My cousin is marrying this Spring. She has always had a boyfriend and whenever she would get tired of the guy she was with she would find someone else to pretty much 'replace' the other guy for. I'm not saying my cousin is a tramp or anything but as she puts it 'she goes after what she wants'! My family is really concerned this behavior might continue even after she marries in May. Her and her fiance just got engaged last week and have only been dating since July,but she does seem very happy with him and he totally adores her. Do you think she can change her ways since she is now marrying? Or is she just as likely to cheat in her marriage as she was in her relationships?
2007-11-29 03:15:40 · 15 answers · asked by Just Call Me Jenn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I hate to call my cousin a tramp because besides the fact that she cheats on every guy she dates,she really is a sweet person! Hard to believe,I know...
2007-11-29 03:24:44 · update #1
What I mean by 'replace' a guy is that she will pretty much be dating two guys at once while deciding who she wants to be with. Thus she's always cheating!
2007-11-29 03:26:25 · update #2
It's in her to cheat again once someone is able to disconnect themselves from the relationship they will go back to there normal routine in your cousins case she will sleep around when she gets bored of her husband. It is very common that most cheaters or players will repeat this behavior time and time again.
Really though maybe ask your cousin if she has told the fiance that she is like this if she has and the fiance doesn't care then just stay out of there business
2007-11-29 03:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who cheated in all her relationships, and met someone she "loved", she cheated when he was in iraq while they were engaged, and as soon as the marriage started to become a real obligation, she cheated again. I think some people are just okay with cheating, they dont really see anything wrong with it. However it doesnt sound like your cousin has a cheating issue, because she breaks up with the one she's cheating on right? Maybe she just has a short attention span.
2007-11-29 11:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by wild's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No degree of pre-maritial happiness and fluff lasts forever. Marriage is tough *** hard work. There will be many days when she will ask herself did she do the right thing by marrying this guy and from her character flaws it sounds like she will cave when that begins to happen...and it will.
She is a person of suspect character and where as you can never say never, she will likely cheat or dumpthe guy and move on.
2007-11-29 11:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by huckleberryjoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you said replace the guy not cheat on him? Anyway I am going to guess that women cheater are no different from men cheaters. I married someone who had cheated on me like a dodo and of course he did it while we were married with someone else. And I had a friend that was like that as well. She would constantly cheat on her men but not break up with them just keep it hidden until they find out and of course she got married and did it then as well.
2007-11-29 11:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think "replacing" a boyfriend is the same as "cheating" on one. So, it seems to me like a better question would be whether or not she is likely to tire of her husband relatively quickly, and then get divorced. She sounds like the type who will go through several marriages.
2007-11-29 11:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people cheat while dating and continues to cheat even when they are married. The thing is, what makes them want to change, years and years later????
2007-11-29 11:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like the perfect candidate for a swinging lifestyle. It would help her get whatever satisfaction she is looking for in others, as well as a new possibilities for her relationship. While this is way off of the normal marriage, it can help partners find a new found appreciation of each other.
2007-11-29 11:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by TMull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll cheat when the going gets tough. What do you mean she's not a tramp? Yes she is.
2007-11-29 11:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by cooter726 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.
However, if while she was dating two guys, each knew she wasn't monogamous, then that's not cheating.
2007-11-29 12:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm not saying my cousin is a tramp or anything but as she puts it 'she goes after what she wants'!"
You can call it anything you want, but she is still a tramp. Yuck, all used up between her legs too...thats just disgusting.
2007-11-29 11:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋