Has anyone ever regretted divorce?

Question

Has anyone looked back at your marriage after you divorced and regretted that you didn't try harder?
My husband wants a divorce and I don't. I told him I was willing to do anything to make things work, but he told me that in his mind and heart, he has already moved on. He has a lot of resentment for me, and I have some for him, but I was willing to let it go and go to counseling etc, and do anything to make it work. The only problem is that I have tried my best and pushed myself to do all I can do to save the marriage but he never did anything to contribute. I am so scared that in a year or two I am going to regret not fighting harder. Not only that, I am 24 yrs old and am to the point where afterwards, I don't want to date or meet anyone new because my heart is still with my husband.
Has anyone else felt this way or regretted it?

Answer 1

Are you covenant spouses? Is this the first marriage for the both of you? If so, then you need to turn your heart over to God and He will restore your marriage. You have alot of work to do, but if you have faith and keep believing, God will restore your marriage. You need to learn to stand for your marriage. Below are some links to help you.

Please check out Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp. They have a restored marriage after being divorced for about two years. They have a website and send devotionals everyday encouraging men and women to stand for their marriage and their spouse's salvation. Check out their archives.
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php

I highly recommend that you sign up for Doreen's Devotionals called Doreen's Daily Delights.. These are awesome. http://marriagerestorationministries.org/

Here's another website for people standing for their marriages. There is chat every Friday night. http://www.faithandmarriage.com/

Check out Jimmy and Karen Evans. They have a weekly tv show that discusses marriage. Their shows are on the internet that you can watch. Jimmy is excellent. Jimmy gives very practical guides on how to have a successful marriage. http://www.marriagetoday.org/

Also check out this link concerning divorce and remarriage. I think you will be surprised. Many churches are blinded to the truth and even encourage people to divorce. Satan is tearing the church and marriages apart.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce

God Bless!

Answer 2

Kat, I think everyone regrets something but, the truth is you do move on from it...My divorce just became finalized this September and we have two boys together...His current girlfriend has a son with him and I have a baby with my new partner...As hard as it is, we have both been honest with one another and have talked about the "should have" and "what if's" but, what's the point?? Everything happens for a reason and although I didn't see it at the time neither because I was depressed, I am alot more happier now that I have taken control of my life...Theres just so much you can do and it seems like you have...You might not be the one left regretting...It might just be your husband when he realizes he lost probably the best thing that he had in his life and that was YOU....If you continue to dwell on this it will drive you insane...My advice will be to pray on it and leave it alone..If this is what he wants theres nothing you should do to change his mind...He should be the one fighting just as hard to save his marriage....Not just you...You are not the one who decided to leave him he did...I hope you find the peace through all this to move on..You deserve better...

Answer 3

I was in th same situation. I tried everything I can and my ex-wife still wanted to move on. It takes two to make a marriage work, so if the other party has no desire, then it will not work no matter how much you try. you should have no regrets and move on if you believe you did everything you can. The other person will most likely look back and regret that they didn't give it another chance. By that time, hopefully you would have found someone that is more appreciative of the relationship. you are still very young and there are plenty of men more worthy of your love.

Answer 4

i don't regret divorcing my first wife, but she has told me many times she regrets divorcing me.

No one really "wants" to divorce, it hurts. But there is more to regret in a bad bad marriage than there is just closing the book.

Divorce can be worse then death of a spouse. It leaves hope, when there may be none. Rejection and questions, feelings of inadequacy, etc. Good luck

Answer 5

Oh boy! If you're husband is completely unwilling to try to work matters out, then it sounds like you have no other options. Keeping him in the marriage will only make him more bitter towards you and he will begin to stray anyhow. Unfortunately, I would just give him the divorce. Make him pay for the whole thing and file a suit for alimony.

Also, I understand how you. I would not want a divorce either. I would try my best to work things out, but it cannot be done alone. So, if my husband became distant from me, there is not a whole lot I can do about it.

Answer 6

Probably everyone regrets divorce to some degree. Sounds though like you're fighting a losing battle. Let him go, get over him and the marriage and move on. There is someone out there who will want to spend his whole life making you happy. BTW after the divorce get into a good divorce recovery program. Most of the big churches have them. They are wonderful. Good luck!

Answer 7

No. I was divorced at 28 and my husband did me a favor by leaving. Of course I didn't see it that way immediately, it is hard. The best thing to remember is you (just like I was) are very young and have sooooo much ahead of you. Just imagine the opportunities that are out there. After your heart has had time to heal you will find yourself opening up to the idea of loving again. It is hard, it does take time but in the end we are all better people for having endured. Good luck to you in this difficult time.

Answer 8

My parents were getting a divorce. So me, my mom, my brother, and sister moved to my grandma's this summer. Then my brother went to spend thanksgiving with Dad. We went to pick him up after the break, and now my mom is saying she dosen't want the divorce. At first my mom went and saw all her old friends/boyfriends & went on dates with new guys. Now that she want to get back with our dad she's not taking those guy's phone calls and they're calling the house asking for her and it's confusing and irritating forr me. I'm just a kid my my advice is at least try to work it out and you can't force anyone to do anything. If it dosen't work out it isn't meant to be. and i'm sorry

Answer 9

It seems you are pushing an issue that seems to be closed with your husband. It takes two people to make a marriage work. If he is not willing, you need to try to accept that and move on like he has. You are so young too! You have your entire life ahead of you still. Learn from this experience and grow from it. If you know in your heart that you have tried everything to make it work and you are not getting anywhere, then you should be grateful for trying so hard. But honey, it's time to move on.
But to answer your question, I was in the same situation with my 1st one too. I so wanted it to work out. I gave it my all but in the end, she moved on. It was tough trying to get through it, but I surrounded myself with friends and family and moved on. You will too. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 10

i regret getting married to even have to be divorced