Marriage & Divorce - 29 November 2007

We have been married 17 years and we have 3 kids and they don't care if we are together or not. How do I make the move to end it?

2007-11-29 04:29:20 · 22 answers · asked by Delilah 1

Tell me please, but why do women or men go back to their spouse after they found out they have had an affair, and what would you do, stay or go?

2007-11-29 04:28:08 · 6 answers · asked by ? 7

I went for an evening meal at the local pub with my partner and daughter. My child and I decided to have a pudding so ordered them. My partner then informed me he was going home, as we would take ages eating the desserts.(so he left us in the pub) I find his behaviour rude and anti sociable but he doesn’t see any wrong in leaving as he wasn’t having a pudding and would be bored waiting.

How would you feel if your partner did this to you or am I over reacting? I haven’t kicked up a fuss about him leaving but it is playing on my mind.

2007-11-29 04:26:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been separated from my soon to be ex-husband for 2 years. The reason we broke up was because his family intruded in our relationship too much on top of that we were immature. We married at 18 and had our daughter at 19. He has moved out of state and is coming back for Christamas. We tried to get back together a couple times but he didnt want to move back and I didnt want to move out of state. This whole time I kept telling him to get divorced if we were not going to make it work. He always says "Wait until I am there". I have finally told him I cant be playing this lil game so I am going to file for divorce He told me he doesnt want to. I still love him and want to know if I should talk to him about getting together again or should I file for divorce??

2007-11-29 04:24:38 · 9 answers · asked by chikis01162001 1

attention span?

2007-11-29 04:23:25 · 9 answers · asked by Sweet Judy 7

I have wanted to get back with my ex girlfriend for awhile, she ended the relationship due to lack of attention and that she felt last in my life. Well for like the first 2 weeks i did the typical stupid crap, begging for one more chance I'd never do it again type stuff, calling her and texting her. Well I finally backed off and said here have your space, since then she's calling me everyday, and texting me everday. Then asks stupid ?'s like "Does me calling you lead you on into thinking we'll get back together" Then Tuesday night I said if she wanted me to approach it as it wont happen again we should take a break. Last night she still sent me a text message asking how did i do on a college exam. Today she's already called me sent me 2 e-mails, a text message saying I had e-mail after I didnt respond. Asks me another dumb ? " Would us going to lunch do the same thing as us talking everyday" All my friends think she's coming back but just being stupid about it. She's driving me insane.

2007-11-29 04:18:16 · 23 answers · asked by Advice 4

be on top when we have sex.

The reason is because one day when we were having sex, I asked her if she will "ride" me. She got offended by me saying this slang term and I ended up getting blue balls that night. She then asked me if my ex "rided" me and I just got silent. To this day, she will not go on top of me. She will even joke about how she will not "ride" me.

She has had a life history of depression and is very insecure. She is on prozac right now but that doesn't help because prozac reduces her sex drive to practically zero. We are currently in marital counseling, but this is not something I want to bring up to our therapist.

I need her to "ride" me again because it is something that makes me go nuts. We have sex almost every day and we do every other position. This is something I need. I don't know if I should bring this up to her or not. Maybe I should just bring this up. It's not like asking for the back door... but I'm still scared of her response.

2007-11-29 04:17:54 · 17 answers · asked by Dr S 4

ive been married now for 5 months i am 23 and i have a 7 year old son whom i love with all my heart. my husband works 75 to 85 houres a week and my son never gets to see him(stepfather)and neither do i.some times i feel so lonly.it really bothers me because he gets paid salary for a 45 hour week.because of this stress on our relationship when we do talk we argue.he did not work this much before we got married and i know he is not cheating.but he always chooses work over us even when he has the option.we miss him.when i talk to him about it he says im attacking him.this will never change because he is opening his own place.is it worth staying together and just missing him all the time?

2007-11-29 04:13:52 · 24 answers · asked by lisa l 2

for a whole year and the fiancee has NO CLUE, and the other woman keeps letting him over just for sex because that's all she was to the man in the first place, and then the man comes back to his family (fiancee and 2 kids), doesn't that make the other woman look stupid???????? especially since the other woman wants him to leave his family for her and marry her and be a father to her 3 children who have different fathers and she has no clue who the fathers are? give me your honest opinion please!

2007-11-29 04:08:21 · 31 answers · asked by God Bless America!~ 4

he says he stayed home to spend time with his wife. i havent seen him in 2 hours.

did he just want to lay out of work?

2007-11-29 03:56:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have looked up for this information, as my husband does have a small scrotum, but is highly sexual and is a man in every way, just sterile. He will not go to the doctors because of the sheer embarrassement.

I just wonder if there are other chaps out there that have the same problem

2007-11-29 03:51:02 · 4 answers · asked by Suzanne lily of the valley 7

I'm hosting a Mary Kay cosmetics party at my house this weekend and I wanted my husband to be there, but his friend had extra tickets for the Steelers game on Sunday and invited him, and my husband wants to go. We live 3 hours away from Pittsburgh and they will be leaving on the Saturday and staying at a hotel. I asked my husband to not go because I wanted him at the party, but he said that he really wants to go because he hasn't been to a game in a long time.

I'm really mad that he is done this and I don't know what to do. Do I have a right to be mad?

2007-11-29 03:37:53 · 34 answers · asked by Ruby Girl 2

2007-11-29 03:28:15 · 22 answers · asked by erom 1

What is everyone's take on hiring a cleaning service if both people in the house work full time jobs. How much should you pay? how often should they come? Why do men feel like they are doing thier wife a favor by letting them get one when we get them so they can do the share of his work he doesn't do?

2007-11-29 03:27:07 · 4 answers · asked by Nicole B 2

Has anyone looked back at your marriage after you divorced and regretted that you didn't try harder?
My husband wants a divorce and I don't. I told him I was willing to do anything to make things work, but he told me that in his mind and heart, he has already moved on. He has a lot of resentment for me, and I have some for him, but I was willing to let it go and go to counseling etc, and do anything to make it work. The only problem is that I have tried my best and pushed myself to do all I can do to save the marriage but he never did anything to contribute. I am so scared that in a year or two I am going to regret not fighting harder. Not only that, I am 24 yrs old and am to the point where afterwards, I don't want to date or meet anyone new because my heart is still with my husband.
Has anyone else felt this way or regretted it?

2007-11-29 03:23:58 · 20 answers · asked by moon&stars 3

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 months and she left on vacation on Tuesday. She sent me a text message on Wednesday and I replied back and I haven't gotten a response. It has been over 24 hours now and I haven't gotten anything back from her. I am in Italy and she is now in Jamaica. Should I be concerned? She has me nervous now.

2007-11-29 03:20:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi, we are in the proccess of bankrupcy because my husband loss his job, he used to make really good money so we got behind and spent a lot of our sabving paying bills, now everyday i got people from the bank & credit card company calling me i usually dont answer but last time I answer i told the person who call me that we are in the process of filling bankrupcy & we already have a lawyer ,she want his phone # .. i didnt have t with me so she want me to call her back with the info.
should i call back?? They would received the letter from our lawyer saying we are in bankuruput in the next 3 weeks. what happen if i dont give them my lawyer contact INF??
o i feel they waisting they time... what do you think?? can this be used against me on court?

2007-11-29 03:17:23 · 7 answers · asked by smith 1

My cousin is marrying this Spring. She has always had a boyfriend and whenever she would get tired of the guy she was with she would find someone else to pretty much 'replace' the other guy for. I'm not saying my cousin is a tramp or anything but as she puts it 'she goes after what she wants'! My family is really concerned this behavior might continue even after she marries in May. Her and her fiance just got engaged last week and have only been dating since July,but she does seem very happy with him and he totally adores her. Do you think she can change her ways since she is now marrying? Or is she just as likely to cheat in her marriage as she was in her relationships?

2007-11-29 03:15:40 · 15 answers · asked by Just Call Me Jenn 4

I'm in my 30's and still can't talk to them about it..................
let it go...........
or confront??

2007-11-29 03:09:12 · 9 answers · asked by Jonesy 3

My wife's mother has done some things that seem questionable to me. Putting all together, I would like your opinion as to whether it all normal behaviour or not. Here are the facts.

1. My wife moved out of her sisters house (mom was/is living there now) to be with me.
2. The mom threatened to take wifes 12 year old away by calling CPS.. no valid reason.
2. The mom accidently called my wife and thought it the other daughter and proceeded to bad mouth and put down my wife (while she listened). ie "she is so stupid"
3. The sister and the mother both tag teamed my wife across various issues.
4. Things settled down, but the the mother inlaw has has said several times " I just watch and listen".
5. Mother in-law came to visit over Thanks giving. Every time I approached my wife when she was alone, the mother would come out of her room.
6. Now mom calls wife for 20/30 mins each day, twice a day. Both times while wifie is in car, leaving and coming back from work.

2007-11-29 03:04:10 · 3 answers · asked by Texas Bound 2

I recently married a guy that I once dated before. We were so happy that the opportunity had presented itself for us to get back together, we over looked the little things. Like, how we both had changed over the years.

Now my husband says that he is lost and he feels trapped. Why? This has affected our relationship. There is no romance at all. That drives me crazy. I asked him what makes his heart skip a beat and he honestly could not answer. I know what excites me and I am willing to work with him, but he seems confused. This is not my ideal of marriage at all. We have talked on several occassions, but he makes no effort to meet me halfway. He makes me feel that he is not attracted to me. We haven't been married long and we're only intimate maybe once a week. That's not right for newlyweds or is it?

2007-11-29 03:03:51 · 13 answers · asked by 4meandu 1

i have a friend in alabama who has been married for 6 years her husband and her are going through a really bad time and she wants a divorce but he has told her that if she leaves he will get her arrested for kidnapping the kids ages 6 and 2 and that he will get temporary custody while she is in jail and she will never see them again, he is also threatening her through other people with basically raping her or forcefully having sex with her, is this right and what can she do to protect herself and the kids.

2007-11-29 02:56:36 · 9 answers · asked by lissa s 1

Hi,

Have you ever married the person you cheated with? How did it work out? Did they cheat again? Did You?

Even if you were single and you cheated with a married person. Did it work out or did they do the same to you?

2007-11-29 02:53:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my ex had a son together when i was 16 i am now 23 and my son is 7 me and my ex are now married to other people and my son goes to his dads every friday and comes home on monday.but he hates it he wants to stay with me he crys on thu night and says he does not want to go his dad is a good dad maby a little tougher as where i am more sensitive to my sons needs.i am worried that he will some day resent me because he has to go.i hate it i wish he could stay with me and only me. but he cant.do situations like this cause children to have any kind of problems?what should i do???

2007-11-29 02:36:20 · 17 answers · asked by lisa l 2

I have 2 kid's from a previous marriage, their biological Dad (My ex husband) is never there for them. He hasn't seen them in over 2 months, his own problem. I am very sad for them but my new husband is the MAN role model and they love him so much. He is not taking their biological dads' place except the "role model" part he is because their biological dad is not there for them like my husband is. One is 7 one is almost 4 years old.

I just found out I'm pregnant with my 3rd child but this one will only be a half sister/half brother for my children. Which i dont care about the "HALF" part there still related. But...Since this one will have my husband as the biological father, will my other 2 kids feel worse or will they accept the baby just as well?

MY husband will not treat them differently he is very good with my kid's, and I wont let him treat my other 2 any different once this baby is here. He is very sweet, he plays with them, and takes care of all of us..

2007-11-29 02:26:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7months. We are both in 30s and we are both divorced with no kids. We both want to get married if our relationship grows and find out if we are right for each other. We don't know if we are right for each other yet but we like each other very much. I introduce him to my family and my parents don't think he is right for me due to uncertainty of financial future of my boyfriend. (He works but he is not financially stable.) My parents expressed their feelings in a nice way and encouraging me to date other potential people. Honestly, I like him very much but what my parents are saying also makes sense. He has been very cautious in our relationship due to past divorce, doesn't open up with me in deep level and it feels he's distant or hegitant to make our relationship go forward. After meeting my parents, he was in shock and now he wants time to think. What does this mean?

2007-11-29 02:23:44 · 22 answers · asked by whattodo898 1

My spouse cheated on me 17 years ago by going out on a date (no sex involved). I forgave, but did not forget - and never let myself fully trust. I have never spoken to the other party. Until...Last week I was approached by the other party who told me that they "felt there was tension between us" (you think?). I am now feeling animosity toward my spouse again - am I wrong in feeling this way?

2007-11-29 02:17:25 · 30 answers · asked by beepbeepwentthecar 2

2007-11-29 02:17:00 · 36 answers · asked by Sara B 1

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have two children of our own (2 and 8 months) and also have his who live with us (13 and 17) I married him full knowing we had custody of his children but I feel that now we've been married a few years, we missed the chance to build a relationship between just the two of us. His children are very dependent on his every need and I feel we have no alone time at all. He works long hours and I feel like a single mom. We no longer sleep together and I'm heart broken. I feel like I don't know who we are or who he is.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to what we could do to improve our relationship? I am 28 and he is 46.

Thanks in advance.

2007-11-29 02:16:20 · 4 answers · asked by schmidtee 4

I'm 22 years old and have been dealing with fighting parents for the past 15 years. My dad has a history of drug use and flirting and my mom always caters to him. Don't get me wrong, we have had good times and I love my parents dearly!! They just never get along. --
About 7 weeks ago, they got in a huge fight and my dad left. He has been gone the whole time except for a few instances where he came home to fight and cuss us both out. He tends to get angry with me as well. There was talk that he was doing major drugs and even having sex with his cousin!! My mom promised me that things would be differend and I have really been there for her. --
To get to my point, yesterday my dad came home outta no where and my mom welcomed him with open arms!!!!! It pissed me off so bad. I have been thru 7 weeks of turmoil and she just welcomes him home!! I know I am 22 years old, but this just bothers me so much.--
ANyone have any advice of what i should do or say to my family??

2007-11-29 02:14:41 · 7 answers · asked by **In Love** 4