its not money that she's after, its not financial support that she wants. We're not having sex so its not that either. So why does she keep wanting to stay close to me?
She told me when I get a new girl then she'll leave, until then she's my roommate. What gives?

2007-11-29 15:00:10 · 17 answers · asked by honesty_counts 1

I'll start it off:

Taking that first cut into a fresh piece of construction paper.

2007-11-29 14:57:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

The thing is I work with him and he gives me attention back and I can tell that he likes me too but I really don't want this to escalade any further.
I feel very guilty, but with each passing day I find myself more and more attracted to him.

aside from finding a new job, what else can I do ??

2007-11-29 14:56:22 · 17 answers · asked by Mariana 2

I am happy with my wife, but here lately we are having problems!!!!! She is having alot of problems with work at the time, and I can't seem too make her happy no matter what I try, any advice??????

2007-11-29 14:36:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I guess i have feelings for someone who does not have feelings for me. We are basically friends with benefits, havent had a discussion, but his actions are doing the talking. He will only contact me on friday or sat around 8...he'll maybe contact me once during the week, but mostly i dont hear from him during the week just weekends. He lives about 30 min away. I always go to see him. I prefer going to see him, but it's like, hmm he isnt putting any effort into things with me. However, he is always the one who contacts me, i just wont put myself out there really to be the first to initiate. Not sure what to do. My gut is i wont hear from him this weekend since we hung out the past 2 weekends. Also, he just had a baby (not with the mother, bad story) so he said he cant have anything serious bc of that. UNderstood, but he could contact me more than once a week.

2007-11-29 14:35:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-29 14:29:27 · 22 answers · asked by jeff b 4

Since my mom died and can not participate in my marriage, I dont fee like getting married at all. I want to spend my life without wife and kids.Is my thinking okay?

2007-11-29 14:27:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my dad very much...But I dont think he loves me.

He recently moved to San Antonio Texas where he is living with his current girlfriend. I dont like her.

I think he is going to marry her...

But...My parents have been divorced since I was 7. It was very difficult. But it is more so now that I am older because I understand it all now.

He left. He didnt want the responsibilty of having children or a wife. So he cheated on my mom and left.

I know that he doesnt love me...what kind of father lives 1,463 miles away from his children and family?

He calls everyday...and tells me he loves me. But I dont believe him.

Because of him, I dont have a regular life. No daddy to cry on. No daddy for my little brother...

Do I need like a theripist or something?

What did I do wrong?

2007-11-29 14:26:43 · 10 answers · asked by Summer 2

and how long do i have to file an appeal / defense? can i file for a restitution of conjugal rights after the petition for divorce has been put into court ??

2007-11-29 14:25:32 · 10 answers · asked by lordmade 1

should I tell my husband his brother said that my husband would not believe me and I'm really hurt inside what should I do about this

2007-11-29 14:24:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

No inappropriate answers please!

2007-11-29 14:23:06 · 8 answers · asked by mommy2mymonkeys 2

experience of all of it? What kind of emotions and feelings did you have?

2007-11-29 14:15:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wif is divorcing me she says she loves me and cares alot about me. we are seperated right now, she was going to get me a apt in her name , and buy a car from my sister for me. we have two kids. me and my wife fight all the time on the phone, she starts it all the time. she always says things like i was unhappy for 6 months, then say 6 yaers, 10 years now 14 years. we been married for 10 years known eachother for 14.then she says i am controling u get mad when i go out. i tell her i dont mind if you go out i just want you to call me if your running late or to drunk to drive i dont want the cops to call and tell me something happen to you. she blames me for my 9 year old son getting made at her when i bring him back home. i was like that when i was his age hated going from parent to parent. what is she thinking is she very confused about divorcing me it sounds like she does not want to i think she still loves me. she will be 30 soon and only been with eachother

2007-11-29 14:14:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently went to home country with my husband for 4 months. My relationship changed with my husband there. He totally ignored me over his family there. I felt emotionally bad. So later when I went to stay at my relatives, I went to Pubs and found someone who I got carried away with and cheated on my husband 3 times. At that time I had no regrets but now after 4 months I feel very bad and curse myself. I dont know how can I turn back and undo it. If he was good with me, this would have never happend. Now we got seperated because of other issues between us. But still I feel bad that I was not on straight path and went ashtray. Please tell me how do I make myself feel better on this and stop thinking that I have fallen in my own eyes.

2007-11-29 14:12:42 · 10 answers · asked by Lilsasha 2

for getting dated by a matured wealthy women pls give some tips

2007-11-29 14:08:54 · 9 answers · asked by ajay hyderabadi 1

What would you change about them? And what do you think they would change about you?

Mine would be....he falls asleep on the couch EVERY night...we never make love @ night because we never go to bed at the same time. If it were up to me, he'd never conk out on the couch again!

I think he'd want me to not worry about the small stuff as much, and learn to go with the flow more.

2007-11-29 14:05:49 · 5 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

I am still young, 23, I have poured myself into my jobfor the last couple of years. I have transfered from the small town that I used to live in to the city. I was only concerned with moving up in the company that I worked for, so I poured my life into this, now that I have earned a respectable position I look back at the past 5 years and I dont have much to show for it.

When I left my home town, I left everything, friends family, girlfriends. Now that I have finally settled into my carrer I realise now that I dont really have friends, I shut myself off emotionally, not letting anyone in.

I am having a problem with opening myself up again, I was wondering if anyone was in a similar situation as me, and might have some advice on what I should do now. At the rate I am going I am doomed to die alone.

2007-11-29 14:02:11 · 6 answers · asked by Chris 2