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I'm 22 years old and have been dealing with fighting parents for the past 15 years. My dad has a history of drug use and flirting and my mom always caters to him. Don't get me wrong, we have had good times and I love my parents dearly!! They just never get along. --
About 7 weeks ago, they got in a huge fight and my dad left. He has been gone the whole time except for a few instances where he came home to fight and cuss us both out. He tends to get angry with me as well. There was talk that he was doing major drugs and even having sex with his cousin!! My mom promised me that things would be differend and I have really been there for her. --
To get to my point, yesterday my dad came home outta no where and my mom welcomed him with open arms!!!!! It pissed me off so bad. I have been thru 7 weeks of turmoil and she just welcomes him home!! I know I am 22 years old, but this just bothers me so much.--
ANyone have any advice of what i should do or say to my family??

2007-11-29 02:14:41 · 7 answers · asked by **In Love** 4 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

7 answers

I know how you feel as i had a very similar home life thought not as bad as all this.I know that it's not always financially possible for you to leave and maybe not for your mum either.
I would speak to your mum very clearly tell her that she is not only damaging her own self respect but eroding yours because you are going to pick up the belief that this is all women deserve.That it's perfectly okay to be treated like crap.Luckily you are self aware and realise the mess he has created is not your doing but something your mother has decided to accept as all she deserves.

I know so many times I wanted to tell my mom she was an idiot for putting up with this but feared my fathers reaction,so it's not easy and i know impossible to speak with your dad.It's unlikely that your mom will leave because it appears from so many posts that other women post that they have no self worth.

Get out as soon as you can or close off your room find an area of the house away from it and close them out ,dont partcipate in it until you can leave.

2007-11-29 05:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by rusalka 3 · 1 0

I'm 23 and married so I can see this from both angles. I would just move into your own place. You cant change the way a husband and wife behave and unless one them changes. You can love your family but their disfunction is damaging to you love them from afar until they are stable themselves

2007-11-29 02:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0 0

Time for you to move out.

It is also time for you to reassess your parents relationship in terms which you can apply to your own relationship with a potential spouse later on. Do not get married if you do not trust your future spouse.

2007-11-29 03:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I agree with abc, get out on your own as soon as you can. There's probably nothing you can do or say that's going to change things, but you can change your own situation and remove yourself from the turmoil.

2007-11-29 02:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Yes! Move out and let the drama be between them and not involve you.

2007-11-29 02:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0 0

you need to move out so you can remove yourself from this dysfunction.....work, save, get a roommate.....and make sure you don't pick someone just like your dad and continue the cycle you have lived and learned

2007-11-29 02:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 1 1

Get your own life.

2007-11-29 02:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0 0

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