I am still young, 23, I have poured myself into my jobfor the last couple of years. I have transfered from the small town that I used to live in to the city. I was only concerned with moving up in the company that I worked for, so I poured my life into this, now that I have earned a respectable position I look back at the past 5 years and I dont have much to show for it.
When I left my home town, I left everything, friends family, girlfriends. Now that I have finally settled into my carrer I realise now that I dont really have friends, I shut myself off emotionally, not letting anyone in.
I am having a problem with opening myself up again, I was wondering if anyone was in a similar situation as me, and might have some advice on what I should do now. At the rate I am going I am doomed to die alone.
2007-11-29 14:02:11 · 6 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Relax. It is not as bad as it seems like it is inside your head.
Try volunteer work. Seriously. Donate your time and a bit of your soul to those less fortunate than you. You will see in time just what you have been missing.
Good luck.
2007-11-29 14:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk nonsence, if one wants to get ahead, you did it at the right time. And you'll realize that down the road. OK, you have a little regret, your making mountains out of mole hills, 40 or 50, now that would be real regret. I know what it's like to shut down emotionally. If you need help join a couple of groups, take up some hobby's or classes evenings for fun and relaxation. Become a Big Brother, it will only cost you 4 hours a week, to spend with some fatherless boy, twice a month the organization has locations for sports and things where you and the child, meet and spend the evening with other Big Brother's and their "little brother's" to do things together, then they also set up outings, dinners, picnics, parties, for traditional holidays and events. At the traditional events you'll also meet up with Big Sister's and their "little sister's too, it will help you to meet a whole lot of other ppl, who sponser and hold the events too. And you'll be doing yourself and some kid a world of good. Do you ever contact home? Get back in touch with some old friends, there's a site called Classmates.com that cover everywhere in USA and Canada. It's easy because other's are already there looking to get in touch with classmates they've known from grade school up. I was stunned by some of the ppl who got in touch with me. Check it out, can't do any harm and it's a step in the right direction, you also don't feel so threatened over the net. It's not really so hard to get back into flow, one step at a time is all. You just need to get active in something out side of work, you'd be surprised how many ppl are in your position. Having a social life doesn't come as easy to a lot of ppl as one thinks, especially in this day and age. Remember the grass only looks greener over on the other side.
2007-11-29 23:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just loosen up, don't worry about it. take your time start back talking to people. you are still young don't start thinking all ahead, because friends and relationships is not something that you can plan ahead for like you did for your career. just start going out. it is a good time now, maybe your company has a Christmas party or new years party use that to socialize and take advantage of every little mixer you hear so that you can get your feet wet. don't go to the first party thinking your going to find you new best friend and or you future wife. this can happen but don't expect anything that way you won't be disappointed and give up. Good luck. remember nothing bests a failure but a try. :-)
2007-11-29 22:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that in grad school. When I finished and came to the big city, I felt just like you do. I loved to play bridge. So I joined 2 bridge clubs. Met and made many friends instantly. What do you like to do? Join a group or take a class (It doesn't have to be a full semester course, just park district or interest group) cooking, grilling, fishing, art, sports. You have to get your butt out there. No one is going to come knocking on your door.
2007-11-29 23:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh to be 23 again!
Go have a beer or two and strike up a conversation with a complete stranger or 2. Before you know it, you'll have something called friends.
2007-11-29 22:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there pal,.....life is just beginning for you,.....you work hard, you will meet a lot of people as life goes on,.....
2007-11-30 00:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋