2007-11-29 15:36:28 · 32 answers · asked by J girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife never pushed the marriage thing. She let things happen and allowed my feelings to grown without pressure. She also did a few things that really made me love her - the way she was when spending time with family - so caring, I knew she'd be a great mom. She would go hiking, fishing, hunting, anything with me - her willingness to try new things appealed to me, because i like being adventurous. She never told me what type or kind of ring she wanted, she let me find the one I pictured on her. She allowed me to have time with my friends and took time with hers - it is important to have your own lives outside the relationship. We were at dinner one night and I realised for the first time in my life I wasn't peeking around the menu to check out some other chick...I knew I had to marry her.
2007-11-29 16:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by The Diggity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well after 6 1/2 years he finally popped the question. I think in my case though, it was what I had to say:
"Hey babe, if after 6 1/2 years you don't know if you want to marry me, then your wasting my time.... I'm 23 and ready to settle down and start a family, I'd love to do with you, but if you don't feel the same I need to know"
Shortly there after he asked..... How romantic uh? haha
He told me though, it wasn't a matter of knowing rather he wanted to or not, he knew he did, he just hadn't wanted to get married until HE KNEW he could provide for his wife and family the way he wanted to (Which meant better than his father did)... And I was like, well just b/c you ask me to get married doesn't mean we go get married right then. We can have a engagement of months or years, all that we are doing when you ask me to marry you is promising that one day we will marry each other and we agree to that until that day comes. He said well I never saw it that way. When he was fincially ready and comfortable we got married!
2007-11-29 15:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by mzfshonble05 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well we were living together for 3 years and he always told me I was the women he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. He asked me and I said yes and now it has been 9 years together 6 married.
2007-11-29 15:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I married my wife, I new I loved her because I loved being around her and thought about her when I wasn't. We also lived in separate towns (3 hours apart) and I wanted her to be with me a lot more often.
Even though I though I loved her, I still wasn't completely sure because it was such a big decision. So I prayed. I prayed and asked God to be in my life and guide me and help me to do the right thing, with the right thing being what God wanted me to do, ended it in Jesus name Amen.
Then next day I asked her and she said yes. Almost 15 years later, we are still married and I still lover her.
2007-11-29 15:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Big D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well oddly enough we had so much in common with our backgrounds...
We both had been married and divorced twice before, had a child by our second spouse, had worked at the same job, had the same likes in food, music and traveling..
We went out on our first date, we bashed our ex-spouses and had a blast...
We are still together 16 years later and that's counting all the dating years and married years...
2007-11-29 15:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, it's having your own life and not being dependent on them. Have your own interests and hobbies and if you have a job, do well at it, or if not, go to school and take classes. Do something for yourself and don't revolve your world around them. Having said that, of course, being involved with each other is very important and taking interest in each other's lives, but not to the point where you lose yourself.
2007-11-29 15:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Male perspective: Common likes, interested in your thoughts, cares about you, wants to make you happy, when you do things together the bad times are not as bad and the good times are better....and trust
2007-11-29 15:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by midlifecrisis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it was that she could talk to me about anything. That and a REAL sense of humor. I look for honesty and the ability to laugh at anything. Including herself or me.
It has to be someone I am comfortable with. Lust and sexiness are really important, but when it comes down to it, the ability to laugh and communicate are the deal-winners for me.
2007-11-29 15:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by tallcowboy0614 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love, is the obvious reason. But, we NO KIDDING fell in love in 8th grade. We married each other 11 years later.
2007-11-29 15:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honesty!
2007-11-29 15:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋