What if it's the reverse?
2007-11-29 15:19:38 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, absolutely, because i don't want them going around in the world with unsatisfied needs. yes, the reverse works.
however, you may find that you might not be 'in the mood' right now but if you start slow dancing and cuddling and kissing and touching you will start to feel differently. i give it that chance and it pretty much always works to get me in the mood. just start doing the things that get you excited and see how you feel.
2007-11-29 15:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sufi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your use of the word "service" implies that it's a job. One should derive pleasure not only from receiving pleasure but also from giving pleasure.
If you are truly not "in the mood", it's unlikely that your partner will not appreciate your "servicing" him or her, because it will seem like an insincere obligation and probably feel that way as well, but, depending on how your partner got in the mood themselves (did you do something to get them aroused?), it may be possible to "fake it", giving your partner the pleasure without them knowing that it wasn't genuinely good for you too.
I personally think partners should work for mutual benefit. An occasional time of not feeling in the mood is not likely a problem, but if you are never in the mood, you probably have the wrong partner.
Short answer is yes you should, because it's nice to make others feel good.
2007-11-29 15:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by chowbiz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually, I'm not in the mood. I do it anyway, for the most part. We have it kind of set that we have our night, sometimes that gets postponed for one reason or another. If it's not that night he hears no a lot, but then he asks everyday at least half a dozen times, or more.
If I'm in the mood and he's not, it's a rarity, I would understand and be okay with it. After I've told him no so many times I have no right to get mad when he doesn't feel like it.
)o( Blessed Be!
2007-11-29 16:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by whillow95 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot think of of a time when I see my partner that I am not in the mood. But if I was not in the mood I would as you say "service" him. I don't like the word but I understand what you are saying. I would do it because I love him very much and if he needs it or wants it, I want to give it to him. I enjoy pleasing him as much as I enjoy getting pleased. I want and do take care of his needs and he takes care of mine. That and communication and we have a happy relationship.
2007-11-29 15:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by rene1695 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that my partner is my husband....yes and no. It becomes routine most of the time, BUT..holy crap! when it's not (like 3 days ago), there is nothing better than servicing and being serviced in return! There really is something special about being pleasured by someone who knows everything there is to know about you...there is no feeling shy or unsure. love is what it is...pleasure given and pleasure recieved.
2007-11-29 15:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Flying Pig a.k.a The Fat Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I don't agree with the term "service" your partner. I believe if you are in a intimate relationship I hope that you both are in love. In love, I believe its a give and take situation. It takes sacrifice and giving and receiving. Communication is very important, so if your not in the mood, express that in the most kind and gentle way as possible, and if the person truly loves you hopefully she will understand.
2007-11-29 15:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by wicked_clown_1975 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I do...and sometimes that gets me into the mood as well! But if it doesn't, then I don't expect anything in return. If I'm in the mood but he's not, I don't let him know. I just take care of business by myself. Why? Because I fear that he'd think I'm a total slut if I wanted too much sex! *LOL*
2007-11-29 15:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Sometimes I'll assist him with his needs in one way or another even if I'm not in the mood. But I do it because I want to, not to make him go away or to 'get it over with'. I do it because I understand he has needs and he respects me enough to take no for an answer if that's what I want.
2007-11-29 15:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah! If you take the time to think about it, mood or no mood, you know it's gonna be good. Often times, it's better than good! Try it, you'll like it.
2007-11-29 15:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by Track1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i do service him if i'm not in the mood and he is always in the mood so i don't really have to worry about the return
2007-11-29 15:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋