Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7months. We are both in 30s and we are both divorced with no kids. We both want to get married if our relationship grows and find out if we are right for each other. We don't know if we are right for each other yet but we like each other very much. I introduce him to my family and my parents don't think he is right for me due to uncertainty of financial future of my boyfriend. (He works but he is not financially stable.) My parents expressed their feelings in a nice way and encouraging me to date other potential people. Honestly, I like him very much but what my parents are saying also makes sense. He has been very cautious in our relationship due to past divorce, doesn't open up with me in deep level and it feels he's distant or hegitant to make our relationship go forward. After meeting my parents, he was in shock and now he wants time to think. What does this mean?
2007-11-29 15:22:49 · 39 answers · asked by whattodo898 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does this mean he doesn't like me enough to fight for our relationship or he wants to really evaluate our relationship to go to deeper level?
2007-11-29 15:23:06 · update #1
It means he needs to think about the relationship, think about where things stand, where things may be going, how he feels about it all. I know where he's coming from.
2007-11-29 15:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by Spartacus! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whattodo,
He is just asking out loud for time to do the same thing that you are doing now that your parents have given you their gentle opinion. You like him very much, but you have doubts as to the potential for your relationship.
Give him some time if that s iwhat he wants. Define if "time to think" means dating other people or not. If it does, listen to your parents and explore your options. If not, give some time but ask for a time in the near future when you can sit down and tackle whether or not and how to continue.
Lastly, try not to worry about what he's thinking so much. Especially when you still need to invest some more time in deciding what you want. You're not waiting for him to decide for you...are you? Wink!
You will do great and make the right decision for you. If you know you need more than he can provide; be kind, but move on!
2007-11-29 15:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Macy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When men say that...Really..THEY MEAN "I DONT THINK SO" or "I LIKE U BUT NOT LIKE THAT" Hes trying to tell u in a nice way that he doesnt want the relationship. I would move on instead of trying to make it work because 10yrs. down the road you will end up in divorce again. Take your parents advice and date around some more...you'll find the right one and when you do you will know it and so will he...Good luck!
2007-11-29 15:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, we all have doubts. You're having doubts too based on what your parents commented on about his earning potential. His needing time to think is just that--needing time to think. There is no way to know if he's swaying one way more than the other based on the information you gave. Of course you're both going to want to be cautious after divorce. Like I said, you're even doubting the relationship because of his earning potential. Let him have this time to go through his doubts as well. If you're both gun shy about getting into another relationship, vow that you will give the other person as much time as he/she needs.
2007-11-29 15:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus..it will help a lot. There is a section about men and their "caves." You may also want to check out Mars and Venus on a Date. It discusses the 5 stages of the dating process.
2007-11-29 16:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by sexy law chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said he is in SHOCK!
he probably got a reality check and now he needs time to think of the best decision that will not mess up both of your lives.
of course he likes you.
he probably just wants to make sure he won't run into a dead end once you guys are married.
try to talk to him, that's the best solution. see what his troubles are. Help him get through those problems if you can and if you really love him.
you love him or you like him?
not sure?
2007-11-29 15:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just doesn't seem ready to go through with this relationship completely and full-heartedly.
I'm sure you are a gem. Concentrate on other avenues. Meet more promising guys and move on
2007-11-29 15:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he definitely wants to back off.. he might not think this relationship is gonna work. kinda sounds like it. hard to tell for sure though. maybe your parents had something to do with it. is your dad the type to pull him off to the side and threaten him in any way? if so, then that sounds highly possible. especially if your parents don't think he's right for you.
2007-11-29 15:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Felix Arcanus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it could mean a lot of things. It could mean he wants to explore more girls that are out there or that he just need a break in order to come back with a deeper relationship. This is not one of those things that is black and white.
2007-11-29 15:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by Furman 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pretty much he means exactly what he says...He needs time to think about if this is what he really wants. Give him that time, don't pressure him because he might not even be the one for you, and then again he just might be. Give him space and during that time, think about what YOU want too.
2007-11-29 15:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋