going out one year with this guy 10 years older than me and who really do love me(i have been through a lot of things)..last night, he went to a collegue's leaving drinks and i jointed him around 9pm. my boy is the cute one in all but he is more a comedian type (i evidenced that he wasnt flirting with any girls) and he was texting me all the time until i joint him. the drinks gets heavier, there are two single girls (mid-30s) not attractive at all but who deperate seeking for intimacy (touch, cuddles) with whatever men possible. they appeared over touchy with a married guy friend of us too. at the end of the night, my bf was really really pissed, and went to say goodbye (i was in 5 meter away). one of the girls got the chance sitting on his legs and holding his head and kissing his face for 5 seconds, my bf was too drunk to react immediately seems, and he was calling me for help and telling her my gf was here.(he doesnt know neither of the women)..i was extremely unhappy. ..
2007-11-29 15:08:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he told me he didnt do anything and he never know that was going to happen,,but i still dont feel right that why would he not pushing her away quickly..and tell her to hand off, why there are so many desperate women needing a touch of man so much??? i couldnt sleep last night, so waked him up few times, he wasnt happy and a bit getting angry with me...he even said that i was stupid that i couldnt see through that no women in this world he would ever interested but me and he would never do anything wrong (i know he mean initiative actions) , but should i just let those b** to kiss my bf and sit on his legs infront of me without to tell them off? i was too polite as respect my bf, but what can i do to punish my bf make sure this wont happen again..(he said he will abandon his friends and never going out again)...
2007-11-29 15:12:49 · update #1
any idea what is a appropreiate punishment for him?
2007-11-29 15:15:33 · update #2
Nothing to forgive, he didnt do anything and why would you punish him for something he had no control over? It was totally innocent get over it and grow up already! How old are you 12?
2007-11-29 15:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Nate R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No need to punish your bf for that. The chick was the one all over him. I think you had the right to stand your ground while you were watching that happen. You could have pushed her off of him. As far as why some women feel the need to do that to men that are taken the reason why is because some women do not give a rats butt about who they are affecting some women are that selfish and i say some because we're not all like that. I sure am not that is just wrong. They also like guys they can't have for the ''thrill'' once again because they don't care.
2007-11-30 00:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive him and punish the girl who gave him the kiss. He seems like a winner but sometimes when something like that happens you really don't know what to do other then blow it off. If he did it when he was sober that would be different but you said that he was pissed and so he probably didn't know how to gracefully get out of that situation. He may have caused a big scene if he had done anything else so he probably handled it as well as could be expected in a situation like that.
2007-11-29 23:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, the drinks were coming, he had nothing to do with it, right? I don't understand why you should forgive or punish him. What did he do, sit in the girl's lap and stick his tongue down her throat? You guys should have left earlier -- it's clear you have some issues with anyone near your man, so you may want to examine your insecurities.
It sounds like he dotted his i's and crossed his t's -- he communicated with you the entire time and announced his girl was there, so what's up? Sounds like you are looking to start a fight with him. Maybe you're bored, I dunno.
It sure sounds from your writing that you're obsessed with ages, him being older than you, and the women being in their 30's. Honestly, who cares?
And it's JOINED not jointed.
2007-11-29 23:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should try the grown up thing and TALK to him. He's not a naughty puppy who peed on the rug. He's an adult! Sheesh. Tell him that what happened upsets you and that you expect in the future he avoids loose women and endulging beyond his own limits!
2007-11-29 23:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by jlrantz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the sucker off the hook...if you'd been by your man he'd never have had a problem...be glad other chicks dig him...means he's not a goof...
2007-11-29 23:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Greg H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be his girlfriend or mommy?
My guess is he wants you to be his girlfriend, not his mommy. So don't punish him. When you make a mistake should he punish you?
The fact is all of us are going to make mistakes.
Good luck mom.
2007-11-29 23:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not him that has the problem. It's you. You're carrying this anger at those women.
I don't know what you can do to work it out of your system.
LD
2007-11-30 08:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
punish him for a few minutes and den forgive him
2007-11-29 23:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs a spankin! Go ahead and punish him.
2007-11-29 23:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mulligan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋