Since my mom died and can not participate in my marriage, I dont fee like getting married at all. I want to spend my life without wife and kids.Is my thinking okay?
2007-11-29 14:27:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
whatever works for you, is right for you. don't ask others this question because in the end, only you know what will make you happy.
2007-11-29 14:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by freebird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your going through mourning. loosing someone so close to your heart can make you feel like you want to close yourself off to the world or get too close to anyone that could possibly hurt you or leave you (ie. a family). its natural to feel the urge to push emotions and people away and not get to close once you have been hurt. i think deep down you will regret never letting anyone in because think of all the fun you and your mum had over the years the ups and downs and think of it this way, would you rather have known your mum and spent that time with her or not even had her at all? i'll bet you dont regret the time you both had.
dont push people away or stop people from getting close to you or you will let the perfect girl slip away and regret it.
if you are really struggling you can always see a counsellor or shrink and just talk it out, might help!
Im sorry for your loss.
2007-11-29 14:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You really need to search your soul and be honest with your fiancee' because until you call it off, she still is!! I can assure you that this will break her heart but if she really loves you she will appreciate your honesty and be there for you if you allow her to be. Seriously I think you may need to speak with a counselor and get some things out that you can't discuss at this forum....advise your fiancee and just take it one day at time.
Please pray daily and ask God to guide you!! I also want to add that I am sure you mom would want you to fill the void that you are feeling after the loss of her. Stay focused! Keep your eye on the prize!!!
2007-11-29 14:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable how your feeling, and Im sorry for your loss. However, dont you think that your mother would still want you to fulfill your dreams? She may not be with you physically but you have her memories with you forever. She will always be with you in spirit. Dont not get married and have children, down the road you might regret it.
2007-11-29 14:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by xoangeleyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are just a little depressed . it's normal to feel that way. just let your fiance know how you feel and if she/he truly love you then she/he will understand. just remember after about six months you still feel this way then let the relationship go because you would be, being selfish to expect that person to wait a really long time and you may not ever want to get married again.
2007-11-29 14:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like your still in allot of pain,sorry for that loss it was the hardest thing I've ever went through.its tuff to see a future without someone so important in your life.but that just the point your life.your still alive and if she would be here she would want you to marry and have kids and know the only greater thing then the child's love to a mother is a father love to his child.
2007-11-29 14:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by ldhotlipps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about the lose of your mother. Try to look at it from your mothers view point. She would want her son to be happy and raise a family. I think once you get past grieving for your loss, you'll be able to go forward. Good luck!
2007-11-29 14:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by michael w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First mourn the loss of your mother properly. YOu can make grand life decisions later down the road. If you choose to be single, fine. One should not preclude the other however....they are separate.
2007-11-29 15:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think your are just sad right now, but you don't want to be lonely and grow old all alone. That would be a very sad life not knowing what you could of had.
2007-11-29 14:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by zoey1176 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is stupid to place that on your dead mother. If this is your feeling shortly after your mother's passing, then it is ok to feel that way. But your mother would not want you to give up a wife and child because she can't be there for it.
You need to make your decision on having a wife and children based on your feelings for a woman, not on your mother or lack thereof.
2007-11-29 14:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound depressed. Think of it this way - would your mom want you to spend the rest of your life alone? Probably not.
2007-11-29 14:57:07 · answer #11 · answered by monicanena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋