Tell me please, but why do women or men go back to their spouse after they found out they have had an affair, and what would you do, stay or go?
2007-11-29 04:28:08 · 6 answers · asked by ? 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love my husband. Plus we have a life together that includes children, a mortgage and all that goes with it. If it was a one time thing, I would more than likely forgive him and move on. If it was a habitual thing, or a long term affair, then I would probably end it. I just can't justify throwing 10 years of my life down the tubes and tearing apart my family if he is sincerely sorry it happened.
It is too easy to say, I would leave, until it happens. That is when it hits you. Just how much your marriage means to not only yourself, but to those around you, including your kids. It's not so easy to throw it away......
2007-11-29 04:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, I am trying to stay and work on it. My wife was the one who cheated recently. I am still looking at the reasons to stay and go. But I want to put forth the effort to make things work. I truly believe she is the love of my life. We talked and she would like to make it work and she understands that trust will be a huge issue for me but she is willing to work to get it back. I do forgive her, but it will be the most difficult thing I have ever had to do. I can only hope and pray for the best.
But I am staying, for the moment, until I figure more things out. But I am also hoping by me staying, they will get worked out. We both love each other and cant imagine our lives without one another. But if for some reason it doesnt work, I will know that we tried our best and I have to be happy with that.
2007-11-29 12:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stayed and our relationship became stronger because of it, but it was hard and a lot of work. I think it depends on the people involved, the circumstances and what the person is willing to do to make up for the loss of trust and rebuilding it....
2007-11-29 12:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would vanish faster than a bullet leaving the barrel of a rifle.
2007-11-29 12:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We have a son....that changes everything and I would do everything I could to make it work. My rule of thumb is the 3 A's....divorce in the instance of...Adultery...Abuse...and Addiction.
2007-11-29 12:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by illinoismommy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go
2007-11-29 12:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋